A Reader asks : How much obsession is too much obsession when in love?
Well first let’s start off with: What is obsession? The dictionary says:
1. Compulsive preoccupation with an idea or an unwantedfeeling or emotion, often accompanied by symptoms of anxiety.
2. A compulsive, often unreasonable idea or emotion.
As I’ve written about before, I’m not sure I know the difference between real love and obsession. However I do recognize that a compulsive preoccupation with anything is probably not healthy.
Obsession is an unhealthy preoccupation with the object of fixation. Love should be a mutual emotional act between two people. You can be in love, think about someone often, want to make their lives better, but maintain your own identity as a person. When you are obsessed with someone you love, your own identity begins to slip away in favor of being everything you believe that person desires. Losing who you are as a person is not healthy.
Obsession often leads to stress and anxiety when you can’t constantly be in the prescense of the one you love. Your very happiness seems to depend on them. No one should have this kind of control over your mind.
Being in love is a beautiful place to be. Being in obsession is not.