Wednesday, May 8, 2013

How to get through a breakup when you have BPD

I alluded to having discovered The Secret to getting over an ex and getting through a break up. Well it’s not really that easy, but there are a few things that help. In all honesty it’s going to be different for everyone and it’s never going to be "easy". However there are some things that I’ve found work better than others. 


1.      STOP ALL CONTACT. I’m NOT KIDDING. If you keep talking to them, you keep that flame alive. I don’t care if you ended the relationship saying you would be friends. That’s totally cool. The simple fact of the matter is you need time to get over your ex. It’s no longer your job to take care of your ex. You need to take care of you first. Right now that means soothing your own wounds and taking care of your own emotional wounds.


If you told your Ex that you would be friends let them know that you do intend to honor that but for now you need time to heal on your own. Don’t let them pressure you into contact before you are ready.  


They probably need their space too. You need to respect this. This is something that many of us often have problems with. Boundaries. We need to remember them. Leave them alone if they ask you to keep your distance. 


2.      Delete their contact information. E-mail. Facebook information. Phone Number. All of it. You broke up. It’s done. Just take away the temptation. If there’s an actual emergency ask a mutual friend to contact them. Otherwise you don’t need to get in touch with them.


Trust me. There will be temptations. There will be nights of panic, utter anxiety, extreme loneliness, maybe a little drinking, times when the fingers wander over the texting screen…. You will absolutely regret this in the morning. You’ll be embarrassed, feel humiliated, and ashamed by time the sun comes up. Think about this. You don’t want that.


3.      You need your friends. Call them instead. Selectively. Don’t abuse the ears of your loved ones with your pity party though. In the times when it does get bad though, and you do feel like you’re going to make a really bad or embarrassing decision… instead of calling the Ex, call a friend, call a sibling, call a support hot line, hell, come hop on our Forum over here. In times of trouble you need to know you have a support network.


Beyond that… even if you’re not actively weeping over your ex it’s important to have friends. Having a strong support network. Having good friends, knowing you’re not alone, just knowing that you have someone there when you need them, even knowing you have someone there just because… is important, for everyone, just not for those of us with BPD.  It’s important to surround yourself with people you care about. To remind yourself that you’re loved, cared for. Keep yourself busy. Keep yourself involved in positive, life affirming activities.


When you are down, and/or afraid that you might engage in self-harming or impulsive decisions, or need a stronger support to keep yourself in a more stable frame of mind due to the loss that you are suffering from… do not reach for your Ex. They are now a part of your past. Lean on your current, your present, support network. Lean on your friends, your family, your forum.


4.      Self-care is irreplaceable. You will love again. Take time to love yourself right now. Practice positive self-talk and positive self-affirmations. Be kind to yourself.


5.      Take a few days to wallow. Yeah I said it. Don’t try to suck it up and be tough. You’re allowed to experience whatever feelings it is you’re going to feel. Do yourself and your friends a favor though. Do some of it on your own. Having a girl’s/guys night to watch sappy movies and drink wine, especially if they offer, because that’s what friends are for, or if you’re having a particularly hard night – totally cool… but try not to do it every night. It’s okay to be a little selfish and indulge yourself as you work through the initial stages of grief.


You Are Grieving A Loss! It’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to be angry. It’s okay to let it all out.


After a few days… start getting back to your regular schedule. Put a reasonable limit on the wallowing. Don’t let it take over.


6.      Maybe get a cat. Or a puppy. Or a ferret. Maybe a rat. Pour some love into the pets you have. Adopt a little furballs in need of love. They need you. You’d be surprised how therapeutic animals are if you don’t have any. This is a lifetime investment though. Don’t think of it as a temporary measure. And don’t do it if you’re not willing to take care of something for the long haul.


It’s super silly, but NOT AT ALL. I love my cat. I never had a cat before I rescued mine. I great up with giant dogs. My dad was allergic to cats. I rescued mine from some guys with golf clubs when I was in college. He was this tiny starving little stray that was about to get beaten. I rushed out of my apartment, scooped him up, and now it’s 7 years later and I couldn’t imagine my life without him. Relationships have come and gone… my cat has always been there for me. Knowing that I have him to come home to, to curl up with at the end of the day… when I’m frustrated or upset, he’s soothing and snuggly. He makes everything better.


7.      Remove Memory Triggers. Take down the pictures. Wash your pillow cases that smell like him. Toss out that t-shirt of his you like to wear around. These things will only remind you of your Ex every single time you look at the damn thing. You really don’t want that. You know it. You don’t necessarily have to throw out every single expensive piece of jewelry, but put it away. Don’t put it where you can see it all the time.


8.      Keep Busy! Stay Active. Don’t sit in your room with only your thoughts for company. You know you’ve done it. We tend to mire ourselves in the darkness of our own deep dark depressing minds closed off from the rest of the world. You know who that’s going to help? No one. Get the hell out of there. Grab a friend. Grab yourself. Get a hobby. Just get out and go do something.


9.      Write down the things you are grateful for that you do have in your life. That have nothing to do with your Ex. This is to remind you that there are still good things out there for you.


10.  Get back out there. Move on. Date. See that there are other people out there for you. This helps a ton. Don’t do it too quickly though. That can actually make it worse. When you’ve had some time to recover put yourself out there.


For those of you going the “we can be friends” route” with your Ex.


Don’t even bother trying this until you have moved on. Don’t. This is a recipe for a slow burn… a.k.a.. getting back together eventually when you really didn’t want to.  Maybe not right away, but eventually or by accident one drunken night. And that won’t really be good for either of you and will destroy any progress either of you has made toward emotional healing. If you’re serious about being friends do yourself a favor and don’t try to rush it for the sake of rushing it.


Hope these thoughts help a little bit and bring things into perspective. What things help you? 

82 comments:

  1. Excellent points for anyone going through a breakup. Easier said than done. We all know "when the heart breaks it don't break even."

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  2. I've been following some of your recent posts about this person. Just curious how many times have you broken up and got back together with him? What made you want to give this relationship another try? and do you think he's someone you will see again in the future? Very personal questions and I understand if you don't want to answer them. Get well.

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    1. We've only broken up once and gotten back together once. We were together for a year. Apart for about 5 months before we got back together. The relationship still hasn't technically ended. Still getting there. But no, he's not someone i want to see again in the future.

      He's a lovely, caring guy that I'm comfortable with, that I know cares for me, and is a constant figure in my life. He was there for me when I was having a hard time and it just sort of, happened. Our getting back together wasn't planned at all.

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    2. Thanks for answering. I'm curious though if this is because of your bpd because honestly the way you've described this guy he sounds pretty great. From my observation and maybe this is not the case for you, but it seems that people with bpd are more attracted to those people who treat them rather poorly. Do you think this maybe the case for you? I read your history briefly with your evil ex and it sounds like you stayed with him longer? Just throwing this idea out there... any insight would be appreciated.

      Best.

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  3. Thank you for posting this. I am going through it currently, and trying to stay strong and stay gone. He has a tendency to want me back after a week or so. I am so down-in-the-dumps and sleeping all day *sigh* My friends don't like him and never have, so even though the relationship is over, they still don't want to hear about it. So I really have no outlet and don't want to seem like a whiner. What am I to do? In the past I have made myself go out and meet others, but I don't think I'm ready. I mean I am, but I don't want to put someone in a rebound-type situation.

    Anyway, again thanks for posting.

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  4. Haven, I see you are still out here educating the world and I like it. Keep fighting the good fight dear. By the looks of it, there are so many that need to have it. I have been going through some things of my own, but I wanted to simply say hey.

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  5. Thank you for posting this at this timely moment.

    Im also going through a 'break up' with afriend. Ive got about 10 days into it now & Ive stopped the endless crying & an mostly just numb. Ive been keeping busy with my home, children, work, allotment, reading.... That has helped a lot, when I have the energy.

    He told me he had deleted me from Skype but I logged in at work this morning & there he was. I didnt speak & I cant quite bring myself to delete him but Ive hidden him for now. My immediate reaction was tearfulness but it has quickly rolled over into a medium intensity dissociation. Not great at work but better than sitting here crying I suppose.

    The no contact thing is so so hard but I know that it has to be this way. I miss him so bad.

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  6. I would add that this is all after you've actually told the other person it's over, and had some kind of talk. Wouldn't you agree? Seems an important step, one that sometimes doesn't happen (people just stop calling) and then seem surprised when the other person wants to know what's going on. I would've liked there to be something about HOW to break up with someone. It's hard, but it's respectful.

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  7. While some of this is good advice, some is pretty extreme. Is this all really always necessary for every breakup?

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    1. If it wasn't a very emotionally involved relationship, or one that didn't last very long, then no it's definitely not necessary for every break up.

      I would say it's only necessary if it was a very emotional, very intimate, very turbulent push-pull relationship.

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  8. I've read your article and, in theory, I agree with everything you say. But practice is always way more difficult.
    What happens when the grief simply doesn't end? What if you seem to have recovered, but in fact....
    I had the worst breakup of my life 2 years ago, with the guy I knew was the one. It took me a long time, but I found someone else. The perfect man for me. Gentle, kind, loving and any other quality every girl could ever dream of in a man. And yet, I still grieve for HIM... I dream of him, I imagine cancelling my engagement and running off with him, I love him now as much as I ever have. Finding out he has a new girlfriend, the first one he's had during these past 2 years, has left me completely empty, devastated and lifeless, although me and my boyfriend have a happy and functional relationship.
    So how do you get through this? What do you do when getting through that breakup hasn't been as efficient as you initially thought?

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    1. Sometimes two years is not enough. It took me four yeara a couple of times to get over someone. Reasoning with yourself my help. Seeing that for example his feet smelled instead of focusing how good he was or how amazing it was to be togheter. Becouse it wasnt. Our mind play trick on us sometimes and we remeber only good things. If that doesnt help time will. There will be a moment when you may feel just a sentiment but no love, grief or pain that you expierince now as nothing in life last forever

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  9. You sounded like a normal person and you are able to experienced all the feeling and emotions like the rest of us, non BPD.
    I am actually dying to know about your own personal love and break up story.
    How and why did you selected him among others?
    How was the relationship? Was it always about you and never about him?
    Did you even love and care about him at all? Or was he just like a tool that you used to serve your needs; as pillow to cry on, a trash can to upload all your negative feeling onto, your own personal shrink to give you advice, encouragement, and suggestion whenever you need it, etc.?
    Did you blow hot and cold all the time on him? Why?
    Did you even aware that he was a human being that have needs and it was your responsibility to tend to his needs as he did to yours?
    What did you expect from him and the relationship you were in? How did you expect him to behave when you were on one of your bpd spells?
    Do you realize that you were hurting, torture and torment him throughout the relationship?
    Do you know that even after the relationship ended he is still suffering, more than you can imagine?
    How did the relationship end?
    Did you get bored of him?
    Did you toss him aside like a yesterday newspaper?
    Did he break up with you coz he just couldn't take it anymore and instead of deciding to be a better person for him and fight for the relationship, you just gave up on it, blame the break up on him for being not understanding about your condition and tell your self: "oh well, it was a bad relationship anyway..." and then move on?
    Are you able to feel guilty at all?
    Do you actually have any intention of going into relationship with another man and putting another innocent human being into a misery like you did to your ex?

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    1. Wow, it sounds like you’ve already made up your mind about what my last relationship was like and the kind of person I am without having read anything else I’ve written at all. Thanks.

      He picked me. We worked together. When I’m in a relationship I tend to cater to the person I’m dating completely above and beyond whatever I need, completely suppressing my own needs, which can lead to resentment if I forget to speak up. I managed not to do this though because I’ve been in therapy for a long while and have learned to communicate effectively.

      I cared about him a great deal, though it never developed into love. I never let him see the negative aspects of my personality. That’s something I avoided at all costs if possible. He also wasn’t really the type of person I could confide in or go to for advice. I tended to be the one providing the encouragement more than the one needing encouragement.

      I always worked to take care of him, much more so than he did for me. This is typically the pattern in all of my relationships. This is actually one of the reasons we broke up. He was pretty severely negligent of me when he’d drink too much, which was very frequently.

      As far as I could tell I wasn’t hurting, torturing, or tormenting him throughout the relationship. I was in therapy the whole time and our relationship was actually fairly healthy. We had some bumps, but most relationships do. However, he did hurt me.

      I did get quite bored. We didn’t have much in common. I would never toss anyone aside like a newspaper. That’s just mean spirited. I broke up with him in the end, because of some very unfortunate circumstances and his inability to communicate and constructively work on the issues that were coming up between us. I did want to attempt to fix the problems we were having but he preferred to simply avoid them until they went away. This was not effective for healing or how I’ve learned is necessary for living a constructive, non-destructive life. I needed someone that was more mature.

      I always feel guilty, even when I don’t have anything to feel guilty for. I hate seeing people I care about feel bad or sad.

      We’re actually still friends now, months after our relationship and still talk regularly. He’s a decent guy.

      He was never miserable in our relationship. It wasn’t a bad relationship. Our relationship just wasn’t “the one”.

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  10. Hi Haven, I am Sophie.
    I am truly sorry for being a bit harsh on you. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years 2 months ago and totally devastated.

    He was a broken man when I met him. He had a big family problem, just got dumped by his girlfriend and hated his job. Actually, he told me that he hates his life and everybody around him. On top of that, he has a very low self esteem because he dropped out from college 7 years ago and now he is stuck doing the job that he hates (he can't find a better job with his high school diploma only).

    I was a happy, laid back, carefree girl. He was very moody, grumpy most of the time, very introvert and depressed. He also toyed with the idea of suicide but never really braved enough to do the deed. He said that his life is so dark and the world has nothing good to offer him. I was his only candle in his life.

    I loved this guy to bits despite his moodiness. I knew something was wrong from the beginning but couldn't pin point what was it. Not only he was very moody, he was emotionally unavailable most of the time, blowing hot and cold and very distant. Yet he kept professing his undying love to me and expressed his desire to marry me and can be very passionate sometimes. I took a well good care of him, told him what a great guy he is and how much I love him.

    After 1 year, he started to get worse. He blamed me for everything and shut me out completely whenever he was in one of his dark moods. He refused to see me for weeks, gave me a cold shoulder whenever we spoke on the phone and stopped caring about me all together. Still I persevered and endured his behavior silently. Then he started to have angry outbursts on me, yelling, calling me names, and rudely criticized me to no end; telling me that I am too skinny (I am a size 8/38), my hair doesn't look nice, my glasses make me look old and that I started to have wrinkles and fine lines (I am 29 y.o).

    I finally couldn't take it anymore and I broke up with him. I didn't want to break up with him. I did it out of frustration. The strangest thing is he became very happy after the break up. All of his dark moods has miraculously been cured. He is now super friendly with everybody (we work together in the same company), laughing, talking and joking merrily. He wouldn't speak to me or even acknowledge my presence. It's like I am dead to him and those 2 years means nothing to him. Meanwhile, I am totally heart broken and very depressed. I have lost an amount of weight due to lack of sleep and eat. I still love him and miss him like crazy. He told his friend that he has closed that chapter of his life and has deleted my name from his memory. He also said that this break up has put him in the right path and that he is a happier person now. Was he telling the truth? How can he be so callous like that? Doesn't he has a heart? I don't deserve to be treated like this. I don't understand what went wrong ( I know he is not seeing other woman) and I desperately need closure.

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    1. He's just a blatant narcissist. I had a damn near identicle relationship- when he came back into my life after two years, I made sure to take it slow, having analyzed how something so magical could go so wrong. In that reunited month not only did he reiterate his undying love for me and desire to spend a married life together- but the next day got drunk and raped me then dragged me around by my neck calling me a parasite and choking me out claiming "I am going to kill you, you are going to die". Apparently the court considers that disorderly conduct, needless to say by having a dark mooded person in my life my whole perception of life love social interactions sex my worth and image are all fucked up, and I have a horrible case of ptsd. People tap me on the opposite shoulder they are standing by and I immediately gasp and drop to the ground. My heart doesn't stop racing for at least 30minutes and I occasionally sit in my car for hours afraid that he will drive down my street and is watching me and my family. Long story short: a dark mooded person needs professional help. Unless you are a professional you do not have the skills tools or knowledge to comfort or aid this person in any way. Only they can stop hurting and hating the world. So avoid them like crazy and love yourself to bits instead. Quit making excuses for people like that. And no he's not all of a sudden a happy go lucky son of a bitch now that you're broken up, if he was he wouldn't deny your existence. Its a prideful self absorbed pitiful tactic he's using to hide what low esteem he has now that he's a price of shit AND without a loving nurturing lady. Don't sweat it girl, act happy for him that he's happy. No, be happy that he isn't blowing up at you and isn't a Debbie downer at work now that he has his new persona. Not to mention an act like that is probably his way of reeling in the next victim he can suck of all its resources.

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    2. my man of 9 yrs started doing the same nothing i did was right i had to ask him to leave my house cause he was making me so sick but he is still nasty and mean im trying not to contact him but it is killing me

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  11. I am scouring the internet for some kind of relief after I destroyed or more like atom bombed another relationship but this guy really loved me. I dont even know how I did it. Maybe it was a way of scaring him off so I didn't have to change. I didn't mean to hurt him I loved him and he gave me everything. I left him in a terrible state although he actually broke up with me. The emptyness and panic and heartache I can cope with but not the guilt , the guilt and worrying about him is intolerable. I want to tell him I am sorry and i love him but hes asked me to stop contacting him. My illness is sabotaging my life and I cant seem to control it even when I think I am , im not.

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  12. At least you are able to feel guilty and worry about him. My BPD ex couldn't care less whether I am dead or alive. That's what differentiate between human beings and animals. Humans have heart and are able to feel empathy, remorse, love, etc., animals don't. They prey on others and then move on. Their instinct is to look for their own survival only. If you believe that this guy really loves you then he is worth fighting for.

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  13. I appreciate your time in responding and you made me feel a little better about myself I definitely feel remorse for all the messes I have made , severe guilt actually but then I seem to make the same mistakes o ver and over. It is odd that you describe your ex
    as having no remorse, typically bpd people do experience guilt and allot of it. Perhaps he has another mental illness along with bpd that has not been diagnosed. A sociopath has no regard for others feelings and feels no remorse or responsibilty for their actions. Just a thought.

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  14. As far as his concern I am a very bad person coz I dumped him. I didn't want to do that. I did that out of frustration. I couldn't stand his cold and at the times rude demeanors toward me. He pushed me away so many times and I stuck on him for more than 2 years. At the end of it, I asked him if he was still interested in me and the relationship, his best answer to my question was a vague "I don't know. I'll let you know when I know the answer." Well, how was I suppose to react to that kind of answer? Was I suppose to sit around, waiting patiently for him to make the decision for me?

    Look my dear, you are not the only one who is in pain. If your ex truly loved you, I bet your ex feels like his been hit by a train right now, at least that's how I feel ever since the break up. The hurt, confusion and feeling of rejection is unbelievable. Explaining about your feeling will give him some sort of closure and will help him somehow. Sorry, but I think you owe him that much at least. I wish if my ex could be a man enough to give that to me. Plus, it will probably give you some kind of relief from your guilt. Send him an honest text message and leave the ball in his court.

    And honey, I know this will sound so naïve, but next time you find somebody who loves you, try not to follow your impulse and push him away. It's a simple law of action and reaction. There is consequence for everything. I mean, there is only so much a person could take. You push him away once too many or too hard, then you might end up losing him for good.

    From what you wrote about yourself, I think you are a remarkable person.

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    1. I actually did talk to him, very openly about what I was feeling and what I was going through. I articulated quite well what I needed and what I hoped for. It was him that shut down and did not want to talk or discuss fixing things.

      Have you read the past articles I wrote about the entire detailed experience I had about this? I tried very hard with him. He didn't want to work with me on this. He preferred to avoid all conversation, not me. He wanted to avoid anything stressful, even the most mundane of life's anxieties, let alone the more difficult of my own traumas which I was never comfortable discussing with him because I knew he couldn't deal with it. We weren't compatible. It's not that difficult to understand. I cared about him. He cared about me. That doesn't mean we were meant to be together.


      We're actually still friends. We talk quite frequently. All of this happened quite a while again and it's all been worked through.

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  15. Right at this very moment, I wish if I have bpd. I am in so much pain because of the break up with my bpd ex. He has moved on merrily , and here I am still hang up on him, still missing him like crazy and still crying my self out to sleep. I want him back desperately but at the same time I would rather die than being with somebody who doesn't want me anymore.

    As non bpd, I have no defense mechanism to escape this pain. I have no false self, object inconsistency, detachment, disengagement, detachment, disassociation techniques ....you name it...,that will help me to go through this pain. I have no tools to enable me to deny this reality. I have no choice but to ride the tide and just endure this misery. This is so unfair that he can get away with a bloody murder and I have to be stuck in this suffering.

    Sorry for venting, I am so desperate, I am not even sure what am I talking about...

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    1. I'm sorry that you're hurting so much. That sounds terrible. I know it will be of little consolation but often that happy face that your ex appears to have, is just a mask, in order to not let anyone see the pain that is really being hidden. He is suffering too, he's just not showing it. You don't deserve to feel like you were discarded and I wish he would have learned to treat you better so that you could have some closure. ::hugs::

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  16. Haven, I can't thank you enough for your blog. I almost finish reading it entirely. It has been an eye opener for me. I wish if I had found it before the breakup though.

    I had my share of guilt in the break up. I was ignorant about bpd. I mean, I was familiar with the term bpd, and I did a half ass research about it and figured out that people with bpd fear abandonment the most. I was so smug, thinking that I could handle a relationship with a bpd based on what I read.

    I thought by keep reassuring my ex how much I love him and making sure he knows I have no intention of leaving him would be enough to keep him feeling secure in the relationship. I was wrong and I didn't even realize it.

    I didn't know that the hot/cold treatment, extreme mood swings, blames, depression that could stretch for days and his cruel/mean/rudeness was part of his bpd. I couldn't fathom for the life of me, how could someone who is so afraid of abandonment ever try to push away the one person who wants to stay with him. I mean, shouldn't he cling instead of pushing away?

    The dark moods and depression was the worst. I tried to be there for him, running errands and doing chores for him because he was so incapacitated to do them himself, keeping my mouth shut all the way. Instead of being grateful, he treated me like a pestering door to door salesman. I didn't think that it was his illness doing. All I could think about was "this guy doesn't want me anymore. He can't stand me being around him or even hearing my voice on the phone." And that's when I decided enough is enough. I felt like a rescue boat trying to rescue him from drowning in the sea. He was screaming and crying for help but at the same time refusing to take my hand. At the end of it I was like; " well, I have offered my hand and threw you a life saver, but you refused to take it. So, go ahead and drown. There is nothing I can do to help you if you refused to be helped." and I walked away. It was heart breaking to leave him like that, but I was so tired of it all.

    But then I saw him picking himself up so fast as soon as I left, leaving me feeling like I was the cause of his depression. Now he wants nothing to do with me, like I am the bad girl who never even tried to stand by him. But I thought I had done my best trying. If only I had more knowledge about bpd, maybe I could have understood and accommodated his behaviors in a better way. But now I just have to withstand the pain of being without him and over ridden by guilt of leaving him.

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  17. Too all of you complaining about "I wish I could have done mote/different/less/accomodated" exc. You're forgetting that bpd is not an excuse, its a diagnosis, an explanation. And it is up to someone with bpd(myself included-) to stop denying any sort of self awareness and seek help. Obviously it is not that easy, and no one wants to admit they aren't perfect but its not like we are serial killers or rapists. It sounds like all of you invested your identity your life and love into these men (again, myself included) we need to remember that you can't save a person from drowning if we can't swim to begin with. These men have ruthlessly dodged years of patterns of negetive gloomy dark behavior, they have hurt more than just you- they have seen the consequences, but rather than desiring to be better people they just pick up and move on not giving a second thought to the consequences or effects they have on people? Stop wishing you could have done something differently. Start wishing they could have done something differently!!! Also, I realize this is easier said than done- I have been both the victim and the peep of this seemingly abusive relationships with if not completely concocted at the core from bpd- but seriously, nobody likes running in circles never believing anything nice people have to say, feeling inlove one day and crushed moments later just by a sudden change of energy in the room. Nobody likes screaming uncontrollably to the point of exhaustion, black outs, and an inability to recall events thus allowing them to make sense of the conflict that follws the initial storm, not to mention the sickening wonder if your being manipulated or not because your emotions have sucked dry any ability to remember specific things- they know there is something wrong. And when they stop trying to blame others and get help- they will mature and do that. But because of the already prideful instillation set on by society for men to be calm or angry and never admit to anything on an emotional level, they probably won't. So no more ruminating what you coulda should woulda. You know you did your part. You know you were mistreated and you know there was something wrong with them. That doesn't justify sympathy but only goes to show their ability to act like it never happened is just proof that they were not the victims of the relationship, it was a breeze to them. They probably weren't emotionally present for the majority of it anyways cause they'd go from 0-60 at the drop of a hat which will exhaust anyone, or they were too distracted by their own unhealthy thought habits to be fully mentally apart of the relationship.

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  18. By the way haven, I love your blog- its pinned to my windows main screen phone. Sorry if my comments are a little harsh. Also, your dedication to therapy this blog and over all advocation are inspiring and comfort to us all. But perhaps, for those of us with bpd who have really fucked up some god given blessed relationships- you could maybe give insight how to rekindle/regrow/re-establish those broken bridges, stronger and more sturdier this time around?

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    1. Thank you for your kind words.

      I'll definitely put thought into a post on how to rekindle/regrow/re-establish those broken bridges. I have to say that I've never rekindled a broken relationship and started dating them again... However, I am actually quite good friends with a number of my exes so I've had some luck there. I'll see what I can do.

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  19. Oh dear, this is all making me quite angry. the description of people with bpd isn't quite accurate either.
    I have bpd it is mostly women who suffer from it, like myself. Saying that bpd people just drop you and couldn't care less is the complete opposite from how i behave....they mostly have abandonment issues so when a relationship breaks up they beg to be taken back, even if they instigated the split.
    It is the most unhealthy thing to be so scared of your partner leaving you that you stay in a damaging relationship. I can't bear him leaving me even though he clearly doesn't love me now.....I don't really love him either now. Butit's a trap as the second we split i freak out and have to be with him again, that is the most common bpd reaction.
    I came to this site to seek some help, the advice didn't seem appropriate for people with bpd and with very little insite.
    The women who are posting on here seem like they have some sort of disorder too to be fair, I feel I can say that as I identify with them and their unhealthy reactions to rejection.
    I feel guilt that im with my partner, feel like i've changed him, damaged him and am keeping him from someone much better than me. classic bpd. Yet i cna't force myself to leave him as I get suicidal. I wish he would leave me as I feel I deserve that, but now he's as mean as me he just thinks thats just us.
    the only advice for bpd sufferers is to get psychological councilling and fast, I know thats hard to make it fast but I know from experience it's needed. They may not have friends or family after pushing people away or having bad relationships but try to get a hobby, and if you go into panic mode call a anyone.
    If it's a choice between calling your ex or killing yourself just call them. get yourself out of crisis and deal with your behaviour after that.

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    1. i feel the exact same way wiyh my partner of 9 yrs and he is so cruel to me

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  20. I am no expert in psychology, medical and psychological jargons really confused me sometimes. I am a school teacher who had the misfortune of being entangle in a relationship with a bpd. I'd like to view a bpd as a 3 years old child with no clear boundaries of what is right and what is wrong.

    A 3 y.o child can be very selfish. They don't share and hate to take turn. They also don't know how to control and express their feeling in a way that is acceptable. They throw tantrums when they get overwhelmed. Have you ever seen a 3 y.o throwing tantrums? They throw themselves on the floor, bang their heads against a wall, kick stuff around them and do things with no regard for their own safety.

    They don't take responsibility of their own action. They shift blame by saying: "S/he started it",or "It wasn't me."

    The day they get a new toy, will be the best day of their life. The toy will be their favorite thing. They play with it, sleep with it, even using to eat or take a shower because they don't want to be part with the toy. They truly and genuinely love the toy.....for a while. Till they get another new toy that is more interesting. When they get bored of the new toy, and they don't have another newer one, they might dug up their old toy and play with it again. They can go from saying to their friend: "you are my very bestest friend in the whole wide world" to "I hate you, you are worst than a boogeyman" in a blink of an eye.

    Is that mean that they are bad creatures? No. They are not bad, they are just being who they are, a 3 y.o kids. All the bad behaviors are unintentional and they can help it.
    Am I correct?

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  21. (sorry for the spelling mistakes, I was typing from my cell).

    By the way, some 3 y.o kids do scratch, bite and hit when they are angry. When they get time out for what they did, they will say sorry and promise never to do that again. And I do believe that at that very moment they meant what they said. But will they keep their promises and stop doing it? Not a chance.

    Also, they can be very manipulative. They'll eat their broccoli for chocolate pudding dessert and they will clean up their room every night for the whole month for a new action figure/Barbie doll from Santa next Christmas. Is that mean that they suddenly turn into mature and responsible kids? No, they simply being good in exchange of something they really want.

    It's very difficult to deal with this age. You spoil them, and they will turn into little brats, demanding and with no respect for you. If you are too strict, they will turn against you and refuse to come to you for a cuddle.

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  22. Here's the thing.... People seem to think that it's always the person with BPD that is at fault for the break up. It's not. Sometimes of course it is. Sometimes it's both people.

    This is the rub. People don't always work out. That's the way life goes. You should be adults and try to give one another closure, but once that aspect is done, you need to respect another persons space and allow them to heal the way they need to heal. As much as one person may want the relationship to work out, if both partners are not all in, then it will not work for either of you. Some relationships just don't work and you both need to learn to heal and move on to relationships that will work for the both of you.

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  23. About 6 years ago i met a man 19 years older than me, i saw him as my savvier he was just what i needed i was tired of the life that i was living and he was there for me . Not late into our relationship he had told me that he had a woman and 3 kids at home it devastated me but i did nt show it cose i though well so he s using me so i can use him as well for 1 or 2 years until i put myself back on my feet besides i had never had anyone taking care of me since i was 11years old. We both knew there was no future for us and i think i was actually ook with it just because it wasn't real . Through the years we had many problems... We abused each other in all aspects broke up many times but could never stay away for more than 2 or 3 weeks i know he loves me and i think i do to but of course i knew from the beginning that we couldn't be. I think i have hurt him more than he did me . We had once a fight in public and someone sad that i have borderline i never even heard of it until than so i checked it out and all the symptoms fit me like a glove i couldn't belive it, now i understand why i feel like it's the end of the world sometimes , i used to blame him for my tantrums and last time i had one , next day he just texted me saying he can't do it anymore and i never seen him since(5days ago) I know is not that long but i already tried to trick him to at least come and see me beg him to forgive me took a hand of painkillers so i can die but iti didn't work use drugs get drunk I'm crying all the time and i can't tell anyone about what I'm going through i know that the breakup is still fresh and that i have to give it time and most importantly that it must end but i can't stop thinking that i can't live without him... The blog helped me a bit and now i am really thinking to go in therapie i Hopei will make it ...i feel like i hurt and pushed away most of the people and family that cared about me. I am so tired

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    1. I know i sound pathetic and i am but my condition was that the kids must never hear of me and if he wants to live he must not do it for me . He went home every night he'd never spend one with me except for some holidays, it was terrible

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  24. My ex left me last February. It's been almost a year and I am struggling so bad. He said he'd love to be friends, but I kept pushing it. I don't know how to just be his friend, because I want to be with him more than anything. He stayed with me for almost 4 years. He dealt with me for that long. He never cheated, he was honest. Best person I have ever been with. I believe that things would have been okay, but I kept pushing and pushing and the last time I freaked out on him, I told him to just block me from everything. Of course I didn't mean that, but today, I am officially blocked from everything and he won't talk to me. All I want is to be with him and I don't know what to do without him....

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  25. I had a problem with my boyfriend six months ago,which lead to us apart.
    When he broke up with me,I was no longer myself,I fill so empty inside
    sorry.Until a friend of mine told me about one of her spells that helped in
    same problem too. i email the spells and I told him my problem
    and I did what he asked me to briefly make. the long story Before I knew it
    what happened,not 48 hours,my friend gave me a call and he
    come back to me and told me he was sorry about what was going to happen, I'm so
    grateful to these spells and will not stop publishing his name on the internet
    just for the good work he has doing.If you need his help,you can email him at
    (UNIQUELOVESPELLCENTER@YAHOO.COM)and he will also help you to Dr.TRUST(
    UNIQUELOVESPELLCENTER@YAHOO.COM) I will be forever grateful to you.

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  26. This is my testimonial on how DR Lawrence of drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail.com brought back my lover within 48 hours, I came across DR Lawrence email address through my search in the net few days ago, so i emailed him about my condition and how my lover left me. He told me it would take him only 48 hours to get my ex back to me, my ex called me before 48 hours begging me to forgive him and forget about the past and he is ready to make up for lost time.drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail.com

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  27. This is my testimonial on how DR Lawrence of drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail. com brought back my lover within 48 hours, I came across DR Lawrence email address through my search in the net few days ago, so i emailed him about my condition and how my lover left me. He told me it would take him only 48 hours to get my ex back to me, my ex called me before 48 hours begging me to forgive him and forget about the past and he is ready to make up for lost time.drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail. com or call him on +2348034182596

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  28. After i saw the post of some people on how Dr SANUSI drsanusispellhome@gmail.com helped them in bringing back their lover, i decided to contact Dr SANUSI ,Then i told him how my husband tried divorcing me and am gonna be loosing a lot from that, He only told me to smile trice and asked me to fill a form, i Submitted it and he gave me the assurance of 24hrs, to my surprise its was just 20hrs, and GAVY my husband came home telling me, why on earth would i have to misunderstood him always and said he is very sorry and promised we aint gonna divorce, my Joy was restored and i called Dr SANUSI to tell him but he said he already knew about it that all i should do is to tell friends and people to contact him with any kind of problem that his gods have solutions, Friends i can swear by anything that Dr SANUSI is a man you can trust contact him for help and he is trustworthy. Here his is private mail: DRSANUSISPELLHOME@GMAIL.COM ...PHILO

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  29. My name is Stacy Blair i have been in bondage ever since my EX left for another woman, It was really hell for me and everybody told me to forget about him but i could not because i love him so much. Things got worse until my friend introduced me to this great spell caster DOCTOR OTIAGBE SPELL TEMPLE who have saved so many life and relationships and i contacted him through his email ( Otiagbe@yahoo.com ) i explained everything to him and he cast a spell for me immediately after three days, everything turn around and my boyfriend came to me on his knee begging for forgiveness that i have been the only woman he has loved in his life and he is ready to love me forever. I was really surprised because i have never seen such a miracle in my life. I am so thankful to this man and i will forever publish his name Doctor Otiagbe.

    Contact him now for your own miracle via email: Otiagbe@yahoo.com

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  30. My ex-husband and I had always manged to stay friendly after our divorce, but I always wanted to get back together with him, and he was never sure. So, I thought it was about time I MADE him sure! so i contacted Dr Humen from the humenhealingtemple@yahoo.com and a request for a specific love spell, and Humen powers began to work his magic. My spell is working because guess what: My “ex” is soon to be my husband again! This is nothing short of a miracle. Thank you,Dr Humen. Words are not enough.

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  31. MY NAME IS FRANCISCO

    BE CAREFUL HERE, NOBODY CAN HELP YOU HERE OR EVEN SUGGEST HOW YOU CAN GET YOUR EX OR LOVE BACK,ANY TESTIMONIES OF MOST SPELL CASTER HERE MUST BE IGNORED.BECAUSE MOST OF THEM ARE SCAM I MEAN REAL SCAM WHICH I WAS A VICTIM AND I GOT RIPPED OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS BECAUSE I WAS SO ANXIOUS TO GET MY WIFE KATARINA BACK AFTER SHE LEFT ME FOR OVER 2YEARS WITH MY 3YEARS OLD SON JERRY,I HAVE APPLIED TO 7 DIFFERENT SPELL CASTER HERE I MET ON THIS BLOG AND ALL TO NO AVAIL THEY ALL ASK FOR SAME THING SEND YOUR NAME YOUR EX NAME ADDRESS AND PICTURE PHONE NUMBER ETC WHICH I DID OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND MOST OF THEM WERE FROM SOUTH AFRICA, I WAS SO CONFUSED AND I WAS ALWAYS SICK BECAUSE OF THIS PROBLEM AND I WAS SO DESPERATE TO HAVE KATARINA BACK TO ME I LOVE HER SO MUCH AND COULD DIE FOR HER. I SAW THIS Email Online ABOUT DR USMAN KERIM THE GREATEST SPELL TEMPLE, (dr_usman.spiritualist@outlook.com) TEMPLE OF BLACK AND WHITE IN NIGERIA, AND I DECIDED TO MAIL HIM.HE TOLD ME THAT ALL MY PROBLEM ARE OVER SINCE I HAVE DECIDED TO CONTACT HIM FOR HELP, HE TOLD ME TO EXPLAIN WHAT HAPPENED BETWEEN ME AND MY EX WIFE KATARINA AND I DID, I TOLD HIM ALL THAT HAPPENED FROM THE BEGINNING. AND HE SAID TO ME MY CHILD WHAT YOU JUST EXPLAINED TO ME NOW IS A LITTLE PROBLEM TO HANDLE COMPARE TO SERIOUS PROBLEMS I HAVE HANDLED, I WAS SO SHOCKED AND I SAID TO MY SELF WHAT PROBLEM COULD BE MORE SERIOUS THAN THIS. HE TOLD ME WHAT I NEEDED TO DO AS SOON AS POSSIBLE, BUT WHAT HE SAID LOOK SIMILAR TO WHAT I HAVE HEARD IN THE PAST, I WAS HAVING DOUBT ABOUT IT BECAUSE OF PAST EXPERIENCE, BUT I DECIDED TO TRY SINCE HE IS FROM NIGERIA HE COULD BE REAL AND DIFFERENT. SO I GAVE HIM 50% OF MY TRUST. THIS WAS LIKE I MAGIC AND DREAM COME TRUE TO ME, AFTER TWO DAYS WHEN THE SPELL HAS BEEN CASTEED, KATARINA FLASHED ME AT ABOUT 9.PM I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT BECAUSE I REALLY LOVE KATARINA AND WANT HER BACK. BY 7.AM THE NEXT MORNING SHE GAVE ME ANOTHER MISSED CALL I DECIDED NOT TO CALL BACK AS I WAS STILL ON SHOCK, AT ABOUT 10.AM THAT MORNING SHE CALLED AND I PICKED SHE SAID CAN WE SEE AFTER WORK TODAY I SAID YES SO SHE ENDED THE CALL IMMEDIATELY I GOT OFF WORK SHE CALLED ME AND TOLD ME WERE TO MEET HER, I WAS STILL ON SHOCK, BEHOLD WHEN I GOT THERE I SAW KATARINA CRYING WITH TEARS ALL OVER HER EYES, AND SHE SAID TO ME MY HUSBAND, I AM SO SORRY IMMEDIATELY I HUGED HER AND KISSED HER WHICH I HAVE MISSED ALL THIS YEARS. ALL THANK TO DR..USMAN KERIM. IF YOU ARE A MAN OF A WOMAN READY THIS AND YOU ARE PASSING THROUGH SIMILAR PROBLEMS LIKE MINE, DO NOT FAIL TO CONTACT THIS GREAT MAN DR.USMAN KERIM HE IS REALLY INDEED A REAL SPELL CASTER.

    HE SPECIALIZE ON THE BELOW PROBLEMS

    (1) If you want your ex back.
    (2) To care HIV/AID or related illness
    (3) You want to be promoted in your office.
    (4) You want women/men to run after you.
    (5) If you want a child.
    (6) Are you a contractor and you want to win contracts
    (7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be
    yours forever.
    (8) If you need help spiritually.
    (9) How you been scammed and you want to recover you lost money.
    (10)Stop Divorce
    (11)Invoking of Money Ritual


    And many more..

    Mobile number...+2348057756157

    Email...dr_usman.spiritualist@outlook.com

    website...http://dr-usmankerimspiritualtemple.yolasite.com/

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  32. I and my boy friend as been separated for a long period, I cam across different spell caster and they were all unable to bring my lover back. I was so sad and almost gave up on him when i met a spell man called DR OLOKUM, who helped me get my lover back. Ever since then i have been so happy and couldnt believe it would happen. He also helped me with success spell, I have been living happily with my lover now and will be getting married soon. Here is his contact if you need his help. LAVENDERLOVESPELL@YAHOO.COM

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  33. I thought everything was fine in my relationship until he explained to me he wanted out and that it was him and not me. I couldn't understand because I thought everything was fine and that we were in love. Then I decided to look into this further and I looked at his Facebook account and then I saw the other woman that he was involved with, I was devastated and cried.The problem for me was that I still loved Joel and I believed in my heart that he was my soul mate. i tried to work things out but after 5 years in what I thought was the best and greatest romance of my life Joel didn't want me and in fact he was planning to leave and during that time there was a lot of arguing that made matters worse. I had no idea of what else to do and so i took a chance at purityspell@gmail.com with the help of a spell and to cut the long story short, he came back and set things right again and now we are living happily together. If you ever need help in relationship issues, contact him on purityspell@gmail.com, Prophet Mike is his name.

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  34. I just wanted to say thank you Dr. Ola Matama. Thanks very much for the spell you cast for me. I am pleased to tell the world about you and it worked great and I am now back with my ex girlfriend and everything is okay right now. Thanks so much once again and will definitely order again in the future. Be blessed and keep up with the Good work. I so much believe he can also help you. Contact he via email: olahinduntemple@hotmail.com
    THANK YOU very much for your assistance it is greatly appreciated.
    Alberto Franco.

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  35. Dear friends, i am from united states i had a problem with my husband 2years ago, which lead to our break up. when he broke up with me, i was not my self again, i felt so empty inside me. until a friend of mine Walt Pen told me about a spell caster who helped her in the same problem too. i email dr. trust the spell caster and i told him my problem and i did what he asked of me, to cut the long story short. before i knew what was happening my husband gave me a call and told me that he was coming back to me in just 2days and was so happy to have him back to me. thanks to dr. trustfor saving my relationship and for also saving others own too. continue your good work the great spell caster email address: Ultimatespellcast@gmail.com or ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com

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  36. am from USA,i hear how people are talking about The powerful spell caster called DR TRUST in regard of how he bring back ex lover,winning lottery,getting pregnant and getting married to their dream true lover and i also contact him to help me cast a spell in regard of my ex lover whom i love so much that left me 2yrs ago,but today my ex is back to me and we are happily married with 3kids and i am so much happy for the help i found in you DR TRUST. I and my family are very much happy and we are living large now,i am grateful and appreciate your good work of spell casting,thank you and may you leave long to help people in problems His email is Ultimatespellcast@gmail.com

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  37. I am posting on this site on how a great Dr.help me bring back my ex husbandr after 9 months of divorce with two kids. I love him so much,so a friend of mine clara introduced this Dr to me who also help her. he did a spell to bring him back within 24 hours, now we are together no more fight and argument. my lover now loves me more than any thing in the wolrd Thank for helping me bring back my husband to me. If you need any help like
    1 LOVE SPELL
    2 WIN EX BACK
    3 FRUIT OF THE WOMB
    4 PROMOTION SPELL
    5 PROTECTION SPELL
    6 BUSINESS SPELL
    7 GOOD JOB SPELL
    8 LOTTERY SPELL
    9 COURT CASE SPELL
    contact him via email: (Ultimatespellcast@gmail.com) call +2348156885231 for help.

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  38. friends.My name is Dennis i based in Chicago.I never believed in all spell-casting.I Have been scammed by 5different people.I lost hope in them.My ex left me.I was devastated.I lost my job.My best friend saw my plight.Then he introduced me to dr favor.I Was told his work is free.I Never believed until i got in touch with him.He did a spell for me.My ex came back in less than 72hrs.I was recalled at my place of work.I Was even promoted immediately.I couldn't believe there is a real prophet out there who does free spells.I only paid in appreciation after the spell had worked.He doesn't charge anybody until the spell has worked.You shouldn't be deceived by all these scammers that are here for money.dr favor doesn't charge.You can only choose to pay after the spell has worked.Try him and see what i am saying.These are the few things he does
    *HE BRING BACK LOST LOVERS IN 24hrs.
    *REMOTE CONTROL OVER LOVERS.
    *ALL TYPES OF SPELL CASTING & VOODOO WORKER.
    * IS YOUR HEALER TAKING LONG TO SOLVE YOUR PROBLEMS? THIS IS YOUR CHANCE TO BE HELPED QUICKLY.
    *GET RIDE OF ANY WITCHCRAFT, BAD LUCK & CURSES.
    * EXPERT IN DISTANCE HEALING
    *COURT CASES EVEN IF ONE IS CONVICTED[IF THERE'S A CHANCE OF APPEALING]
    *IS SOME BODY JEALOUS WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
    *UNFINISHED JOBS BY OTHER DOCTORS-IF NOT SATISFIED-COME TO ME.
    *ARE YOU BEING FORCED INTO A DIVORCE?
    *HE PREVENT BAD LUCK AND JEALOUSY.
    *TO WIN HORSES AND GAMBLING.



    *HE CAN STOP SOME ONE INTERFERING WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
    * DO YOU WANT TO HAVE CHILDREN OF YOUR CHOICE
    *DO YOU WANT QUICK MARRIAGE PROPOSAL?
    *HE CAN CLEAN PEOPLE HOUSES,BUSINESSES AND PROPERTIES FROM BAD LUCK.
    *DO YOU NEED EXCESSIVE SEXUAL POWER AND STRONG ERECTIONS.
    You can get in touch with him through ( favorspiritualspellcasttemple@gmail.com)

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  39. i am Mrs mercy i am hear to give testimony of how i got back my husband, we got married for more than 2 years and have gotten two kids. thing were going well with us and we are always happy. until one day my husband started to behave in a way i could not understand, i was very confused by the way he treat me and the kids. later that month he did not come again and he called me that he want a divorce, I asked him what have i done wrong to deserve this from him, all he was saying that he want a divorce and that he hates me and do not want to see me again in his life, i was mad and also frustrated do not know what to do,i was sick for more than 2 weeks because of the divorce. i love him so much he was everything to me without him my life is incomplete. i told my sister and she told me to contact a spell caster, i never believe in all this spell casting of a thing. i just
    want to try if something will come out of it. I contacted Drehiaghe for the return of my husband to me, he told me that my husband have been taken by another woman that she cast a spell on him that is why he hates me and also want us to divorce. then he told me that he have to cast a spell on him that will make him return to me and the kids, he cast the spell and after 3 days my husband called me
    and he told me that i should forgive him, he settled to apologize on phone and said that he still love me that he did not know what happen to him that he left me. it was the spell that the Drehiaghe shrine casted on him that made him come back to me today,me and my family are now happy again today. thank you DR.ehiaghe for what you have done for me i would have been nothing today if not for your great spell. i want
    you my friends who are passing through this kind of love problem of getting back their husband, wife , or ex boyfriend and girlfriend to contact ehiaghespellhome@gmail.com and you will see that your problem will be solved.

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  40. MY NAME IS FRANCISCO

    BE CAREFUL HERE, NOBODY CAN HELP YOU HERE OR EVEN SUGGEST HOW YOU CAN GET YOUR EX OR LOVE BACK,ANY TESTIMONIES OF MOST SPELL CASTER HERE MUST BE IGNORED.BECAUSE MOST OF THEM ARE SCAM I MEAN REAL SCAM WHICH I WAS A VICTIM AND I GOT RIPPED OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS BECAUSE I WAS SO ANXIOUS TO GET MY WIFE KATARINA BACK AFTER SHE LEFT ME FOR OVER 2YEARS WITH MY 3YEARS OLD SON JERRY,I HAVE APPLIED TO 7 DIFFERENT SPELL CASTER HERE I MET ON THIS BLOG AND ALL TO NO AVAIL THEY ALL ASK FOR SAME THING SEND YOUR NAME YOUR EX NAME ADDRESS AND PICTURE PHONE NUMBER ETC WHICH I DID OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND MOST OF THEM WERE FROM SOUTH AFRICA, I WAS SO CONFUSED AND I WAS ALWAYS SICK BECAUSE OF THIS PROBLEM AND I WAS SO DESPERATE TO HAVE KATARINA BACK TO ME I LOVE HER SO MUCH AND COULD DIE FOR HER. I SAW THIS Email Online ABOUT DR USMAN KERIM THE GREATEST SPELL TEMPLE, (dr_usman.spiritualist@outlook.com) TEMPLE OF BLACK AND WHITE IN NIGERIA, AND I DECIDED TO MAIL HIM.HE TOLD ME THAT ALL MY PROBLEM ARE OVER SINCE I HAVE DECIDED TO CONTACT HIM FOR HELP, HE TOLD ME TO EXPLAIN WHAT HAPPENED BETWEEN ME AND MY EX WIFE KATARINA AND I DID, I TOLD HIM ALL THAT HAPPENED FROM THE BEGINNING. AND HE SAID TO ME MY CHILD WHAT YOU JUST EXPLAINED TO ME NOW IS A LITTLE PROBLEM TO HANDLE COMPARE TO SERIOUS PROBLEMS I HAVE HANDLED, I WAS SO SHOCKED AND I SAID TO MY SELF WHAT PROBLEM COULD BE MORE SERIOUS THAN THIS. HE TOLD ME WHAT I NEEDED TO DO AS SOON AS POSSIBLE, BUT WHAT HE SAID LOOK SIMILAR TO WHAT I HAVE HEARD IN THE PAST, I WAS HAVING DOUBT ABOUT IT BECAUSE OF PAST EXPERIENCE, BUT I DECIDED TO TRY SINCE HE IS FROM NIGERIA HE COULD BE REAL AND DIFFERENT. SO I GAVE HIM 50% OF MY TRUST. THIS WAS LIKE I MAGIC AND DREAM COME TRUE TO ME, AFTER TWO DAYS WHEN THE SPELL HAS BEEN CASTEED, KATARINA FLASHED ME AT ABOUT 9.PM I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT BECAUSE I REALLY LOVE KATARINA AND WANT HER BACK. BY 7.AM THE NEXT MORNING SHE GAVE ME ANOTHER MISSED CALL I DECIDED NOT TO CALL BACK AS I WAS STILL ON SHOCK, AT ABOUT 10.AM THAT MORNING SHE CALLED AND I PICKED SHE SAID CAN WE SEE AFTER WORK TODAY I SAID YES SO SHE ENDED THE CALL IMMEDIATELY I GOT OFF WORK SHE CALLED ME AND TOLD ME WERE TO MEET HER, I WAS STILL ON SHOCK, BEHOLD WHEN I GOT THERE I SAW KATARINA CRYING WITH TEARS ALL OVER HER EYES, AND SHE SAID TO ME MY HUSBAND, I AM SO SORRY IMMEDIATELY I HUGED HER AND KISSED HER WHICH I HAVE MISSED ALL THIS YEARS. ALL THANK TO DR..USMAN KERIM. IF YOU ARE A MAN OF A WOMAN READY THIS AND YOU ARE PASSING THROUGH SIMILAR PROBLEMS LIKE MINE, DO NOT FAIL TO CONTACT THIS GREAT MAN DR.USMAN KERIM HE IS REALLY INDEED A REAL SPELL CASTER.

    HE SPECIALIZE ON THE BELOW PROBLEMS

    (1) If you want your ex back.
    (2) To care HIV/AID or related illness
    (3) You want to be promoted in your office.
    (4) You want women/men to run after you.
    (5) If you want a child.
    (6) Are you a contractor and you want to win contracts
    (7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be
    yours forever.
    (8) If you need help spiritually.
    (9) How you been scammed and you want to recover you lost money.
    (10)Stop Divorce
    (11)Invoking of Money Ritual


    And many more..

    Mobile number...+2348057756157

    Email...dr_usman.spiritualist@outlook.com

    website...http://dr-usmankerimspiritualtemple.yolasite.com/

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    1. well done! my problems are gone My woman came back last night, i thought it's a joke she came to say good bye to me ,then i waited ,suddenly i saw preparing food,bed and hide under branket, i couldn't believe any thing i see, i decide to sleep at the gouge to see what happens next ,only see her come and slow her self on me start kissing and then i realize you are the true healer, its now 2 weeks since she came home ,but doc my sex life has gone down i don't know why , i want to come and order for that medicine. i will phone you later today! i appreciate your services, be there for us please. thanks you to obadamtemple@gmail.com

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  41. This is a testimony that i will tell to every one to hear. I have been married for three years and on the fifth years of my marriage, another woman had a spell to take my lover away from me and my husband left me and the kids and we have suffered for 2years until i met Dr. Kasee of the onimalovespell@gmail.com where so many people have been helped and i decided to give him a try to help me bring my lover back home and believe me i just send my picture to him and that of my husband and after 48hours as he have told me, i saw a car drove into the house and behold it was my husband and he have come to me and the kids and that is why i am happy to make every one of you in similar to visit this man via Email and have your lover back to your self Dr. Kasee of onimalovespell@gmail.com

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  42. MY NAME IS FRANCISCO

    BE CAREFUL HERE, NOBODY CAN HELP YOU HERE OR EVEN SUGGEST HOW YOU CAN GET YOUR EX OR LOVE BACK,ANY TESTIMONIES OF MOST SPELL CASTER HERE MUST BE IGNORED.BECAUSE MOST OF THEM ARE SCAM I MEAN REAL SCAM WHICH I WAS A VICTIM AND I GOT RIPPED OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS BECAUSE I WAS SO ANXIOUS TO GET MY WIFE KATARINA BACK AFTER SHE LEFT ME FOR OVER 2YEARS WITH MY 3YEARS OLD SON JERRY,I HAVE APPLIED TO 7 DIFFERENT SPELL CASTER HERE I MET ON THIS BLOG AND ALL TO NO AVAIL THEY ALL ASK FOR SAME THING SEND YOUR NAME YOUR EX NAME ADDRESS AND PICTURE PHONE NUMBER ETC WHICH I DID OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND MOST OF THEM WERE FROM SOUTH AFRICA, I WAS SO CONFUSED AND I WAS ALWAYS SICK BECAUSE OF THIS PROBLEM AND I WAS SO DESPERATE TO HAVE KATARINA BACK TO ME I LOVE HER SO MUCH AND COULD DIE FOR HER. I SAW THIS Email Online ABOUT DR USMAN KERIM THE GREATEST SPELL TEMPLE, (dr_usman.spiritualist@outlook.com) TEMPLE OF BLACK AND WHITE IN NIGERIA, AND I DECIDED TO MAIL HIM.HE TOLD ME THAT ALL MY PROBLEM ARE OVER SINCE I HAVE DECIDED TO CONTACT HIM FOR HELP, HE TOLD ME TO EXPLAIN WHAT HAPPENED BETWEEN ME AND MY EX WIFE KATARINA AND I DID, I TOLD HIM ALL THAT HAPPENED FROM THE BEGINNING. AND HE SAID TO ME MY CHILD WHAT YOU JUST EXPLAINED TO ME NOW IS A LITTLE PROBLEM TO HANDLE COMPARE TO SERIOUS PROBLEMS I HAVE HANDLED, I WAS SO SHOCKED AND I SAID TO MY SELF WHAT PROBLEM COULD BE MORE SERIOUS THAN THIS. HE TOLD ME WHAT I NEEDED TO DO AS SOON AS POSSIBLE, BUT WHAT HE SAID LOOK SIMILAR TO WHAT I HAVE HEARD IN THE PAST, I WAS HAVING DOUBT ABOUT IT BECAUSE OF PAST EXPERIENCE, BUT I DECIDED TO TRY SINCE HE IS FROM NIGERIA HE COULD BE REAL AND DIFFERENT. SO I GAVE HIM 50% OF MY TRUST. THIS WAS LIKE I MAGIC AND DREAM COME TRUE TO ME, AFTER TWO DAYS WHEN THE SPELL HAS BEEN CASTEED, KATARINA FLASHED ME AT ABOUT 9.PM I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT BECAUSE I REALLY LOVE KATARINA AND WANT HER BACK. BY 7.AM THE NEXT MORNING SHE GAVE ME ANOTHER MISSED CALL I DECIDED NOT TO CALL BACK AS I WAS STILL ON SHOCK, AT ABOUT 10.AM THAT MORNING SHE CALLED AND I PICKED SHE SAID CAN WE SEE AFTER WORK TODAY I SAID YES SO SHE ENDED THE CALL IMMEDIATELY I GOT OFF WORK SHE CALLED ME AND TOLD ME WERE TO MEET HER, I WAS STILL ON SHOCK, BEHOLD WHEN I GOT THERE I SAW KATARINA CRYING WITH TEARS ALL OVER HER EYES, AND SHE SAID TO ME MY HUSBAND, I AM SO SORRY IMMEDIATELY I HUGED HER AND KISSED HER WHICH I HAVE MISSED ALL THIS YEARS. ALL THANK TO DR..USMAN KERIM. IF YOU ARE A MAN OF A WOMAN READY THIS AND YOU ARE PASSING THROUGH SIMILAR PROBLEMS LIKE MINE, DO NOT FAIL TO CONTACT THIS GREAT MAN DR.USMAN KERIM HE IS REALLY INDEED A REAL SPELL CASTER.

    HE SPECIALIZE ON THE BELOW PROBLEMS

    (1) If you want your ex back.
    (2) To care HIV/AID or related illness
    (3) You want to be promoted in your office.
    (4) You want women/men to run after you.
    (5) If you want a child.
    (6) Are you a contractor and you want to win contracts
    (7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be
    yours forever.
    (8) If you need help spiritually.
    (9) How you been scammed and you want to recover you lost money.
    (10)Stop Divorce
    (11)Invoking of Money Ritual


    And many more..

    Mobile number...+2348057756157

    Email...dr_usman.spiritualist@outlook.com

    website...http://dr-usmankerimspiritualtemple.yolasite.com/

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  43. This is my testimonial on how DR Lawrence of drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail.com brought back my lover within 48 hours, I came across DR Lawrence email address through my search in the net few days ago, so i emailed him about my condition and how my lover left me. He told me it would take him only 48 hours to get my ex back to me, my ex called me before 48 hours begging me to forgive him and forget about the past and he is ready to make up for lost time.drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail.com

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  44. HELLO Am Frank Silver i have read testimonies about this great spell caster called Dr. Fadeyi how he helped people to bring their lover back. so i decide to give him a try, i am here today to give my own testimony on how this great man brought my ex back within 48 hours for just to contact him. this girl has broke up with me over 6 weeks but she came back just within 48 hours that Dr Fadeyi said he will make her come back to me. just contact this man and he will bring your ex back here is his email address mail. Doctorfadeyitempleofspell@hotmail.com

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  45. Thank you Dr Fadeyi you are the best spell caster that i have ever seen in my life the spell you casted for me have work very perfectly my ex gorlfriend who live me for over 3week now is back and apologizing for me to come back to him that she is very sorry for the pain she cost me and i am so happy. Doctor your spell is nice and make me fill alive again i will keep sharing you good work all over the world about the good spell you cast for me to get Annabella back and i will also give your email address to everybody who is in need of help like you told me that you can cast a spell to bring ex back, Money spell, Protection spell, lotto spell, Good job spell, pregnant spell, Love spell, and many other spell you told me you can cast for me if i need them i hope you will find a place to help other so they can give testimonies like me Doctor Fadeyi please help others many people are having problem try to get help from people but they is nobody like you to help them solve there problem like you do Dr Fadeyi if anyone need the help of this nice man contact him via this email Doctorfadeyitempleofspell@hotmail.com best regards to Dr your child Frank Silver from usa

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  46. I was been suffering hardship from HIV/AIDS since 2yrs now, and i happen to have 2 kids for my husband, and now we cannot proceed to have another kids all because of my disease and now i have do all what a human like i and my husband can do just to get my disease healed, i have went to several places to seek for help not even one person could ever help, until i melt a comment on the daily news paper that was commented by Miss Marilyn about how this powerful traditional doctor help her get cured of the disease (HIV-AIDS) " my fellow beloved" i firstly taught having a help from a spiritual traditional healer was a wrong idea, but i think of these, will i continue to stress on these disease all day when i have someone to help me save my life?" so i gather all my faiths and put in all interest to contact him through his Email address at so after i have mailed him of helping get my disease cured, i respond to me fast as possible that i should not be afraid, that he is a truthful and powerful doctor which i firstly claimed him to be. So after all set has been done, he promise me that i will be healed but on a condition that i provide him some items and obeyed all his oracle said. I did all by accepting his oracolous fact and only to see that the following week Dr fadeyi mail me on my mail box that my work is successfully done with his powers, i was first shocked and later arise to be the happiest woman on earth after i have concluded my final test on the hospital by my doctor that i am now HIV- Negative. My papers for check are with me and now i am happy and glad for his miraculous help and power. With these i must to everyone who might seek for any help, either for HIV cure or much more to contact him now at these following email now,Email: doctorfadeyitempleofspell@hotmail.com " sir thank you so much for your immediate cure of my disease, i must say for curing my disease, i owe you in return. Thanks and be blessing sir. His Email address is: doctorfadeyitempleofspell@hotmail.com

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  47. IS A TESTIMONY, I NEVER BELIEVED IN LOVE SPELLS UNTIL I MET THIS SPELL CASTER CALLED DR UNITY. HE IS REALLY POWERFUL AND COULD HELP CAST SPELLS TO BRING BACK ONE'S GONE,LOST,MISBEHAVING LOVER AND MAGIC MONEY SPELL OR SPELL FOR A GOOD JOB.I'M NOW HAPPY & A LIVING TESTIMONY COS THE WOMAN I HAD WANTED TO MARRY LEFT ME 3 WEEKS BEFORE OUR WEDDING AND MY LIFE WAS UPSIDE DOWN COS OUR RELATIONSHIP HAS BEEN ON FOR 3YEARS... I REALLY LOVED HER, BUT HER MOTHER WAS AGAINST US AND I HAD NO GOOD PAYING JOB. SO WHEN I MET THIS SPELL CASTER, I TOLD HIM WHAT HAPPENED AND EXPLAINED THE SITUATION OF THINGS TO HIM..AT FIRST I WAS UNDECIDED,SKEPTICAL AND DOUBTFUL, BUT I JUST GAVE IT A TRY. AND IN 48HOURS WHEN I WAS IN MY HOUSE IN USA,SHE CALLED ME BY HERSELF AND CAME TO ME, APOLOGIZING THAT EVERYTHING HAD BEEN SETTLED WITH HER MOM AND FAMILY AND SHE GOT A NEW JOB INTERVIEW SO WE SHOULD GET MARRIED..I DIDN'T BELIEVE IT COS THE SPELL CASTER ONLY ASKED FOR MY NAME AND MY GIRLFRIENDS NAME AND ALL I WANTED HIM TO DO... WELL WE ARE HAPPILY MARRIED NOW AND WE ARE EXPECTING OUR LITTLE KID,AND MY WIFE ALSO GOT THE NEW JOB AND OUR LIVES BECAME MUCH BETTER. IN CASE ANYONE NEEDS THE SPELL CASTER FOR SOME HELP, HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS;unitylovetemple@gmail.com THANKS DR UNITY FOR YOUR GOOD WORK. ONCE AGAIN HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS unitylovetemple@gmail.com

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  48. Hello I am Anita Rex ,I am here to spread this good news to the entire world how I got my ex husband back.I was going crazy when my husband left me and my two kids for another woman last month, But when i met a friend in Facebook that testify the good job of spell caster that called dr inegbedion that help her bring her boyfriend that left her over many years back, i also tell her my problem i have with my husband she told me to contact the spell caster that help her bring her boyfriend back, I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before 7days, that my ex will return to me before 7days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, on the 7days of it around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email: drinegbedionspellhome@gmail.com you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. you can contact him with this email drinegbedionspellhome@gmail.com

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  49. W DR OYAKHILOMEN HELPED ME GET MY EX BACK
    I AM AMANDA MORELLI my husband dumped me 9(nine) months ago after I accused him of seeing another girl. I wanted him back in my life but he refused to have any contact with me. He changed his mobile number, blocked me from sending him mails and even on facebook. I was so confused and lost concentration that made me lose my job, it was disastrous. I kept seeing on several blogs how a spell caster keeps helping people get their ex back and I contacted this spell caster called Dr OYAKHILOMEN for help, he assured me in 48hours that my ex will return to me, and to my greatest surprise my ex called me for the first time since we broke up. I am so happy that my love is back again, we are now happier than ever and I have gotten a job far better than my previous one, once again thank you Dr OYAKHILOMEN, you are truly gifted and powerful. Email this wonderful man on oyakhilomenspiritualhome@gmail.com. He is the only answer to your problems. He can be of great help and I will not stop publishing his name for the good work he did for me . again his email address is oyakhilomenspiritualhome@gmail.com

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  50. My life is back!!! After 8 years of marriage, my husband left me and left me with our three kids. I felt like my life was about to end, and was falling apart. I contacted Dr. OKORO LOVE SPELL and after I explained my problem, In just 3 days my husband came back to us and show me and my kids much love and apologize for all the pain he have bring to the family. We solved our issues, and we are even happier more than ever before Dr. OKORO you are the best spell caster. I really appreciate the love spell you cast for me to get the man back to my life i will keep sharing more testimonies to people about your good work. Thank you once again Dr. OKORO. You can also contact Dr. OKORO via email address: dr.okorospelltemple01@gmail.com in case you are in any problem you can contact this man for help he is always there in his temple to help you solve your problem Contact Email is: dr.okorospelltemple01@gmail.com CONTACT HIM TODAY VIA THIS EMAIL ADDRESS: dr.okorospelltemple01@gmail.com AS HIS POWERS ARE SO STRONG AND VERY EFFECTIVE AND HAS NO BAD EFFECT INSTEAD IT HAVE A VERY GOOD RESULT AFTER CASTING THE SPELL.

    Dr. OKORO NUMBER: +2348053209149
    Contact Dr. OKORO Via email: dr.okorospelltemple01@gmail.com

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  51. This is a very joyful day of my life because of the help Dr.Okakagbe has rendered to me by helping me get my ex back with his magic spell. i was married for 6 years and it was so terrible because my husband was really cheating on me and was seeking for a divorce but when i came across Dr.Okakagbe email on the internet i explained my situation to him and then seek his help but to my greatest surprise he told me that he will help me with my case and here i am now celebrating because my Husband has change totally for good. He always want to be by me and can not do anything without my present. i am really enjoying my marriage, what a great celebration. i will keep on testifying on the internet because Dr.Okakagbe is truly a real spell caster. DO YOU NEED HELP THEN CONTACT DOCTOR OKAKAGBE NOW VIA EMAIL: Obalaspelltemple@gmail.com or call +2348163395533

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  52. MY NAME IS FRANCISCO

    BE CAREFUL HERE, NOBODY CAN HELP YOU HERE OR EVEN SUGGEST HOW YOU CAN GET YOUR EX OR LOVE BACK,ANY TESTIMONIES OF MOST SPELL CASTER HERE MUST BE IGNORED.BECAUSE MOST OF THEM ARE SCAM I MEAN REAL SCAM WHICH I WAS A VICTIM AND I GOT RIPPED OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS BECAUSE I WAS SO ANXIOUS TO GET MY WIFE KATARINA BACK AFTER SHE LEFT ME FOR OVER 2YEARS WITH MY 3YEARS OLD SON JERRY,I HAVE APPLIED TO 7 DIFFERENT SPELL CASTER HERE I MET ON THIS BLOG AND ALL TO NO AVAIL THEY ALL ASK FOR SAME THING SEND YOUR NAME YOUR EX NAME ADDRESS AND PICTURE PHONE NUMBER ETC WHICH I DID OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND MOST OF THEM WERE FROM SOUTH AFRICA, I WAS SO CONFUSED AND I WAS ALWAYS SICK BECAUSE OF THIS PROBLEM AND I WAS SO DESPERATE TO HAVE KATARINA BACK TO ME I LOVE HER SO MUCH AND COULD DIE FOR HER. I SAW THIS Email Online ABOUT DR USMAN KERIM THE GREATEST SPELL TEMPLE, (dr_usman.spiritualist@outlook.com) TEMPLE OF BLACK AND WHITE IN NIGERIA, AND I DECIDED TO MAIL HIM.HE TOLD ME THAT ALL MY PROBLEM ARE OVER SINCE I HAVE DECIDED TO CONTACT HIM FOR HELP, HE TOLD ME TO EXPLAIN WHAT HAPPENED BETWEEN ME AND MY EX WIFE KATARINA AND I DID, I TOLD HIM ALL THAT HAPPENED FROM THE BEGINNING. AND HE SAID TO ME MY CHILD WHAT YOU JUST EXPLAINED TO ME NOW IS A LITTLE PROBLEM TO HANDLE COMPARE TO SERIOUS PROBLEMS I HAVE HANDLED, I WAS SO SHOCKED AND I SAID TO MY SELF WHAT PROBLEM COULD BE MORE SERIOUS THAN THIS. HE TOLD ME WHAT I NEEDED TO DO AS SOON AS POSSIBLE, BUT WHAT HE SAID LOOK SIMILAR TO WHAT I HAVE HEARD IN THE PAST, I WAS HAVING DOUBT ABOUT IT BECAUSE OF PAST EXPERIENCE, BUT I DECIDED TO TRY SINCE HE IS FROM NIGERIA HE COULD BE REAL AND DIFFERENT. SO I GAVE HIM 50% OF MY TRUST. THIS WAS LIKE I MAGIC AND DREAM COME TRUE TO ME, AFTER TWO DAYS WHEN THE SPELL HAS BEEN CASTEED, KATARINA FLASHED ME AT ABOUT 9.PM I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT BECAUSE I REALLY LOVE KATARINA AND WANT HER BACK. BY 7.AM THE NEXT MORNING SHE GAVE ME ANOTHER MISSED CALL I DECIDED NOT TO CALL BACK AS I WAS STILL ON SHOCK, AT ABOUT 10.AM THAT MORNING SHE CALLED AND I PICKED SHE SAID CAN WE SEE AFTER WORK TODAY I SAID YES SO SHE ENDED THE CALL IMMEDIATELY I GOT OFF WORK SHE CALLED ME AND TOLD ME WERE TO MEET HER, I WAS STILL ON SHOCK, BEHOLD WHEN I GOT THERE I SAW KATARINA CRYING WITH TEARS ALL OVER HER EYES, AND SHE SAID TO ME MY HUSBAND, I AM SO SORRY IMMEDIATELY I HUGED HER AND KISSED HER WHICH I HAVE MISSED ALL THIS YEARS. ALL THANK TO DR..USMAN KERIM. IF YOU ARE A MAN OF A WOMAN READY THIS AND YOU ARE PASSING THROUGH SIMILAR PROBLEMS LIKE MINE, DO NOT FAIL TO CONTACT THIS GREAT MAN DR.USMAN KERIM HE IS REALLY INDEED A REAL SPELL CASTER.

    HE SPECIALIZE ON THE BELOW PROBLEMS

    (1) If you want your ex back.
    (2) To care HIV/AID or related illness
    (3) You want to be promoted in your office.
    (4) You want women/men to run after you.
    (5) If you want a child.
    (6) Are you a contractor and you want to win contracts
    (7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be
    yours forever.
    (8) If you need help spiritually.
    (9) How you been scammed and you want to recover you lost money.
    (10)Stop Divorce
    (11)Invoking of Money Ritual


    And many more..

    Mobile number...+2348057756157

    Email...dr_usman.spiritualist@outlook.com

    website...http://dr-usmankerimspiritualtemple.yolasite.com/

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  53. You that is reading my testimony i want you to have the faith that it will also work for you the reason why am saying this. my husband left me for 6moths i never thought that he will come back to me because i tried all i can. he insist not to come back. 3 spell casters cheat me on internet they promise to bring back my husband and took my money for nothing, i was so confuse about my life. i was living in a sad life because there is no husband to cope with. a friend told me about dr. anu how he help her. that he is real grate caster the reason why i believe because she don't lie to me she is good friend of mine. that how i email dr anu for help after 3 days he bring back my husband to me. my heart is full of joy because dr anu did a grate work in my life. his email; anuspiritualhome@gmail.com

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  54. This is a testimony that I will tell to every one to hear. I have been married four 4 years and on the fifth year of my marriage, another man had a spell to take my lover away from me and my wife left me and the kids and we have suffered for 2 years until I met a post where this man DOCTOR UDO have helped someone and I decided to give him a try to help me bring my lover back home and believe me I just send my picture to him and that of my wife and after 48 hours as he have told me, I saw a car drove into the house and behold it was my wife and she have come to me and the kids and that is why I am happy to make every one of you in similar to meet with this man and have your lover back to your self. His email: udospiritualspelltemple@hotmail.com

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  55. At last my happiness has been restored through Dr ABULU of abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo.com , my mount is full of testimonies but here is a little i can say out of the whole wondrous things DR ABULU has done for me i was in a great and the sweetest relationship with my man JONES for two years and we were both in good terms and even planning of getting married this September 2014 so when he traveled for on the a business trip to Australia he melt a lady there whom he dated for two months and when he returned back to home he began to behave strange and with not long he said he is tired of this relationship looking for ways to break our love life and he finally push me out and bring in the Australia lady with he .this time i was frustrated and devastated about my love life so i vow not to rest until i am able to get back the only man i have ever loved so i began to look for a solution to restore my love life . one day my friend Jessica Sanchez came to me telling me about this man DR ABULU saying this man has helped he restore his life so i said let me also try as i have no other choice in getting back Jones . at first when i contacted he i thought nothing will work but it was like a dream and surprise when he told me go my child i have and wait for Jones can within the next two days and to my greatest surprise Jones actually called me and was pleading on the phone saying he was under a spell from the other lady so with all this great things DR ABULU of abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo.com has done for me i want you all to join me to say thank you to this man, and if any one here is also passing through a similar problem i will advice to contact today on his web site http://abuluspiritualtemple.webs.com and i know your problems will still be solve
    KLARA, SOFIYKO

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  56. Hi, my name is Chantelle. I’ve been seeing a guy for the last 7 months and we connect on a very deeps level and in fact, over time, I have come to the realisation that he is my soulmate. He was previously in a relationship but has realised he loves me deeply. I can’t wait to be his wife. This could have not been possible without the help of an truly great and genuine spell caster,, he is amazingly helpful and my happiness is at the heart of his wanting to always help. I am always grateful for him and always will be. If you’re having any issues at all, I definitely recommend you contact him on lavenderlovespell@yahoo.com

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  57. Dr. Magbu is really the best i have ever seen since my husband left me and my kids i have been trying different online spell caster and i did not see any result until a friend of mine gave me his contact Email address that i should contact him that he will be able to help me. The first time he told me what i have to do i thought he was the same as the other so called spell caster but i just have to give it a try which i did and after he did the casting of the spell i started seeing changes my husband send gift to my kids and also wrote a letter that he was going to come back home very soon i was so surprise and now we are back together again thank you My husband came back home after 4days with so much love and care. Here is his contact reunitingexspell@gmail.com . if you wish to seek help from him.

    Ann Taurus

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  58. My name is Stacy Blair i have been in bondage ever since my EX left for another woman, It was really hell for me and everybody told me to forget about him but i could not because i love him so much. Things got worse until my friend introduced me to this great spell caster DOCTOR UDO SPIRITUAL SPELL TEMPLE who have saved so many life and relationships and i contacted him through his email ( udospiritualspelltemple@hotmail.com ) i explained everything to him and he cast a spell for me immediately after three days, everything turn around and my boyfriend came to me on his knee begging for forgiveness that i have been the only woman he has loved in his life and he is ready to love me forever. I was really surprised because i have never seen such a miracle in my life. I am so thankful to this man and i will forever publish his name Doctor Udo.

    Contact him now for your own miracle via email: udospiritualspelltemple@hotmail.com

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  59. MY NAME IS FRANCISCO

    BE CAREFUL HERE, NOBODY CAN HELP YOU HERE OR EVEN SUGGEST HOW YOU CAN GET YOUR EX OR LOVE BACK,ANY TESTIMONIES OF MOST SPELL CASTER HERE MUST BE IGNORED.BECAUSE MOST OF THEM ARE SCAM I MEAN REAL SCAM WHICH I WAS A VICTIM AND I GOT RIPPED OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS BECAUSE I WAS SO ANXIOUS TO GET MY WIFE KATARINA BACK AFTER SHE LEFT ME FOR OVER 2YEARS WITH MY 3YEARS OLD SON JERRY,I HAVE APPLIED TO 7 DIFFERENT SPELL CASTER HERE I MET ON THIS BLOG AND ALL TO NO AVAIL THEY ALL ASK FOR SAME THING SEND YOUR NAME YOUR EX NAME ADDRESS AND PICTURE PHONE NUMBER ETC WHICH I DID OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND MOST OF THEM WERE FROM SOUTH AFRICA, I WAS SO CONFUSED AND I WAS ALWAYS SICK BECAUSE OF THIS PROBLEM AND I WAS SO DESPERATE TO HAVE KATARINA BACK TO ME I LOVE HER SO MUCH AND COULD DIE FOR HER. I SAW THIS Email Online ABOUT DR USMAN KERIM THE GREATEST SPELL TEMPLE, (dr_usman.spiritualist@outlook.com) TEMPLE OF BLACK AND WHITE IN NIGERIA, AND I DECIDED TO MAIL HIM.HE TOLD ME THAT ALL MY PROBLEM ARE OVER SINCE I HAVE DECIDED TO CONTACT HIM FOR HELP, HE TOLD ME TO EXPLAIN WHAT HAPPENED BETWEEN ME AND MY EX WIFE KATARINA AND I DID, I TOLD HIM ALL THAT HAPPENED FROM THE BEGINNING. AND HE SAID TO ME MY CHILD WHAT YOU JUST EXPLAINED TO ME NOW IS A LITTLE PROBLEM TO HANDLE COMPARE TO SERIOUS PROBLEMS I HAVE HANDLED, I WAS SO SHOCKED AND I SAID TO MY SELF WHAT PROBLEM COULD BE MORE SERIOUS THAN THIS. HE TOLD ME WHAT I NEEDED TO DO AS SOON AS POSSIBLE, BUT WHAT HE SAID LOOK SIMILAR TO WHAT I HAVE HEARD IN THE PAST, I WAS HAVING DOUBT ABOUT IT BECAUSE OF PAST EXPERIENCE, BUT I DECIDED TO TRY SINCE HE IS FROM NIGERIA HE COULD BE REAL AND DIFFERENT. SO I GAVE HIM 50% OF MY TRUST. THIS WAS LIKE I MAGIC AND DREAM COME TRUE TO ME, AFTER TWO DAYS WHEN THE SPELL HAS BEEN CASTEED, KATARINA FLASHED ME AT ABOUT 9.PM I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT BECAUSE I REALLY LOVE KATARINA AND WANT HER BACK. BY 7.AM THE NEXT MORNING SHE GAVE ME ANOTHER MISSED CALL I DECIDED NOT TO CALL BACK AS I WAS STILL ON SHOCK, AT ABOUT 10.AM THAT MORNING SHE CALLED AND I PICKED SHE SAID CAN WE SEE AFTER WORK TODAY I SAID YES SO SHE ENDED THE CALL IMMEDIATELY I GOT OFF WORK SHE CALLED ME AND TOLD ME WERE TO MEET HER, I WAS STILL ON SHOCK, BEHOLD WHEN I GOT THERE I SAW KATARINA CRYING WITH TEARS ALL OVER HER EYES, AND SHE SAID TO ME MY HUSBAND, I AM SO SORRY IMMEDIATELY I HUGED HER AND KISSED HER WHICH I HAVE MISSED ALL THIS YEARS. ALL THANK TO DR..USMAN KERIM. IF YOU ARE A MAN OF A WOMAN READY THIS AND YOU ARE PASSING THROUGH SIMILAR PROBLEMS LIKE MINE, DO NOT FAIL TO CONTACT THIS GREAT MAN DR.USMAN KERIM HE IS REALLY INDEED A REAL SPELL CASTER.

    HE SPECIALIZE ON THE BELOW PROBLEMS

    (1) If you want your ex back.
    (2) To care HIV/AID or related illness
    (3) You want to be promoted in your office.
    (4) You want women/men to run after you.
    (5) If you want a child.
    (6) Are you a contractor and you want to win contracts
    (7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be
    yours forever.
    (8) If you need help spiritually.
    (9) How you been scammed and you want to recover you lost money.
    (10)Stop Divorce
    (11)Invoking of Money Ritual


    And many more..

    Mobile number...+2348057756157

    Email...dr_usman.spiritualist@outlook.com

    website...http://dr-usmankerimspiritualtemple.yolasite.com/

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  60. my ex-boyfriend dumped me 5 months ago after I caught him of having an affair with someone else and insulting him. I want him back in my life but he refuse to have any contact with me. I was so confuse and don’t know what to do, so I visited the internet for help and I saw a testimony on how a spell caster (Dr Kasee) help them to get their ex back so I contact the spell caster (Dr Kasee) and explain my problems to him….. he cast a spell for me and assure me of 3 days that my ex will return to me and to my greatest surprise the third day my boyfriend came knocking on my door and beg for forgiveness. I am so happy that my love is back again and not only that, we are about to get married. Once again thank you for helping me to get my love back and your love spell is truely perfect, you are truly talented and gifted i will continue to publish your name on the net because of the good work you are doing.If you need his help contact him now through his email: (onimalovespell@gmail.com)tel +2347051705853 He also specialize on all kind of spell such as:

    1 LOVE SPELL
    2 WIN EX BACK
    3 FRUIT OF THE WOMB
    4 PROMOTION SPELL
    5 PROTECTION SPELL
    6 BUSINESS SPELL
    7 GOOD JOB SPELL
    8 LOTTERY SPELL

    YOU CAN CONTACT HIM NOW AND GET YOUR PROBLEM SOLVED email: onimalovespell@gmail.com


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  61. After being in relationship with emma for seven years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by reffering him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email: drinegbedionspellhome@gmail.com you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT YOU SIR HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS:drinegbedionspellhome@gmail.com CONTACT HIM NOW FOR SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEM


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  62. Oh my God, I'm so glad to tell everyone the real thing that happen to me...My name is EMILIANO BABARAH. If i refuse to share this testimony it means i am selfish to my self and to people i love so much whom might have similar problems, March 16th about something 7:23pm after taken our dinner my husband got crazy started calling a lady name Melisa I love you, i was so mad and started crying like a baby...then my husband left home for the idiot called Melisa, and never return back home then i believed when he uthen nderstand his self he will surly come back to apology, but instead he left me So i complained to my friend she told me she was having such problems in her marriage until she was introduce to DR ORIOMON who specializes in bringing back broken homes and broken marriages DR ORIOMON cast a spell for me in May 4th surprisingly my husband came home May 6th apologizing that i should forgive him that it will never happen again, i was so glad and gave the thanks to DR ORIOMON who save my marriage, if you are having similar problem you can contact him and His email address is (oriomonspiritualtemple@yahoo.com) you can still save your marriage if u really love your husband.


    Thanks EMILIANO BABARAH_USA

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  63. My Name is jennifer smith, base in New York .I will love to share my testimony to all the people in the forum cos i never thought i will have my girlfriend back and she means so much to me..The girl i want to get marry to left me a month to our weeding for another man..,When i called her she never picked my calls,She deleted me on her facebook and she changed herfacebook status from married to Single...when i went to her place of work she told her boss she never want to see me..i lost my job as a result of this cos i cant get myself anymore,my life was upside down and everything did not go smooth with my life...I tried all i could do to have her back to all did not work out until i met a Man when i Travel to Africa to execute some business have been developing some years back..I told him my problem and all have passed through in getting her back and how i lost my job...he told me he gonna help me...i don't believe that in the first place.but he swore he will help me out and he told me the reason why my girlfriend left
    me and also told me some hidden secrets.i was amazed when i heard that from him..he said he will cast a spell for me and i will see the results in the next couple of days..then i travel back to State the following day and i called him when i got home and he said he's busy casting those spells and he has bought all the materials items needed for the spells,he said am gonna see positive results in the next 2 days that On Monday...My girlfriend called me at exactly 02:35pm on Monday and apologies for all she had done ..she said,she never knew what she's doing and her sudden behavior was not intentional and she promised not to do that again. it was like am dreaming when i heard that from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him my wife called and he said i haven't seen anything yet... he said i will also get my job back in Four days time..and when its Friday,they called me at my place of work that i should resume working on Monday and they gonna compensate me for the time limit have spent at home without working..My life is back into shape,i have my girlfriend back and we are happily married now with two kids and i have my job back too. This man is really powerful..if we have up to 20 people like him in the world,the world would have been a better place..he has also helped many of my friends to solve many problems and they are all happy now..Am posting this to the forum for anybody that is interested in meeting the man for help. you can mail him on this e-mail dr. oputelspellcaster@gmail.com i cant give out his number cos he told me he don't want to be disturbed by many people across the world..he said his email is okay and he' will replied to any emails asap..hope he helped you out too..good luck dr. oputelspellcaster@gmail.com

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  64. hello everybody my name is Cynthia Morgan I just want to share my experience with the world on how DR.ABEGBE help me, I got my love back and saved my marriage… I was married for 3years with 1kid and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and argued almost every time… it got worse at a point that he filed for divorce… I tried my best to make him change his mind & stay with me because I love him so much and don’t want to lose him but everything just didn’t work out… he moved out of the house because it was a rented apartment and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster who eventually helped me out… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly because I was desperate and left with no choice… He did special prayers and used his power… Within 4 days my husband called me and he said he was sorry for all the emotional pains he had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily and our kid is happy too and we are expecting our second child… I have introduced him to a lot of couples with problems across the world and they have had good news… Just thought I should share my experience because I strongly believe someone out there need’s it… You can email him through his email. DR.ABEGBESPELLHOME@GMAIL.COM

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  65. I can not thank lord azeez enough for all he has done for me. About a year ago I my partner split up, we had both made BIG mistakes in our relationship. He ended up moving away from me to pursue a new life. I knew in my heart that he would be the only one to make me happy. I was relieved when I found your site and what you had to offer. I requested 3 day casting of the reunite us love spell and within two weeks Greg’s company had relocated him back to our hometown where I still lived. We immediately reconnected and move in with each other. Our wedding date is set for Summer 2012. Expect to see your invite in the mail! Get your help from lordazeez1990@hotmail.com it is the only answer to love problem

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  66. My name is Elizabeth Taylor from UK. I never believed in love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once when i went to Africa on a business summit. I meant a man who’s name is DR ABUBAKAR (drabubakarlovespell@gmail.com) he is really powerful and could help cast spells to bring back one’s gone, lost, misbehaving lover and magic money spell or spell for a good job or luck spell .I’m now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 3 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 4years. I really loved him, but his family was against us and he had no good paying job. So when i met this spell caster, i told DR ABUBAKAR what happened and explained the situation of things to him. At first i was undecided, skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. And in 8 days when i returned to UK, my boyfriend (now husband) called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married. I didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do. Well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid, and my husband also got the new job and our lives became much better. His email is drabubakarlovespell@gmail.com

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  67. HOW DR LOVE SOLUTION HELP ME GET MY EX BACK
    I read some views about DR LOVE SOLUTION and I was very impressed about what DR LOVE SOLUTION has done to many peoples and touch so many life all over the world . I reach DR LOVE SOLUTION drlovespellcastersolution@gmail.com Tel: +2348038096203 for help because my wife and I separated for three months (she asked for it) apparently she's fallen out of love with me and we've grown apart and has given up on our marriage of nearly 14 years we've been together for nearly 22 years I feel that we can't give up on this marriage and am trying everything to resolve the matter by all means, I'went for counseling but my wife doesn't want to !! Not sure what else to do then i seek Help from DR LOVE SPELL CASTER SOLUTION drlovespellcastersolution@gmail.com to help me Restored my marriage problems and bring back my wife that separated from me 3 months because i love her so much and i still want to spend rest of my life with her, DR LOVE SPELL CASTER SOLUTION told me to relax and remain calm that my wife will come back to me between 48 hours after he cast a spell on her, thought it was a joke because i don't believe it will come to past that my 14 years of marriage will be Resolved by Dr Love because i have try every things to make my wife love me again . Saturday Morning Before 48 hours that Dr love said , someone was knocking at my Door when i went to the door i saw my Wife ,telling me she was very sorry for all her mistake and that i should forgive her for all her bad attitude towards me , i was very happy to hear that ,i forgive her and we are living together happily now, Thanks So much DR LOVE SPELL CASTER SOLUTION without you i wont have get my wife back to me .
    Laurence

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  68. My name is varsha from India. Dr. Igbodo is just a dream come true for me. Words cant express how hapPy i am for what he

    did for me. He took away my sorrow and brought back my joy i less that 48 Hours. My husband who already filed a divorce

    suit against me in court. My husband now loves me so much now that he even took me for a honeymoon trip in Dubai. Dr. Epeku

    is just the best. Be careful about scammers claiming to be true spell casters. Google Dr. Epeku's name and all you would

    see is wonderful testimonies of how he helped people. To Crown it all he is based in Europe and not Africa where we have

    all the scammers. Contact him directly via email : igbodospiritualtemple@gmail.com

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