Wednesday, March 7, 2012

Push Me - Pull You : The Push-Pull Cycle


The Push-Pull cycle in Borderline Personality Disorder is complicated. There’s a million different variables that lead into and cause various episodes of this; love, fear, abandonment, dissociation, object constancy, splitting, etc. I’ve talked about the push-pull cycle, mentioned aspects of it in various places, but I don’t believe I’ve tried to pull it all together in one place. So let’s do that.

Push-Pull - is a chronic pattern of sabotaging and re-establishing closeness in a relationship without apparent cause or reason. It’s that back and forth feeling of wanting to be close to someone, letting them into a more intimate and vulnerable position in our life, being suffocated, or becoming afraid of that vulnerability, needing to escape [potentially] being hurt, fearing the loss, acting on that fear, and then desperately trying to get that person back from fear of that abandonment, often by apologizing profusely and doing everything we can to be perfect for them again. Rinse. Lather. Repeat.

Often for me this breaks down to two key factors; wanting to be intimately close to someone, and fear of being hurt/abandoned by them at the same time. The closer you allow someone to get to you, the more vulnerable you become to the reality that they are now in a position to hurt you more than other people. If you keep people at a distance you have a safety zone, an emotional buffer. But this doesn’t allow for true intimacy.

It’s that whole threat of intimacy. I want to be close, but I want to be safe too. The closer someone gets, the more able they are to hurt me. So someone gets too close, I push away. Half the time I think it’s for their own good! I know my issues. I’ve ruminated on the millions of possibilities that could happen if someone gets close enough to see the “real me”. The illusion of perfection will be shattered in the tarnished portrait of the bad person I really am. For as much as I want love, want to love, I don’t always believe I deserve it because I know how much has happened to me, everything I’ve done, all my baggage is too much to place on another person. What right do I have to unload all of this onto someone? So pushing away really is for their own good after all. Of course I’m rationalizing, but it’s true to me regardless. But then I’m left alone, I get lonely, and I miss the closeness that was there, and I want to pull back.

For the most part I think it’s a fear response. Fear that we will be left, that we aren’t worthy of being loved, that people are lying and trying to use us… an endless list of other things. We need reassurance and it takes a lot of energy to show us that. Unfortunately it’s a part of our nature to need this. It’s also a part of our nature to feel smothered by it, push it away, fear the loss of it, frantically try to retrieve it, and repeat the cycle endlessly, for as long as someone will let us.

From my article on Baiting and Picking Fights:
There’s something else though. An element of, if the other person will allow me to push, stay with me through the hurtful things I do, it ‘proves’ that they won’t abandon me. The more we can push away, the more baits and barbs we can throw, the more fights we can pick, the longer they show that they’ll tolerate it or try to work it out with us, the more we can believe that they mean what they say and aren’t trying to deceive us … If we can make someone we care for SO ANGRY, they’ll either prove us right, or prove us wrong. Either way we’ll know something for sure, and it stops (momentarily) the constant second guessing going on in our heads. Believing someone, trusting someone… I know I’ve been hurt so badly that I can never fully do this. That doesn’t mean I don’t want it. I just have to test the fences to be sure.

I think what triggers unstable behavior in relationships is the magnitude of intimacy. The closer the relationship, the more invested we are, the more frightening the possibility of it ending becomes. Funny, that this is almost always a self-fulfilling prophecy. We become frightened something will happen, we act in ways to push people away, to distance ourselves from them, before they can hurt us, and this very act is what starts the downward spiral into the destruction of the relationship. It sounds clean cut when you look at it like that, but it never is.



The pushing away is gradual. Often we don’t even recognize the things we do that manifest as pushing people away. Our thoughts and actions seem quite rational to our traumatized mind. No one sees it coming, not even us most of the time.

Hypersensitive to feeling trapped! This is one of the biggest triggers that makes me push away in relationships. It’s coupled by the sensation of being smothered. Boring-Ex smothered me. He’d coddle me. I would see him and I would have no room to express myself, be myself, I would lose myself because he would criticize when I did express myself. His personality was so overbearing that I could feel the air being slowly sucked out of my lungs whenever I was near him. I didn’t feel like I could be me, and the only way I knew to reestablish that was to eliminate the problem that created this deficit; the relationship. I did try talking to him about these things, but he wasn’t the kind to compromise.

That’s not to say that everything that goes on is purely in our own minds and created by our fears. Things are often brought about by how the other person treats us. I’ll do so much for people, pull people close, meet their needs and demands, and then eventually I’ll flip. I’ll be completely overwhelmed by what someone else wants when it’s not what I want. This often happens because I’ll take on so much responsibility for “our happiness” that I don’t express what I need in a constructive way. Instead, I’ll feel like I’m losing my sense of Self to their needs, not my own, that what I’ve just been doing is now too much, being taken advantage of, a demand instead of a desire, expected not appreciated and I’ll have to Push away to regain control of my own situation. It’s not quite the same as the traditional Push-Pull explanation, but the sentiments match up. It inspires feelings of resentment and resistance coupled with the borderline flipside desire to not be abandoned and needing approval. Can’t be too aggressive otherwise we’ll push people away irrevocably, can’t be too passive and just let things slide because then we’re just being taken advantage of and the resentment builds to explosion.  

A Non may have done nothing wrong, they may have unintentionally triggered us, or they may be someone that we’re afraid to get too close to because we can see the potential for an intimate relationship. Seeing the potential doesn’t mean we’re prepared to deal with it though. For me, and for many with BPD, there is a lot of abuse, a lot of hurt, a lot of pain in our past, and each new relationship is an opportunity to repeat that process. We have to move slow, emotionally. I often move fast physically to stave off the emotional intimacy that I really need. When I sense things getting too close, closer than I prepared to handle, I need to reestablish a safe zone, I push back. Sometimes this just means taking some space, sometimes it manifests as baiting and picking fights, sometimes it means dropping off the radar completely until I’m ready to rejoin humanity. What I want is to be close, but not too close. I can’t figure out how to do this without pushing away and pulling closer. Allowing someone in, and then forcing them back out.

How do you cultivate trust when you’ve been so wounded? How do you cultivate trust when you don’t actually know how to trust?
Finally, this also happens when we plain just don’t want to be with someone anymore. I’m not going to lie. This is exactly what happened with Boring-Ex. I wasn’t attracted to him when we were together. The only time I was attracted to him was when we were breaking up. I absolutely believe this was because I was more afraid of The Loss and not necessarily the loss of him.  So I would pull him back to me, despite the fact that I knew deep down that I didn’t really want to be with him. It still FELT like I did. In the moment I absolutely believed I needed to be with him. It was the fear of that loss that triggered my need to pull him back to me though.
The Push-Pull cycle is insidious. It sneaks up on you. Neither person may notice it at first because it begins so small. Only once it escalates do you really realize what is happening.

226 comments:

  1. I think the fact that you want intimacy at all is a good step in the right direction. I have trouble even really wanting to get that close to anyone. It's a nice idea and all I guess, but.... I dunno. it's like I can't have that closeness with someone unless I can somehow control their mind/thoughts and actions all the time, which is obviously impossible.

    As for trust?..... :/

    I think you're asking the right questions, though; and questioning the thought processes sometimes that hold you back.

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  2. Another perfectly timed blog entry, Haven. Last night I broke up with my friend. Ive been doing push/pull with him (he does it with me too) for the last few weeks and last night I snapped. I told him he wasnt being fair to me, he didnt love me enough to be my boyfriend, he just wants a glorified fuckbuddy and Im done with it.

    Its hard for me, because I cant tell when I am standing up for myself and when I am being overdemanding and unreasonable. I think its reasonable that I would want us to be making some forward progress after 8 months, and not him just using me for sex. He doesnt see it that way. He's all "different love" and he cares about me, just like he cares about the other women he fucks.

    Ive got to work on me. I cant be involved with someone who wont even commit to me in a non-monogamous fashion. It is killing what little self esteem I have.

    I was hoping when I pushed him away last night he would step up, but he didnt. So now I have to let him go :(

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    1. Oh man that sucks. Or maybe it's for the best that you finally snapped. The cycle is often more vicious than the actual ending of the relationships.

      It sounds like you've put up with too much in this relationship so far and you're not being unreasonable.

      There's never fault in needing to work on you. You deserve someone that holds you up and makes you feel good, not someone that fucks with your head and destroys your self esteem.

      It'll probably be rough for a bit but you can get through it.

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    2. Sarah

      I hear you. I'm only on this site trying to understand the push/pull. I can tell you as a "non", you are not over-reacting. By 8 months, most men are sharing their long term relationship goals.

      If he can't even be exclusive with you then you dont sleep with him. You need to roll back girl and go completely NO CONTACT. This idiot is playing you and humans will expend the least amount of energy possible for the benefits...would you pay $20 for something you could pay $2 for. His personality is almost impossible to change until he is ready. No perfect woman is going to make him change, yes yes all of us want to be the exception and tame him into being loving and committed but that only happens when HIS time is ready for that...not how wonderful the woman is....the woman who makes him change just happens to turn up at the right time...if you're thinking of hanging around incase he spontaneously combusts from a cockroach, to a frog to a prince (thanks Baggage Claim website for that quote), then you're dreaming girl

      Power up my friend....get rid of him and make the next guy value you...no sex until he is exclusive...you are worth more than casual.

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    3. My name is tucker stacey.This is a very joyful day of my life because of the help Dr.Trust has rendered to me by helping me get my ex husband back with his magic and love spell. i was married for 6 years and it was so terrible because my husband was really cheating on me and was seeking for a divorce but when i came across Dr.Trust email on the internet on how he help so many people to get thier ex back and help fixing relationship.and make people to be happy in their relationship. i explained my situation to him and then seek his help but to my greatest surprise he told me that he will help me with my case and here i am now celebrating because my Husband has change totally for good. He always want to be by me and can not do anything without my present. i am really enjoying my marriage, what a great celebration. i will keep on testifying on the internet because Dr.Trust is truly a real spell caster. DO YOU NEED HELP THEN CONTACT DOCTOR TRUST NOW VIA EMAIL: Ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com or call +2348156885231 or ultimatespellcast@gmail.com. He is the only answer to your problem and make you feel happy in your relationship.

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  3. Great post Haven, I agree with Sarah. Nicely timed.

    I'm the effing champ of push/pull.

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  4. Information and education are the key. Some people are well worth fighting through the Push/Pull battle. Haven, thanks for the info & the education. The Champ isn't so bad. :)

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  5. I've overcome part of this as I have been happily married 15 years in May. We had some rough times, but when I "restarted" therapy, I was diagnosed with PTSD and Major Depressive Disorder which caused me to go into full Borderline chaos. My husband started therapy and learned how to manage and take care of himself. This is one of the few relationships that I am firmly attached. However, I still do this with my therapist, but not as much. In the beginning of my first round of therapy, I tested and tested and push and push and pulled and pulled. Thank God he hung in there because it was 7 years of learning how to trust that he was going to just show up.

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    1. Hi I am Curtis Ruben New York (USA). I am 57 years of age I got married before 27 years. 11 years my wife die and I was alone. I am running a software company so in my office there was a Divorcee woman approx 35 years old, after my wife death she came closer to me and slowly we started an affair she is very pretty and beautiful and I really love her as I used to love my wife she also loves me as her husband we were living together at my home from last six months everything was going on very good I was very happy but before two months she started ignoring me and she left my home and whenever I call her she gives me an excuse and finally before 25 days she said to me that she can’t do it further she does not love me I was shocked what happened my heart was broken and literally I cried too much on that day I was mad nothing was right I tried to convinced her a lot but everything was useless, I can’t describe my situation but by chance I got the help of dr.Trust, on internet as I have told you I am owner on a software company so I didn’t believe at starting but I did not have any option so I talked to Dr.Trust he gave me 48 Days time to complete my work and he said that she will come back herself.it happened as he claimed I am very grateful to Dr.Trust we are now happy as ever before,dr.trust make her know how much we are meet to be together. If you are there having any problems in your relationship...you have to hurry up and get it touch with Dr.Trust is there to help you(ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com or ultimatespellcast@gmail.com tel: +2348156885231) i am so happy to share these my testimony with you.

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  6. My boyfriend of three years has just broken up with me three weeks ago. He has been diagnosed with different metal illnesses and one of this is BPD. I guess my question is, how can I tell if he just broke up with me because he is in his push/pull cycle or does he acutally want to break up with him. I know either way, it is his reality that he does not want to be in a relationship. I guess if he is going through a pull/pull cycle, I will try to tough it out and support him and be there for him. If he really does not want to be in a relationship, I guess I would just have to walk away.

    When I hung out with him this past weekend, I told him I felt like he cleaned me out of his condo but he actually stashed everything of ours/mine in the closet. He told me that he did not throw anything out. I had asked him why and he said something along the lines that he doesn't know what will happen in the future. I think he might be implying that he thinks there is a possibility we would get back together(?).

    He made plans with me to attend a music festival this weekend and seems to be very excited about it. Of course, with me still wanting to be in a relationship with him, I agreed to attend this music festival with him.

    I asked him he hangs out with me because he thinks it is easier for me or if he just feels sorry/bad for me. He said he hangs out with me because he likes it but then I ask him questions and that frustrates him and then he feels conflicted.

    He has told me that he needs me to move on and that he just wants to be alone and he doesnt want to be in a relationship...that he will just end up hurting me and he will never be able to commit to me like I commit to him.

    Help!! I want to stay in this but am I just really being stupid?

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    1. From my experience when I push away it's almost immediately followed by an attempt to pull back. Smaller arguments I'll try to pull back right away, after major break ups it'll be within a couple days and I'll be in a panic until I can get back with them.

      It doesn't sound like there's anything like that here. He may genuinely like you as a person (which is why he didn't just throw out your stuff which would be rude) and want to keep you in his life, but if he's not making an attempt to actually get back together, apologizing profusely, begging you to come back, etc, then his attempts to stay in contact may be genuine platonic affection but not romantic.

      He's told you that he doesn't want to be in a relationship so you should probably take him at his word. He sounds like he cares for you but that doesn't mean it's right for a relationship. Honestly the best thing for you is probably to take some time off from him until you can move on and get over your feelings for him. He's already out. For you to stay in and keep asking him questions is probably why he gets frustrated.

      For someone diagnosed with BPD this actually sounds like a pretty rational and reasonable response from him.

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    2. Thanks for your response.

      I guess I was confused because he told me he didn't want to be in a relationship and then he would tell me that he might change his mind next week. So then I have this glimps of hope.

      He has told me that he feels conflicted, frustrated and like he is suffocating and a lot of it has nothing to do with me or the relationship. He said that he pushes me away because that is what he has always done in the past. He said when he feels like this, he just pushes people away...and that is part of the reason why he doesn't have many friends...and then he feels down because he doesn't have many friends.

      I guess I just want to make sure of everyting because I walk away. I had once told him that he cannot push me away like he did to his friend and that I would be here for him and love him no matter how crazy the rollercoaster is.

      He said that he doesn't usually know if he is doing the push/pull thing until later on and then he regrets it.

      He said with that saying "you don't know what you have until it is gone", he has to play that game. He feels like he has to break up with me to see if he gets that feeling(?).

      Anyways, thanks for listening to me rant and vent.

      I really thought he was in the push/pull cycle and maybe I painted it that way to give myself hope.

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    3. and if I tell him I'm going to let him go, if this is a push/pull cycle, he would want to get close to me again?

      Sorry, I get kind of confused. I have different people telling me different things.

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    4. Yeah it's likely. If you tell him you're going to move on, and actually make the move so it looks like you are... if he starts getting clingy or really needs attention and wants to get even closer again then it would be more push/pull cycle.

      If he let's you move on, then he may just mean what he says.

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    5. Thank you for your help.

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    6. Ultimately the choice is yours and depends on what you're okay with dealing with. It's never just one cycle of push-pull. It will happen over and over, maybe not forever, but it isn't usually just one instance. That can be a lot for people to take emotionally, but if he's someone that you feel is worth it (because we do have many many redeeming qualities as people, BPD aside), then it could be worth the emotional investment for you.

      Either way, it sounds like if you don't take a step back, he won't be able to figure it out. I do understand what he means. I'm usually never sure about someone until I discover how afraid I am of losing them.

      Really the best advice I can give is try not to overthink it, and take it day by day.

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    7. We had a brief conversation last night. He said that now that he is not with me, he doesn't feel frustrated anymore. He is not sure why and he can't pinpoint the reason. I guess it really was the relationship then if he doesn't feel frustrated anymore.

      Thanks for all your responses.

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    8. Not a problem at all. Sometimes things just end. In the end it'll be better for both of you to find someone that is who you really needs. I know it feels horrible now though ::hugs::

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    9. This sort of reminds me of my current situation, but I'm not sure. My boyfriend and I broke up because he had a freak out one night during an argument and I ended up in the hospital diagnosed with BPD because of my subsequent breakdown over it. For me, that helped me make a lot of sense of what sorts of things were happening in my head during various situations, but I often sometimes wonder if my boyfriend is also undiagnosed BPD, and here's why...

      Since the breakup, we have been slowly reestablishing a relationship from the ground up, and the process has been a few months. He has said to me and some of his friends that he just wants to focus on fixing himself and our friendship for now and I was okay with that, because I felt like we would eventually gravitate towards what we had naturally. But then the push-pull began, and I recognized it from the brief break up we had had about a year and half prior. He'd build me up, talk to me, want to hang out with me, then go a little quiet. The big difference in this time and last time is that I have been trying to be more communicative, especially about the things that trigger my BPD and make me split, like this push/pull cycle. Recently, his push phase went so far as to be flirting with me and teasing with rekindling the relationship for about a week, and then he went stone quiet. My BPD was obviously super triggered by this, and I often end up riding the tides of his push/pull, but when I made him tell me what was going on (as I could tell it couldn't be just "work is stressful" since he was being more quiet than usual), he said he met someone he was getting a feel for and might consider pursuing, though maybe they'd just end up friends, the relationship would be hard, he wasn't sure.

      So after thinking about it for a few days, I told him that maybe we shouldn't talk for a bit until he figured out what he wanted to do, because my brain couldn't handle being put in those emotionally vulnerable situations so often. I asked for just two weeks of this, and he said not to put a time limit on it, for me to take the space I needed, and he'd take his, and that I could contact him when I felt comfortable to. It hasn't even been a week and I'm dying... I want to reach out again, but if his behavior is anything like last time, putting my foot down and sticking to it is what made him clean up his act. So I'm hoping that this will be the right move to stop the cycle, but I've also been freaking out that I just slammed the door and he'll think I'm overreacting to something that might not even mean anything except that he's crazy confused and conflicted and unable to tell up from down.

      Our mutual friends all express pride that I stood up for myself because he was jerking me around, though all of them contest that knowing him, it was unlikely he had any idea he was. Some of my other friends feel like I'm too fixated on him, but I think that's because they've been listening to me handle this push/pull thing for like half a year now. Anyway, I guess I'm just curious what you think of this situation, if it sounds like my boyfriend is push/pulling or if he's just fucking with me. And maybe if my prediction that putting my foot down will help at least push him out of the cycle, if not back to me?

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  7. hello Haven...after being envolved with my boyfriend with BPD...things were looking pretty good for the past 3 months, he tells me he needs some time off to get a clear picture, he needs to challenge his day to day fears, it has nothing to do with me he says...now its 5 days and have no news....what do i do?...i have some very deep feelings for this man, but don't know if i should just let it be till he comes back to me...or move on, or at least try...cause i am so deeply hurt...lolita

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    1. I would say it's ok to check in. Tell him you're thinking about him and wonder where he is.

      5 days isn't terribly long. I've taken breaks from people because I believed I need to before that have lasted longer. It's ok to touch base, but don't push. Let him have the space he needs but reassure him that you'll be there when he comes back.

      If he takes much, much to long, than make it clear that you need someone that will be there. You don't deserve to wait around forever. But if you really do care, it's okay to wait a while a give him time to work through what he's working through.

      Relationship are a two way street. It's important, and productive, that he's telling you what he needs. But it's important that he respects what you need as well when you need some reassurance as well.

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    2. thanks for your reply...very kind of you...i spoke to him last thursday...he give me all kinds of excuses why he wasn't calling...one of them was that his therapist prefers that he is alone...then he told that while he was with me i talked too much about my ex...i reassured him with that...so he told me he would call me the next day...he didn't so i made the weekend pass...and i text him tonight telling him i wanted to know if he was ok...and that i was on st.denis street and thinking of him because we use to go there often....he replied that him too was on st. denis street having supper with his son...and also thought about me...and thats the way he ended it...now i am more confused because i don't want to call him back...don't want to bother him....oh by the way i had some clothes at his place and the other day he said he would mail it to me....he is acting very strange....i wonder if he moved on with someone else????...do you think he has remorse and he would even miss me???....don't know what to do....right now i need to consult...its the first time i care so much about a man...thanks Haven just to read me....!!!

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  8. Thank you Haven for sharing your insights. This is exactly what I needed to read and have some degree of understanding. For the past year and a half, I have been trying to pinpoint this very description of behaviour.In one weeks time, I have had three phonecalls; can we start seeing each other again and take it slow, then planning future events and staying over at his new place and then the call a few days later, you and I can't get back together. There is no future with us. Sheer past projected breakups already predicting future outcomes. All breakups have stemmed from jealousy, trust issues and non anger provoking situations. A rollercoaster ride at a non amusement park!

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  9. Hi Haven. I stumbled upon your blog yesterday and can't stop reading. The same way I walked into an Al-ANON(my boyfriend got sober 6 months prior) meeting 8 months ago and realized I am actually an alcoholic myself(6 months sober Aug.6th), yesterday I began a voracious hunt for the reasons why I still think and act the way I do(the inner devils still hanging about), and felt a sad relief that BPD is me.Unquestionably, your empathy, personal stories and candor have soothed, shocked, amused, compelled and inspired me through 5 days of silence from my boyfriend of 3 years.

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  10. He is a recovered alcoholic, almost a year, and is doing well. We were living together, both sober and having every chance to have a healthy relationship, but because of my over-the top overreacting word for word same inner thoughts and outer actions/reactions as you told with your boyfriend, it became clear that I had to move out.I left kicking and screaming literally.Yup, you know what kind of lunatic I acted like.When I'm like that it's not dramatic. It's something beyond a definable emotion. I was getting literally out of my mind. The way I was acting was in no way correlating to what I was feeling. Instead of calmly talking to my bf, I emotionally ruined us. I pushed so far it wasn't far enough in my eyes....never is--sadly. It was watching a physical body writhe and cry being controlled by a mind not foreign to it, but not of it's choosing. I've been inflicting this scenario on my bf for 3 years. I don't want to do it anymore. No physical being would willingly put a BPD mind in the command center! I got sober, yet with not a drop of booze in me for 6 months, my emotional "freak outs" continued on their usual 2-day cycle. 2 good days/2 screaming, aggressive,awful beyond irrational behavior would ensue---torture me and him for 24hours straight(I would not allow either of us to sleep). Some AA's would say I'm a dry drunk. That term is loosely defined as continuing to do the same things that didn't work when drunk-sober. I guess that label probably works too!Bring on the dysfunction! Moreover the clustered group of thoughts/experiences/reactions/obsessive behaviors and mind ruminations define the brain that I have. It's how my brain works and always has. I can accept that my brain is sucky and broken and ill, I just want to believe that there are ways or medicines out there that will allow me to have happy relationships again.

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  11. I can see clearly my inappropriate reactions now that I'm sober, but they are not stopping soley because there is no booze in my brain. So I had to figure something more was going on. I've known something was simply not functioning in my brain the way it does in non-BPD people since I was a toddler, I've just never had it spelled out so plainly and clearly!THANK YOU!Obviously, this isn't a happy revelation(addict and probably BPD) but if I can somehow stay alive maybe there is hope that I can find a way to have close healthy relationships with people. I never have. You've given me so much to think about. While I'm so daunted by the total destruction I've caused, tonight(it's 4am and no im not up for work!insomnia every night...yay)I think I want to live. Like you I've never thought of actually killing myself. I was more of the mind of not caring if lived I died. If I drank myself into a coma one night and my heart just stopped beating, well ok...I've always wondered if heaven actually exists and if it's cool like in the movie Ghost?----WTF?! That's my alcoholic mind at it's finest.I do care if I live or die today, but I'm left with an unsoothed BPD mind coping with being asked to leave my home with my boyfriend, and being afforded no compassion, love, support, familiarity or continued commitment from the man I love. Totally alone, living with an overweight, alcoholic, meeting-a-guy obsessed,disliking-being around me because I'm skinny obsessed, dirty, disorganized, smelly, poor-hygenic roommate.I need to make a move to live in a home bursting with good vibes and karma, uncluttered and clean home. It's not about the money. I can afford to live elsewhere. I came here, to this old drinking buddy's(that's all she really ever was)apartment at the last minute when my bf kicked me out. Right now, I feel beyond scared. I feel doom, like surely, I will screw it up again, continue to be miserable and unable to cope and make good decisions. I have so much practice of making bad choices and suffering amazingly unbelievable bad consequences.Yea well it looks like I have to keep this sucky brain because I can't find a coupon for a brain trade or upgrade or something on line.

    But thanks to you Haven I'm going to try to get through this and live and not lose the person I love or myself to this mental disaster, well permanent state of chaos is a better description. I've lived in crisis mode for 25 years.Here's to hope for finding some kind of sustainable relief, respite and unconditional understanding from the people we love. Tonight I'm meditating and praying that the people I love can find a way to internalize how sad I am to own this brain and how very much I want to change so that I can love them back!

    You are flat out a gifted writer. I'm glad you're writing a book. Your blog is the definitive, go-to resource for BPD folks. I was a journalist. I worked writing for a CBS television affiliate for years. You're good! I destroyed that writing opportunity, but just reading about your life and seeing the words come together to affect the world-really is awesome. I just want to encourage you to keep going. You already have something great, and you are inspiring me to at least start journaling again tomorrow.I've so much gratitude for you and I may never meet you. Thank you seems so small....a little prayer I hear every day, so simple. never overused...it can't be I don't think. It applies so sweetly to almost everyone in the world: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.

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  12. Anonymous and Haven, it was great to read your comments on here. I too have been in a very similar relationship to Anonymous where I have been dealing with what I believe is a BPD man. He has not been diagnosed or at least he has been diagnosed but he never told me. Anonymous if you click on my name it will bring you to my blog and it may help you in someway as your relationship is so similar to mine its uncanny. My 'BPD' man told me towards the end of our 6 year relationship he didnt want or need anyone when it came down to it. That of course crushed me because we had been together a long time and towards the end he was just calling me his friend. He told me right from the start he could only sustain a easy going relationship but I fell for him because he was wonderful, attentive, caring and all those things I look for when I seek a mate. But overtime I felt that things were not terrific.

    Initially we had probs in the bedroom dept and he blamed it on 'performance anxiety' telling me it was perhaps just psychological he couldnt perform. Then we got a little help and things improved and we were very happy for a while. But the moment I really needed him (I miscarried) he may have been there for me on Gmail but in person he was not. Any little thing like my grandfathers death, my Mum's breast cancer, moving house etc He really was not there and didnt seem to know how to be there for support.

    OK some men dont do feelings sort of stuff but with him I knew something was different. He is a gifted musician and he would fly into a rage when things didnt go right or he would often talk more about himself than us.... I also spent many a time boosting his ego too.

    Now I am alone. In Feb of this year he dropped a bombshell on me, he told me he had met up with an old school friend. Time will tell with that relationship and we have only had sporadic contact since yet he still keeps my number on his mobile, I am still on his Gmail. Like you I thought we could be forever. I put so much love into this man and within a short time of his news I at the tender age of 38 had an angina attack. My heart suffered really badly and I just thought it was a panic attack at first.

    Maybe one day he may come back and maybe your guy may too but for me I am not going to sit around Anonymous I have to move forward. Yes its hard, its bloody hard but my health is important and more important than waiting around for someone who pushes and pulls you when they want you. How about you tend to you now. Nuture yourself, find some people that have similar interests and get out and discover what is out your front door step. I walk every day to work and although its hard without this man near, I breathe deeply and I enjoy the sunshine, I take time to enjoy what is around me rather than rushing as I did with this guy. I learnt so much from being with him but right now I am learning about me and once you find out about you, you will love yourself more. You will be ready for someone, not necessarily him but you will have more confidence in yourself too. We will survive!! Be strong :-)

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  13. Hi, I just wanted to leave a little post of deep thanks. I only just read this blog post for the first time a few minutes ago, and I'm sitting here shaking and trying not to burst into tears (of both happiness and sadness!).

    FINALLY there's something that's written in just the right way - so that I can understand - that tells me what's going on within me! I'm so familiar with the Push-Pull Cycle, I've had it for as long as I can remember. Naturally, it's been hellish.

    There's a wonderful, caring man in my life who's showing interest in me (and who is a Clinical Psychologist, of all occupations!), and while he's in the perfect place to understand me, I just don't want to screw things up again.

    I'm not expecting miracles, but I do hope that the information that I have gleaned from your post will help me to see what's happening, and try to either ward off some of the cycle, or at least be able to explain to him what's happening to me.

    Thank you. Thank you so much. x

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    1. Hello and welcome. I'm so glad you were able to find the kind of understanding that you've been searching for.

      It really is hellish. I know everyone has different ways of dealing, but for me I do think it's helpful to be able to recognize my behaviors so I can learn to deal with them better in the future. I hope you're able to as well.

      Good luck!

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    2. I have been going through a push pull cycle since i met my current girlfriend. However it now seems i have pushed to far. I have never had feelings such as i have for her and now am desperately trying to pull her back. Is there any help for this. Although i have booked counselling sessions from this week. Please help.

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  14. There was this guy and we got really close, we both really liked each other and he asked me out but before I could answer he suddenly changes his mind and says it "might not work" what's happening??

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  15. Hi Haven, I finally found a blog which seems to be helping me in understanding my own situation. There are so many questions I have but don't know where to start. I am in a push/pull friendship/relationship? with someone who shows all of these traits you list. (I feel I am reading all about him)

    I really love him and would never do anything to hurt him, but he HAS hurt me terribly in the past. Confrontation led to total denial on his part,I understand completey why he denied his actions but at the same time I knew he was lying to me which only served to hurt me more.

    As all of the drama unfolded I gathered a deep sense of him being scared that I would hurt him in return (in other words, take some kind of revenge)

    He has hung on to me now for more than the last year, still declaring his deep love for me, but will NOT give me any real time.

    This was very physical in the beginning, but with a few problems which I desperately tried to figure out and understand. We got there in the end, and guess what, he showed his true Narcissitic traits, some times I felt he was actually enjoying hurting me.

    In all of this ( you can imagine the pain I felt) he has kept me there dangling, and only really pulled back at me if he feels I am no longer interested. I have had some really dramatic excuses for his absence, all of them pretty unbelievable, but I have tried to let them pass after studying and trying to understand him.

    I always knew from the start that he was not an honest person, again, I tried to see deeper to find a logic reason.

    I have stayed, waited, hung around, let the excuses go, left him to come back when he feels ready, then I have got very frustrated at his total lack of empathy for my feelings and questioned him only to have him deny his actions, and the cycle begins again.

    What in your opinion is the best way to deal with this? I have tried ignoring him, I can't. I know he needs me and probably confuses this with 'love'

    Reading your post above has made me think differently and put all I have read into a different perspective.

    I have had the usual few days of no contact, and then ' I feel you are getting tired of this, I've been expecting you to say it's over'

    Does this mean he is waiting for me to end it all?

    I am stuck in a vortex with all of this, going round and round with no real relationship, yet he just will not say to me 'it's over for me'

    I don't want to lose him, I want to understand what his fears are and work with them, I would like to at least have some kind of deep friendship with him if he is happy with it, but he just keeps saying, I can't have you for just that! How do I handle it if there is any hope at all. Obviously I don't want to be used as a 'fix' either, and have him there just to ennjoy toying with me.

    What are we supposed to do when we give boundaries but they are ignored and we are left banging our heads against a wall of confusion and hurt,it is nothing short of torture for a non.

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  16. Hi to everyone in here. I have a problem with my boyfriend, which i feel likes the push/pull cycle. He has done it the 3rd time today. He said he was just busy with work and school,and tells me that i dont need him,that i am already done with school and everything. He has been hurt deeply as a child and he said that sometimes,he doesnt care about the stories of people. He would listen to them but remain indifferent. Today he said he wanted space, and says im the most wonderful girl,but he doesnt deserve me. He started to tell me he wanted to remain friends, but with benefits! How horrible! I told him to stand up for his choice,but he asked for time to think about it. 0ne time he said he doesnt wanna let go becoz he feels like hes gonna regret it. He got upset when i told him that we wont talk anymore. He just blasted ''so you really wanted to leave me?'' Then when we ended the call,he asked when we could talk again? He hasnt been diagnosed with it, but i suspect that he is. Im glad to have read this enlightening post... Advice,pls.should i let go,or not? He's so hard to understand.

    God bless to all, and thank you Haven!

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  17. I have a friend of 6 yrs who for the second time has pushed me away.The last time was for 8 months and when he came back around it was like nothing happened. This time, he stopped talking to me a month ago, then 2 weeks ago he blocked me from his facebook page, then last week he called me n said i undermine his relationships, talk behind his back and was not happy i talked to his mom even though i am close to his family and he knows his mom n i talk. about a year ago he told me i was like a second mom and he is always quick to tell me how important i am in his life...but then he pulls this crap. He knows he needs help as he has told me in the past and last week he told his mom he is going to talk to someone. he has a girlfriend of a year that supposedly he is in love with but she also had a crush on him for 3 yrs while he was married(he is getting a divorce now). As of Aug his wife would not sign divorce papers which I feel triggered this latest episode. Anyways, does this sound lie BPD or something similar? Do I leave him alone 100% as he wants?

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  18. Hi,
    I came upon this and it breaks my heart because its exactly what I went thru for five months with a girl I adored. The push pull thing was insane but I kept coming back to her because I wanted to show her that she could trust me. She went balistic on me and said I wasnt in her heart, and that she doesnt trust her ability to pick a man because of an ex that died suddenly. I walked out. Four days later, she texted me and begged me to come back telling me that I trigger her emotions. All she kept telling me is that our intimacy makes her out of control and that she cant handle it. I went back, but the cycle began. I couldnt take it anymore, so after her gaslighting and bullying I told her I couldnt do it. I walked. She texted me asking me why i was doing this and that she was confused. I told her I couldnt accept her abusive behaivor anymore. I never heard from her again. I dont know if she ever loved me, but her statement that rings in my ear is "I dont like being out of control with my feelings. You could do anything thing you wanted to me and I would still want to be with you" I told her, All I want to do is treat you good. I am dead inside because I miss her so much but reading your blog makes me know it would never be. I guess I just wish Iknew if she ever cared. We were doing so great together and then she just beat my heart physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Your thoughts are appreciated....and just some advice to bpd people It takes time to trust, and it somebody is trustworthy, they will take the time necessary if you could just be honest about it. Sabatoging brings the worst out in people. I did my best but every man has his limits and she just wouldnt stop. One week great one week run away. Thanks for your blog. Its helping me. Just wish I knew what I was dealing with.

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  19. PS Was there anything I could have done different? I gave her space, but as soon as we got close again, she would do what you are saying...picking fights, being mean, needing space. I guess I am killing myself inside because I put my foot down to stop the abuse. She always came back, but when I told her I wont stand for it anymore, she was gone. I wish I could reach out to her, but I told her I wouldnt. Does this ever stop?

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  20. Haven,
    You know you are the only one that says sticking with a BPD is not crazy. I appreciate it. Therapist only interested in helping us to move on because the chaos doesn't stop. The chaos may not stop but how we deal with it can change. Thanks for the encouragement.

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  21. - I am kasha i lives in uk and i was in a serious relationship with my ex guy for three good years.. One day we were in a dinner party, we had a little misunderstanding which lead to a Quarrel and he stood up and left me at the dinner party. i try to call him but he was not picking my calls so after than i contacted my brother and told him about it,my brother so much love me that he had to see him on my behalf,he told my brother that it is over between us.. Then i contacted a friend of mine that had this similar experience and she directed me to one of the spiritual diviner (maduraitemple@yahoo.com).at first i thought it was not going to be possible and i contacted him i was ask to come up with a little requirement,so i did what i was ask to do, after 3 days i was in my office when my ex guy called me and was asking me to forgive him and come back to him. i was very surprise it was like a dream to me,so ever since we have been happily married with one kid my lovely baby(Ceslav)...i wish you the best of luck...

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  22. Who the heck are the people here praising withcraft spells for love.withcraft is to be condemned for undermining target's will if no other reason. I have been on receiving side of withcraft and all i can say is... it cannot be love if you must overpower someone at mind to care about you robotically.what s disaster.

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  23. Haven... This article sounds EXACTLY what keeps happening with me and my GF. Just happened today. She's been slowly distancing herself for about a month or so. Then pretty ubruptly (or so it seemed to me) all communications stopped. I sent her a txt and asked for a reply. What I got sounds exactly like things you say here. And a up to 2 months ago (and on/off for YEARS, I've been the love of her life... Talk most days, she wants my company often, etc. now all of a sudden (so it seems), I'm annoying to her (because of how much time we've been spending together. (this happened also about 7 months ago too. BOTH times ironically about the time her answered attempts at contacting with one of her patents SHE hurt occurred! I'm kinda thinking classic transference/projection... "Folks whom I love hate me/ won't talk to me anymore/ abandoned me"... So I'm going to punish the one I love"

    Then when those emotions heal enough, she'll be ready/able to get back to the relationship with me! She said that she simply needs some time and space from me and that when we do resume, need to rethink just how much time we spend together. (AGAIN, she did that EXACT same thing to me those many months ago)

    Oh and of course she won't admit that BPD, BP, or some other emotional "disorder" is at play. She's just expressing what she really needs.

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  24. Just today I realized that I have been sabotaging my marriage for years. Yesterday was a celebration that we both looked forward to, after quite a while of having issues. I woke up and sabotaged the whole day and we both moped around until I went to bed first. I went to the internet and looked up the word relationship sabotage. We've been doing it to each other! Time to revisit my therapist and get to the bottom of this...I think I know where the abandonment fears came from in my childhood. And that's who I'm taking care of...ME, until I get to the bottom of this.

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  25. I have been seeing my boyfriend for two years now we both met in the pub and we both were alcholics. During the first year he became violent and beat me up three times and head butted me and threatended me with a knife. Since the last beating we decided to give upvdrnk and have been sober for over a year and there have been no further incidents. I keep on going over and over in my mind the horrific events and if that will happen again in the future. He wants to marry me and have children with me but I cant trust him yet. Am I doing the push pull thing because of my bpd or am I generally scared. I have just told him I want to split as I cant live with this indisisivness but I feel that I will miss him and his financial help when hes gone. He has helped me through do much however I cant get close is it because of his violent pass or my bpd? Please help I have important decissions to make and make the right ones. I sometimes can want all he iffers and feel really happy but then feel so sad and scared and dont wsnt him in myvlife

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    1. Oh darlin, this is not Push-Pull. This is abuse. You have general cause to be frightened. He's already beat you 3 times, the odds that he will never do it again??? Don't seem good to me. It's very common to still have feelings for someone that abuses you. You probably will miss him... but that doesn't mean you don't deserve to be treated well, it doesn't mean you shouldn't want a life and a relationship without fear. You deserve someone that does not physically abuse you. So even if you do miss him, it doesn't mean it was the wrong decision to leave. When you find someone that treats you well, you'll have your proof.

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  26. It sounds like a phobia because it isn't terribly logical but an extreme fear. but deep down, as any human being you crave love. So you have a phobia of love but also a deep desire for love, and because there is conflict, you bounce back and forth. well, people can get over phobias!

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  27. I have been dia I have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder post traumatic stress disorder and borderline personality disorder and I'm currently on disability for it I've struggled so hard with relationships I came across this blog in couldn't believe how unbelievably familiar these previous stories of their ex or current boyfriend girlfriend pushing and pulling them away wanting distance wanting them back...etc I do the same thing and I've actually convinced myself and pride myself on the fact that I can play mind games with people but in all reality I'm so sad and lonely I can't bear it. almost like I don't know how to be sweet I feel all dirty or uncomfortable when I feel things are going well in a relationship.. completely sabotaging everything we've built for absolutely no reason. I know in the back of my mind that they will get tired of that s and I will move on to someone else and repeat the same cycle over and over again. I'm currently with this great guy I really like and don't know how to be close when we start having sex and it feels good I'll stop him. like I'm scared of the possibility of him getting me off because only 1 other has ever done that that I've allowed to go to that level. and I'm so obsessed with the guy and he loves me but I left him. is this making sense? What can I do to reassure myself it's okay to feel. I know getting hurt can't possibly over ride not even feeling at all. I'm so programs to manipulate and hurt em play with other people's heads it's involuntary. I feel like I am a horrible person that doesn't deserve love but at times I feel that I am or were they then all others because I can get a lot of different mental be involved with me and keep them holding on until I get psycho and start with these bipolar symptoms. they think I'm a challenge and I I am worth the battle. I guess it makes them feel special that I'm with them because they see how many other guys want me. in all honesty I got off what may and bad and if I don't have any kind of feelings towards him I can totally please him and fake the entire retain and have him absolutely obsessed with me and I love this I fucking love it. if I have feelings for the man I can't even get past 5 minutes of it feeling good or even maybe if we're kissing and I start to feel an intense feeling I'll pull away I'll make him feel like he's doing something wrong. when really he's doing everything exactly right. ever since I can remember maybe starting at age 6 I have than a riding person off of chaos. Probably bend to the psych ward over 10 maybe 15 different occasions. I swear I'm so delusional I feel bad I don't have this disorder or any disorder that they diagnose me wet I feel that I'm actually tracking them into thinking that I have it and really I'm so confused I don't know if I've talked myself into really having it or if you know that I was born with this? Please give me some advice to help me not sabotage this relationship I know if he has in the past week been over 5 * and each time I have left him Feeling like a complete failure because I stop in the middle of getting intimate in the bedroom. everything turns off words and I feel like well I might as well go ahead and break up with them because it's just too much weird stuff when everything was going right to hours before. am I delusional or do you think I have this disorder. I can tell you I've been with over 400 men in my life and can only remember maybe 5 of the experiences in detail. almost as if my brain is putting a mental block on my ability to feel these senses um reactions are just not capable of you know coming out of Me. please help!!!

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  28. Sorry my spelling was in exactly the greatest on what I was trying to get across. I feel that I don't have this disorder that I've actually been pricing myself on tracking these doctors into thinking I am when really I feel I'm not. I'm on disability for it and um you know sometimes I will withdraw from the world for say 5 or 7 days and I'll expect everything to be fine and be the same it was when I left it and I expect anyone close to me to just understand and deal with it. if not I'll just find another you you're not hard to replace. when really it's all may I have a Taj what they have to offer their qualities that I don't cause ass scare me because I don't know how to give them what they give me or could give me back. it's so sick that I find pleasure in hurting people playing mind games with them and I guess really in my head I don't get pleasure from it but I talk myself into the fact I guess is a coping mechanism into the fact that um there's gotta be some reason I'm doing this so I I don't know. I really can't ruin this relationship how do I stop myself from pulling away when the sexes feeling good. when I'm in bed with a man that I'm not feeling a connection with I can please him and put on the bass performance ever and I can't even get close to that when I feel something for someone. I've actually gone as far as asking this guy to pretend he was a client of mine because I used to do you know I'm not gonna lie I have had men pay all my rents my cars um just take care of me and I've use sex to do it. so in order to not lose what I want to give this guy I try to put it in my head he's just another client so I'm pleasing him but I'm not pleasing myself. and to ask such an absurd thing of him going back to they well I'll just envision you as a client because I'm in barrist I can't even get through 1 minute of a connection because I'm so scared is feeling good. same goes for all other areas of my relationships. I'm sorry for freaking mind warp I don't know how I feel anymore I don't know why I do the things that I do. but at the same time I see how I've done them and I know what I'm doing but I just don't get why do it and I can't stop. please help me be able to feel intimate feelings without being like I've done something that's wrong or isn't is it normal or I don't deserve I don't know. how how how?? When I go to see a psychiatrist and I've seen so many I will have them so confused and not understanding my story line when they ask me questions because in my had things are shadow In N Out of what really did happen or what was I thinking I was making happening so I'm just kind of clustered all Over the place because in my head maybe I was wine at the time but I really did convince myself it was the truth So how have I track my own mental state into not knowing if I'm really being honest or not anymore.. okay I'll stop there I'm going on and on and not making sense again lol. please help me be able to feel without resisting!

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  29. I've spent the whole day sending apologies to those I hurt when drunk the other day. I have never felt such shame, remorse, sadness or regret. It's prob because I'm allowing myself to get close to a group of people. My emotional wall (yes, the result of child abuse & having no one to trust, having to be on my guard for as long as I can remember)is crumbling and it's scary. I was really vicious to my friends, as if the devil had got into me. I really hurt them. I'm 61 now, I want to break the cycle. They have accepted my apologies. I'm not gonna drink again. All this bullying ran in the family: incest, child abuse, alcoholism, suicide, sex addiction. I've made it my life's work to be different. It's really hard but I am determined. I want friends, I want to treat them properly, respect them.

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  30. This description of the push/pull describes how I feel perfectly :( So thank you for that. I'm wondering if I'm doing it at the moment. Basically i met a guy in October and we dated for a while then went to being friends as thats all he wanted at that time. Anyway last week we were out and he dropped the bombshell that he's "completely in love with me" and has "never felt like this about anyone before." He also asked me to be his girlfriend. Having felt the same about him the whole time i said yes and he has been amazingly attentive ever since. I love this guy to pieces. He's the nicest guy I have ever known. He's the most interesting and funny, not to mention hot. So I should feel nothing but joy at the moment. However, all i feel is suspicion. why did he suddenly feel this? does he even want this? does he just pity me? And tonight talking on the phone I asked him if he was staying over on Saturday after plans we have together. He said he didn't know. And now suddenly I want to tell him to piss off since then. I have issues with uncertainty which I'm sure you're all aware is common with BPD. I have been in therapy for BPD for the past year and this is my first relationship since and my mentalisation based therapy is on a break for Easter so I have nowhere to talk about this and am scared I'm going to push away the best person to ever happen to me. I know it's completely irrational to feel so annoyed just because he said he didn't know yet whether he was staying over but I am just dying to text him and break up. Thankfully I do have a bit more impulse control than I used to.

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  31. Hi, I'm a female and I've never been in a relationship not because I don't believe in it or love. It's just that I've never thought about it because I've been busy raising my siblings and taking care of my family. Family and friends mean a lot to me their first. Im starting to look after myself and do things for me(im working on it lol) I had no idea I would fall for someone especially an other female. We're good friends we understand each other and know how we feel before hand. I can't believe it but I told her how I feel and she feels that I can't seem to be able to open up to her but I feel like im trying she knows I like her when no one else knows that I do. I really care about her are her happiness my gut feelings tell me she cares too but she's stopping herself I don't know why. I try talking to her but she avoids it. What should I do?

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  32. Oh. My. Freaking. God. I have never heard anyone describe what I do in relationships *so perfectly*. I have BPD and it's so awesome to hear it described from the borderline's point of view in a compassionate way vs. from the "victim's" point of view. I'm excited to read the rest of your blog! Judging from all the comments, there are a lot of us out there. Thanks for providing a safe place for us when there is so much out there on the internet basically saying that we're evil, hopeless, and will never recover. I say, bullshit.

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  33. OK, this is what is happening with my co-worker. She wants to be friends, but she back-stabs and sabotages me (tries, everybody is on to her.) There will be a fight, then she will be uber friendly to the point of ridiculousness, apologizing constantly for nothing, that will pass, she'll be sort of normal, and can be very high functioning, then eventually, she'll start abusing me again, the cycle repeats. I caught in one of your posts, "major psychological disorder." Oh. I thought that might be the case. But she's also been isolating more and more the last couple years. Stopped going to church, has only one friend who keeps contact with her on purpose. My new manager has better communication skills, and is on top of this situation, but we're not sure what to do with, around, about her. The manager calls her on bad behavior whenever she sees it, and keeps on doing that. I will too, depending on the situation at work. But I'm at a stand.

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  34. I been with this girl for almost 5years, we both suffer from borderline, together we can have so much fun we do /did everything, we spend almost everyday together, even talks last almost like forever, it would be perfect IF.. one of us didnt freak out all the time, even about small stuffs getting into a fight, and yes the pushing and pulling is horrible, at some point( mostly after 7-8 months) one of us always starts to distance totally, mostly she distances herself slowly from me, then i become even more clingy cause Im scared to lose her, i almost beg her not to leave me, while she gets more annoyed and even tells me to give her space, I try hard but I cant. at somepoint I start to push her away tho and we insult each ohter like little kids, the final result is , we block each ohter everywhere, facebook/phone etc etc, 2-4 months later we talk again like nothing happend and then everything redos, 7-8 months all okay, if we put the smaller fights a side, and then the silence returns for months, sometimes I hate her, and the nextday i cant without her, rightnow we have no contact again, for the 5th time? or more.. I dont know anymore, its so painful, and tiring. I know she misses me too, over our friends i heard that in the past already, sometimes Im scared she never talks to me again, but at the ohter side Its maybe better for both of us, I dont know.

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    1. That sounds exactly like my ex GF I was the one that always broke up with her because I couldn't take the mood swings. She accused me of every thing under the sun, simply not answering a text would send her into a crying fit, even if I didn't answer the text because I was calling her on the phone. Things could be perfect and she would come out of my room with all of her stuff because I hadn't checked on her in the shower. Multiply those things by a thousand and that was us. I really loved her and we could have the best until something set her off. I finally decided she felt more comfortable in some sort of fight. Our relationship continued to go down hill even though I still love her, I just couldn't live with the constant turmoil. I guess it's ironic because she claimed she loved me and wanted to get married, but when life was nice and calm and I started thinking we could be married she would start a fight.

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  35. I'm really curious about people who get close, but then push away and leave it like that. I've done it for years. But, I've done things impulsively too that make things happen way too fast - then I become overwhelmed when it really sets in. For example, many many years ago I worked with a man briefly. We moved to diff. countries and we reconnected online. He flew to my country and I even had a 1 yr old baby with me in tow - and we traveled by plane to meet him on an island in the south of the country I lived in (sorry I just dont want to give all the details). He is genuinely a wonderful man. But both of us meeting up like that - after only briefly meeting once prior - is a little nuts thinking back (esp for me, with a child). We ended up having an amazing wonderful time - and we slept together. Maybe I felt he was too clingy after many days passed and I was returning to my city and he wanted to fly up there with me too. I honestly cannot remember. The weird thing now is that I don't remember this - but he told me recently that I had asked him to leave. :( Thinking back, I feel really bad and surprised I cannot remember doing that. It's true we jumped in too quickly - way too fast with everything - but even so, he is someone I could have had something with. We're still in contact now. I apologized years later. Either way, since then, I've had a habit of dating and really going too fast - I guess I let them in too fast and really am caring with them and we get close (and I dont necessarily mean physical) so fast - then they usually become clingly and text or call repeatedly and I am doNE! I can't handle the repeated texts - it makes me so anxious. I end it and walk away. I dont ask for another chance ever. The only situation where I would want another chance is with the person from the first part of my post...does it sound like I have BPD? :) I had a rough childhood - too much to get into - always took care of myself and wasn't taken care of. Even so, I have had a really successful life and appreciate each day. The area I am really lacking in is in relationships. I dont want to be a bad example to my son. I am a big loner nowadays and rarely date - when I do, usually a disaster.

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  36. I read this article last year and my jaw dropped. I read it again just now and my jaw still drops. The woman I had been seeing off and on... It so perfectly describes her that I thought our experiences together had somehow been infiltrated and documented. This beautiful woman could be open with me on Wednesday evening and by Thursday morning I'd have an apology for her behavior and that our intimacy and talk was just that. She'd ask for space, I would give it, then be chastised for not being close enough for her. We would share intimacy and talk for hours. Then I would be shunned for a week without much explanation. It became me vs her. She would say one thing and do the exact opposite. I mistakenly smothered her with goodwill, not knowing that this the exact thing BPDs don't want. The exact thing that makes them push away. In the end, I adored this woman at times. Other times I get so tense just thinking about our dynamic, I freeze. She finally cut me off and burned the bridge with me. 26 years of friendship down the drain. It was like being with Jekyll and Hyde. I was pushed and pulled so much I got whiplash. I feel so bad for her.

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  37. My boyfriemd, well current ex, has BPD. he has already broken up with me this year and then taken me back. last time he broke up with me he went on a rampage of chatting up 15/16 year olds and hanging out with them. hes 24. id text him each day begging for him back. and hed ignore me. then i decided to vanish for a few days, have no contact etc and that freaked him out and he eventually asked for me back.
    this time, the same thing has happened again. he spent $3000 on us just days before he dumped me. and is back in to chatting these 15/16 year olds again. this time im barely texting him but we see each other nearly eery day cos we work together this time. so i cant exactly vanish and make him freak out.
    im holding on hope that hell come back again but its so damn hard. I know for certain he still loves em etc as he told me so himself, but hes just being arrogant and wont take me back. yet, i hope. but the thing is, if he was definitely serious about us breaking up, surely he wouldve asked for my car to be out of his name? he wouldve asked for his $400 suit back that i took and is sitting in my car. and he wouldve removed all our lovey dovey letters/notes thats around our room. but he hasnt?!

    i love him so much and wont give up. me and him are meant to be. honestly, were perfect for each other. ive supported him thru so much. no one knows what hes actually like apart from me. no one knows what hes like when he hits rockbottom etc etc. he has a bad habit of telling his mum EVERYTHING and feeding her bullcrap which makes her think im the bad guy and she tells him what to do ang hell listen. unfortunately. but not even she knows what hes truly like.

    he had been on wrong medication also and took an illegal drug which both ended up making him faint all the time. i ended up supporting him literally off my bare any money and look after him until he got better. but when i found out about this drug use i started packing my things and went to leave. he begged me to stay so i did as long as he stopped the drugs which he did. i then supported him thru this stuff, and overall ended up being stressed out about his health etc. beign stressed didt hel[ but as soon as he got better we began to get back on track, which is where he bought me a $700 necklace and the total of $3000 got spent, and then i was dumped.

    i just dont know what to do. i love him thst much and accept him for how he is. ill do anything for him. and i know he loves me too. were meant to be. but i just need to know what should i do? should i ignore him and do 'absence makes the heart grow fonder'? do i hold on to hope?
    PLEASE HELP, I MISS HIM SO MUCH

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  38. What are some healthy way to stop a cycle of this when you recognize it? Are there any known tell tale signs of whether the dynamic is being brought on by both parties, just ones self, or the other person? Any experience on conversations that would draw such a cycle out into awareness, and allow a healthy dialogue that is not reenacting the push pull dynamic to find out if it is healthy to try to continue when you notice this pattern?

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  39. My ex-boyfriend dumped me 9 months ago after I accused him of seeing someone else and insulting him.I want him back in my life but he refuse to have any contact with me.I was so confuse and don't know what to do,so I reach to the internet for help and I saw a testimony of how a spell caster help them to get their ex back so I contact the spell caster and explain my problem to him and he cast a spell for me and assure me of 3days that my ex will return to me and to my greatest surprise the third day my ex came knocking on my door and beg for forgiveness.I am so happy that my love is back again and not only that,we are about to get married.once again thank you Kala spell.you are truly talented and gifted Email: kalalovespell@gmail.com is the only answer.he can be of great help and I will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man kalalovespell@gmail.com

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  40. My ex-boyfriend dumped me 9 months ago after I accused him of seeing someone else and insulting him.I want him back in my life but he refuse to have any contact with me.I was so confuse and don't know what to do,so I reach to the internet for help and I saw a testimony of how a spell caster help them to get their ex back so I contact the spell caster and explain my problem to him and he cast a spell for me and assure me of 3days that my ex will return to me and to my greatest surprise the third day my ex came knocking on my door and beg for forgiveness.I am so happy that my love is back again and not only that,we are about to get married.once again thank you Kala spell.you are truly talented and gifted Email: kalalovespell@gmail.com is the only answer.he can be of great help and I will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man kalalovespell@gmail.com

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  41. My ex-boyfriend dumped me 9 months ago after I accused him of seeing someone else and insulting him.I want him back in my life but he refuse to have any contact with me.I was so confuse and don't know what to do,so I reach to the internet for help and I saw a testimony of how a spell caster help them to get their ex back so I contact the spell caster and explain my problem to him and he cast a spell for me and assure me of 3days that my ex will return to me and to my greatest surprise the third day my ex came knocking on my door and beg for forgiveness.I am so happy that my love is back again and not only that,we are about to get married.once again thank you Kala spell.you are truly talented and gifted Email: kalalovespell@gmail.com is the only answer.he can be of great help and I will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man kalalovespell@gmail.com

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  42. Just went through this again last night. I'm the "non". I just went away to Europe cos something was wrong with me but I didn't know what. I loved my BPD, even proposed to her last september and she accepted, but after so much turbulence, make ups break ups I just began fantasizing about "normalcy" and that's very unlike me.
    Of course I go to Europe, get the impulsive dear john letter a few days in and began my road to introspection. Her mom had Borderline disorder so I decided to look it up. Sure enough it fit like a glove. So I did exhaustive research, joined a yahoo support group, and even managed to get a copy of an instant message convo that actually showed the shift from love to hatred and accusations of abuse.
    I looked at this to remind myself of reality. I had suffered through gas lighting and crazy making and push pull.
    It happened again recently. She reached out via Facebook very pleasantly, even wrote a public thank you and admission of love to me for introducing her to such great people. She said her eyes had been "opened" after doing continued shamanic work (not for BPD, she refuses she has that or anything) so I bit. Called her up she sounded rational I got showered with I love yous and concern for my feelings. Then there was a second call. Went well. Wanted me to call back again and I did and I got more I love yous.
    About 20mins in she accused me of not caring whether she lived or died. Said cos I am still friends with a few close friends who do not like her demonstrates. I need to drop them. I'm a socipath, weak, evil, garbage, I never liked you I was just being nice to you cos I know you need help, etc...
    Then this morning she is a bit more balanced but I am finally calling her on her shit.
    Sucks cos I love her so it's easy to be drawn back in. I know even if I did drop those friends (whose crime was pointing things about her that I had to go overseas to see and telling me not to run to her beck and call after she needed emotional support following her breaking up with me) that she would find something else to test me on. And why drop people when I can't trust her emotions?
    Think the push pull will continue or you think this might be the final straw? I'm an addict for her so I am trying so hard to rally against my heart and try to move on. But it's a brutal process.

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  43. my name is Amber and I recently had a breakup with my husband about 3months back. He said we are done that we should move on that he has someone else now. I could not even bear the pain and everything and just so unfortunate, I discovered I was pregnant when me and my ex we going through some big fights. I couldn't tell him I was pregnant because I knew he would blame it on me. I suffered with the secret on my own and I could not go through an abortion on my own. The funny thing is I discovered that he had two other girlfriends I was not aware of. I know if I could turn back the hands of time I would do it again because i could not suffer everything alone, I almost drop out of varsity because of a guy. On a faithful day after i lost of thought, an old friend told me about a spell Dr obas with this email obasspiritualtemple@gmail.com who could help me restore my love and have my baby in good terms. I sacrifice everything to make sure the spell was done. and the spell was now the savior. his spell brought back my lover after 2days. My joy, love and happiness is restored because of this spell Dr obas, my baby comes soon.

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  44. My friends out there, am Justina from usa, am short of words i dont know where to start from, am just happy for getting back my love who left me for good 2years without calling or texting, i was in love with this boy named Patrick, we live together in love but suddenly he just changed and was in bad terms with me i know i never did anything wrong to him but he just decided to quite with me and the most painful part was that he was the one who broke my virginity so i love him so much but he never understood the love i have for him, so that was how he move away from New york, to San jose ca, and he never called me or texted for good 2years, his thought always come to my mind every minutes, so i have been looking for how to get him back to my life,so i have been contacting some spell casters happens to be scams, so i decided not to contact any spell caster,so there was a day i went to go and buy some papers, because am a reading type, so that was how i turned to a page and i saw testimony of love so i decided to read it then i saw how a man named Hudson was helped by Dr jaja in getting back his love,and i read that he also said it in radio stations,so i decided to wait if i will hear the testimony on radio too, so 2 days later i was watching television when i saw a man named harry was giving testimony on how this same Dr jaja brought back his wife and 2kids, i was so surprised then i had no doubt, immediately i contacted Dr jaja and i told him what i want he to me not to worry that he my love will come back to me within 24hours, i did not doubt him cause i have seen prove, so in the next 24hours which he said i got a call from Patrick he was pleading and begging me to forgive him, so the next day he came to my house in New york, in the presence of my 2 sisters he went on his knees pleading for me to forgive him, so i had to, then he said we should move to San jose ca, to stay, am writing this testimony in San jose ca,and am pregnant for him,and he bought me a new car and am happy now,you can contact Dr jaja through moonspelltemple@gmail.com

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  45. Hi Haven,

    Thank you so much for this post. It was enlightening to hear your insights on the push/pull cycle.

    I just walked away from my current relationship because I couldn't deal with the pain of being pushing away any more.

    However, is the pushing away a result of a personality disorder, or did he just not want to be in the relationship?

    In the beginning it was very intense. He was asking me to marry him, he went ring shopping, told me what a good life we were going to have.

    I was skeptical, of course, but he was the man of my dreams. I let the walls down and I fell in love....for the first time ever in 30 years.

    However, 3 months into dating, I noticed he wasn't himself. His communication became more sparse. It was even more difficult that he traveled for work 4 days a week. I thought I was internalizing it at first, but as the days went along, I found he moved farther and farther away.

    When I confronted him about his behavior he said he was "dealing with stuff' and 'didn't want to talk' and let him handle it his way.

    That stuff, I later found out, had a lot to do with his upbringing, and feeling like a failure (his first marriage dissolved i believe due to the same issue)

    But it continued.

    He recognized his behavior was hurting me and it 'killed him'. Yet he did nothing about it.

    When I did tell him I was walking away (in a very long email) he told me he was an asshole, and suicidal. Quite a short response to my email....and quite a selfish answer in response to how much he hurt me.

    Does borderline pair with depression? Or was it not borderline and just depression? Or was it just a put off because he just didn't want to be with me and have the balls to break up with me?

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  46. I am Bailey, i want to share testimony of my life to every one. i was married to my husband four years ago, i love him so much. When he went for a vacation to France he meant a lady who made my marriage a problem, he told me that he is no longer interested in our marriage any more that he want to divorce me. I was so confuse and seeking for help and i want to a life coach who did not to my problem, i don't know what to do until i explain to my friend and she told me not to worry about it that she had a similar problem before and introduce me to a man called Dr Ijebu who cast a spell on her ex and bring him back to her after 2days. She gave me an email address to contact Dr ijebu and ask him for help. I contacted him to help me bring back my husband and he told me not to worry about anything that the gods of his fore-fathers will bring him back to me. He told me by two days he will re-unite me and my husband together. After two day my husband called and told me he is coming back to stay with me and the kids, i was surprise when i saw him and he started pleading for forgiveness. I am happy to have my husband back with me again, you can contact Dr Ijebu for any problem you are facing, he will help you out. Here's his contact ancientijebudespelltemple@gmail.com. He is the real spell caster on the internet so far

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  47. Hello My Name is Charly KOnteripen and i am from indonesia , I wish to share my testimonies with the general public about what this man called Dr Ogba of:ogbapaullovespellcaster@gmail.com,for what he has just done for me , this man has just brought back my lost family to me with his great spell caster, i was married to this Man called Richard Brown we were together for a long time and we loved our self's but when i was unable to give him a child for 2 years he left me and told me he can't continue anymore then i was now looking for ways to get him back until a friend of mine told me about this man and gave his contact email: ogbapaullovespellcaster@gmail.com then you wont believe this when i contacted this man on my problems he prepared this spell cast and bring my lost Husband back in two days and after a month i miss my month and go for a test and the result stated am pregnant am happy today am a Mother with a baby boy, thank you once again the great Dr Ogba for what you have done for me, if you are out there passing through this same kind of problems of you need a lost love back or any kind of problems for you can contact he today on his email: ogbapaullovespellcaster@gmail.com and he will also help you as well

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  48. How do you know or suspect whether the person you are with does not just have an avoidant attachment style instead of some personality disorder? See here for signs of an avoidant:

    http://aloftyexistence.wordpress.com/2011/03/02/top-ten-signs-your-partner-is-avoidant/

    Say that avoidant persons partner has an anxious attachment style or at least is to anxious for a particular avoidant then an avoidant-anxious trap is formed:

    http://aloftyexistence.wordpress.com/2011/02/09/anxious-avoidant-trap/

    This looks like what you are describing here but there is no suggestion of a personality disorder.

    My understanding is that personality disorders are very difficult to diagnose and treat. But for people with insecure attachment styles (avoidant and anxious), 25% of them will change within 4 years by having the right relationships (with secures). These numbers go up with counseling and therapy.

    Now it maybe that the majority of these insecures that change are anxious since avoidants are the much more problematic of these two types ... at least that is the impression I get from reading the book "Attached."

    Any insights would be appreciated. Thanks.

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    1. I've written quite a lot on Attachment Disorders and Attachment Styles actually.

      4 years is still a long time, and with therapy and medication is a similar treatment time for even many cases of BPD and some personality disorders. They're not as difficult to diagnose and treat as you would imagine. Not anymore anyways. Treatment has come a long ways.

      Most people with personality disorders also have anxious or avoidance attachment disorders/styles as well, though people with anxious or avoidant attachment disorders/styles don't necessarily have a personality disorder. That doesn't mean they'll have an easier or harder time recovering either. It's entirely dependent on the person and the kind of help they're able and willing to receive.

      Go over to the Left and Look in the list of Labels for Attachment and Attachment Disorder and you'll see what I've written there.

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  49. Thanks for your fantastic blog, Haven. I came across it a few days ago and I simply couldn't stop reading it. I'm from Europe and have been deeply in love with a BPD woman I already knew for a long time (i'm 53 and she's 48). During the last few months (when we became closer) I'm getting used to most of her BP issues. I've done a lot of research about the subject, talked with some shrinks who happen to be my friends (i went to Medical School, so almost a doctor) but their technical advice (and most of the web pages which discuss these matters) don't allow me to really feel the same kind of truth and the deep knowledge you really have about this condition - and particularly the vivid experiences and the clever and wise thoughts you share with your readers. By the way, you write very well and it's been a pleasure to read each one of your posts.
    I'm trying to cope with my BPD sort-of-girlfriend, trying to understand her ups and downs, pull / push cycles, and only the future will tell how the relationship evolves. She's high-functioning, quite successfull (a celebrity in my country), and she must hide all the time from people. Only their closest friends and family know about all the pain and suffering she has gone through since her childhood.
    I was married for 13 years and had other relationships, but when I look back and compare them with this woman, well... I must confess that, in spite of what I recently have been through, all those girls now seem to me so dull and boaring...
    She's very fond of me and she likes me a lot, but not in the same way I do love her...
    Tell me: how can I build some more trust? What can I do to make her believe I am commited? Every time I show my will to care about her or to protect her, she apparently moves away a bit. It seems she's always afraid of losing herself, you know? But for me it's not easy to play "hard to get" or to act cold - I just can't help being nice to her.
    Anyway, she texts me a lot and, in fact, when I read many of your posts in this blog it seems I'm reading her messages in my cellphone ;)
    Thanks again for your enlightening blog.

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    1. From my experience trust comes with time. The trick really is that to build trust without breaking it; Don't lie, don't cheat, don't betray. Once you do any of these things - All things will be called into question and all things will begin to crumble. Work on your communication and your trust from the start and your entire relationship will benefit from the onset. The moment you stray, don't fool yourself, she will be able to yell because we are exceptionally perceptive.

      Anyone with BPD has had a very traumatic history. We do not build trust easily. It's unfortunate but if you push too hard, it's scary for us, and we push away. You have to allow trust to build in it's own time, as it will. Simply remain. Remain constant and consistent. Be a constant presence in her life. If this is someone that you want in your life forever than act as though they are someone that will never be out of your mind and reassure them of that. If it's to be for all time, then you have all of time.

      It should not be about acting "hard to get" or acting cold. I don't know any Borderline that likes that. Be yourself. Because frankly if she does not like you for you, than that will also tell you something of what you need to know.

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  50. I've been in two of these now and it also helped me discover and deal with my own codependency. In response to 'Tanker', you have to understand that bpds require large amounts of stimulation to 'feel alive' due to cutting themselves off from darker feelings since a young age. Trust will come with time and a lot of hassle but the relationship you maybe crave maybe won't ever happen.

    What I've finally learned is that true intimacy and reciprocation of love would take a long time and the destructive behaviours of my recent ex make me doubt I'll last the distance. So for any 'non'. You simply have a decision on whether you want to deal with this anymore. If the prize is worth the price?

    I can relate to the comments above regarding text anxiety because my exes push/pull or sabotaging triggered my own feelings of abandonment that I had to resolve from codependency. Towards the end of that relationship, the anxiety and panic I felt on a couple of occasions when she was distancing was horrible and to consider it from the bpd perspective who can be prone to paranoia, delusions, hypersensitivity it is understandable why they push and devalue things.

    Your real hope in a bpd relationship is to ensure you are not codependent/clingy and not expect consistent reciprocation because once they feel smothered, they run (even though they will complain that you don't give enough attention :) Paradoxical but just how it is.


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  51. So would the push and pull be related to to seeking out another relationship while still in one? Just curious, I think the guy I was seeking might be BPD, for the last year we go through this thing where he attempts to start up online relationships, creates new email accounts so he can do the online thing. He has a primary yahoo and facebook and part of our agreement was to give each others passwords. Well he will clean out trash, so I won't find the trail but forgets to delete the sent. So I always catch him LOL...anyway. We go thru this apology thing..how sorry he is and he was felling mentally not right??? Anxiety, etc and that is why he does it. Then he begs for forgiveness and tells me he would die if I left him..Whatever getting old now. Any way is it attention or the drama or what?? Any input would help because I told him I can't do it anymore. If its a game and he just like the "forgiveness" and there is no actual sex involved; maybe I could handle his little staged online love affairs. But if he is engaging in unprotected sex...that's different. Let me know your thoughts and thanks

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  52. This push/pull behavior is constant in my relationship with her. The only part I really have a problem with is that when I "return", she ignores me and makes me feel unimportant and she will immerse herself in other people and projects. So then I get upset because it feels so unfulfilling and lonely, and so I push her away again and then she chases me frantically. Once she has me back after a while she will ignore texts/ emails and just plain not seem interested. It seems as if she is only interested in the dramatics of the cycle. I'm so tired. I just want to move on, but I do care for her. Why might she be doing this? I would love to understand what is going on.

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  56. I will love to share my testimony to all the people in the forum cos i never thought i will have my girlfriend back and she means so much to me..The girl i want to get marry to left me 4 weeks to our wedding for another man..,When i called her she never picked my calls,She deleted me on her facebook and she changed her facebook status from married to Single...when i went to her to her place of work she told her boss she never want to see me..I lost my job as a result of this cos i cant get myself anymore,my life was upside down and everything did not go smooth with my life...I tried all i could do to have her back to all did not work out until i met a Man when i Travel to Africa to execute some business have been developing some years back..I told him my problem and all have passed through in getting her back and how i lost my job...he told me he gonna help me...i don't believe that in the first place.but he swore he will help me out and he told me the reason why my girlfriend left me and also told me some hidden secrets.i was amazed when i heard that from him..he said he will cast a spell for me and i will see the results in the next couple of days..then i travel back to US the following day and i called him when i got home and he said he's busy casting those spells and he has bought all the materials needed for the spells,he said am gonna see positive results in the next 2 days that is Thursday...My girlfriend called me at exactly 12:35pm on Thursday and apologies for all she had done ..she said,she never knew what she's doing and her sudden behavior was not intentional and she promised not to do that again.it was like am dreaming when i heard that from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him my wife called and he said i haven't seen anything yet... he said i will also get my job back in 3 days time..and when its Sunday,they called me at my place of work that i should resume working on Monday and they gonna compensate me for the time limit have spent at home without working..My life is back into shape,i have my girlfriend back and we are happily married now with kids and i have my job back too.This man is really powerful..if we have up to 20 people like him in the world,the world would have been a better place..he has also helped many of my friends to solve many problems and they are all happy now..Am posting this to the forum for anybody that is interested in meeting the man for help.you can mail him to agumaguspelltemple@gmail.com I cant give out his number cos he told me he don't want to be disturbed by many people across the world..he said his email is okay and he' will replied to any emails asap..hope he helped u out too..good luck:agumaguspelltemple@gmail.com.ONCE AGAIN HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS: agumaguspelltemple@gmail.com




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  57. Since my last boyfriend I have felt so lonely. You know that as I explained that thoroughly in my first email to you. I wished for my heart to be filled with love and happiness and you did that! I have met the perfect guy and I am to be promoted tomorrow at work! It seems that the gods are smiling at me and you are the reason why. I will be your faithful follower for ever. Ancientfathersandmothers@gmail.com

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  58. My name's Tony Almeida, I'm from Brazil and have lived some years in the UK. My story has come up with this sad episode. Last December, 2013, my lover decided to visit her grandmom earlier for Christmas, even without my knowing. The worst! We has already planned to spend the Christmas' Day at the beach as we had always done, which had always been something she always asked me to. Well, for Christmas, I even called her on the cell-phone over and over to wish her Merry Christmas, but she didn't answer it.
    Then, I keep calling every day and the same thing went on and on. She spent 2 months at her grandmom's, and when she returned, I called her mom and I was told my lover didn't want to come back to me, which was a shock, it seemed the whole world had come down on me. I came to be hospitalized for me relationship with my love was so perfect that since her mom and I got divorced she wanted to just stay with me. I took her everywhere I went on trips, parks, theaters, movies, and from nothing she just turned her back on me. I got to talk to her some 20 days ago and we talked some, but she was so resisting that we had to hang up. So far, I haven't called her, because her mom said she is depressed. I really don't know how to behave in this situation. I've been in pain. God knows how much it has hurt me and i have no option until i contacted Dr. Ikhine powerful spell caster who brought her back to me within 72hours contact him on agbadado@gmail.com for help just as he has did for me

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  59. My and ex and I were together for 14 months and we have lived together our entire relations. A month ago he broke up with me because he felt his better off alone and wants to be single. That’s what he told me anyways. I spent two weeks avoiding him by staying busy with friends and family and staying with people. He was miserable he didn't eat, sleep or do anything besides lay on the couch. I came home and the house was a mess because he didn't do anything...
    When I got home we had a talk about making it work by being friends as we live together and none of us can leave. Ever since the talk we have become really close, we flirt, laugh, playfully tease each other, we curl up on the couch and watch tv together and play the xbox together, We cook together and back to our usual selves. He has now moved himself back into my bedroom and sleeps in the same bed with me. He still calls me babe and sweetie and gives me hugs if I want one. We are really good friends. He said its ok for me to date or sleep with someone else as long as im honest with him. However recently we went out and I flirted with a few guys and out of nowhere he picked a fight with me and started to say that I wanted him back and using our mutual friends as an excuses saying he heard it from them and that I was bad mouthing him, Which isn't true. I got really upset and he walked away and I went and stayed at friends and didn't hear from him all night, in the morning he texted me asking where I was, if im coming home, was persistent in picking me up and said he wants us to be good again. I came home and he was back to normal and made sure I was ok. We are closer then ever and when I leave, his miserable, his friend keeps asking him if he made the right decision and brings us up and he just says its work and then goes quiet, or changes the subject. If I bring up the relationship he just goes quiet. He talks about me in his future. until i contacted Dr. Ikhine the spell caster who put our relationship in good shape and we are happily married now contact him on agbadado@gmail.com for your good relationship to be together.

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  60. Hi everyone,I have just read all of the posts and I am in tears! My life for the past 10 yrs has been,I dont know how to put it, I guess loney and loveless. Im 26 I ve been with my fiance for 10 yrs and we have 2 sons. Our oldest 7 has AS too and my youngest 3 has autism. I feel so lonely in my family, none of them understand me at all and dont try. I feel like ive lost myself. I is much harder to deal with my Fiance then my kids of course, because I shouldnt have to parent him. I dont want to parent 3 people, I want love. He doesnt even feel love I dont think! Im very sad thinking that I am putting my self in this postion, to never put myself 1st or get anything I need or want it life. My family nor his gets it and they say that because he works and takes care of his family with money I should be happy enough. I wish there were groups where iI live but I havent found and yet. Im very happy to find other people out there dealing with this, because living life like this is very lonely. I would love to start talking with some of you,all things happen because great Iseh James was very great to me,after he help me getting back my man every thing have be working fine.Please you can contact he for help so you can be happy in your relationship.Email him at; Olorunoduduwaspiritualtemple@gmail.com

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  61. I just want to say thank you, thank you, thank you!!! Harry and I have worked things out, and we are moving in together in May. I am so happy and excited, and so grateful to you. The funny thing is, I've also changed my way of thinking and doing as well.... I understand that the way he loves is different from mine, and thats ok. I havent been this happy or content in a very long time, and it shines on my face so much everyone notices. I will definitely enlist your services again, and recommend you to anyone that will listen. Thank you very much, you have done something wonderful for me, and I will never forget it. From my heart, Ancientfathersandmothers@gmail.com you are the best of all.

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  62. My ex-boyfriend dumped me 5 weeks ago after I accused him of seeing someone else and insulting him. I wanted him back in my life but he refused to have any contact with me. So after researching around I found this site and contacted priestoremisolutiontemple367@gmail.com. When I had my reading done, I was nervous and scared. I thought he said he wouldn’t be able to help me. But in the end, he told me he could help me to bring him back. I was expecting to have to spend a lot of money because I saw his prices are expensive. So I was really really surprised when he told me all I had to do was to have two candles burned to bring him back. I ordered the candles that priestoremisolutiontemple367@gmail.com burns and had him do my candles. He sent me a prayer to say everyday and I did what he told me to do. Two and a half weeks after the last candle finished, my ex was calling me again and came over. He slept over that night and in the morning he asked if we could work it out and get back together, to which I said yes of course! And we have been back together ever since. Thank you priestoremisolutiontemple367@gmail.com, your Lwa and your Spirits, you are of great help in the community and I think you are the best. I will be back again to have you help me on a situation at my job. priest oremi is really a wonderful, nice, kind and caring person. He really cares about his clients and I would recommend him to any and all who need spiritual help.

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  63. My ex-boyfriend dumped me 5 weeks ago after I accused him of seeing someone else and insulting him. I wanted him back in my life but he refused to have any contact with me. So after researching around I found this site and contacted priestoremisolutiontemple367@gmail.com. When I had my reading done, I was nervous and scared. I thought he said he wouldn’t be able to help me. But in the end, he told me he could help me to bring him back. I was expecting to have to spend a lot of money because I saw his prices are expensive. So I was really really surprised when he told me all I had to do was to have two candles burned to bring him back. I ordered the candles that priestoremisolutiontemple367@gmail.com burns and had him do my candles. He sent me a prayer to say everyday and I did what he told me to do. Two and a half weeks after the last candle finished, my ex was calling me again and came over. He slept over that night and in the morning he asked if we could work it out and get back together, to which I said yes of course! And we have been back together ever since. Thank you priestoremisolutiontemple367@gmail.com, your Lwa and your Spirits, you are of great help in the community and I think you are the best. I will be back again to have you help me on a situation at my job. priest oremi is really a wonderful, nice, kind and caring person. He really cares about his clients and I would recommend him to any and all who need spiritual help.

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  64. My name is Andrea Ramsay from USA My boyfriend and I were happy as far as I could tell and I never thought that we would break up. When his cousin died in a tragic car accident he went back to Philippine for a week to be with his family. I could not go because I was in the middle of entertaining out of town clients for work. He did not seem to be upset that I could not go so I let him be. The next thing that I know, he reconnected with an old friend from high school that he had a crush on years ago and they started to have an affair! I had no clue what was going on until a month after he came back from Philippine.He proceeded to see both her and I until I caught him testing her one night. I confronted him and he told me the truth about what happened. We broke up and went our separate ways. Neither of us fought for our relationship. I was angry and decided not to be upset about it and just keep it moving. Then after about a month of not speaking to him I became sad. I wanted him to tell me that he wanted to be with me and not her. I contacted Dr.omofuma for a love spell and he totally helped me! he was able to get him to miss me to where he wanted to get back together again. He had a lot of regrets and felt bad for not fighting to keep me and for cheating in general. He values our relationship so much more now and we are together now! You can also get your lover back with the help of Dr.omofumacontact him through his email: extremlovespell5@yahoo.com

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  65. 'I was married for five years without any child,because of this my husband start acting very strange at home,coming home lately and not spending time with me any more. and because of this my husband divorce me. So i became very sad and lost in life because my doctor told me there is no way for me to get pregnant this really make life so hard for me and my family.my friend told me about Dr Zuma zuk from the Internet,how he has helped people with this similar problem that i am going through so i contacted him and explain to him.he cast a reunite spell to bring back my husband and it was a miracle three days later my husband can back to apologize for all he has done and told me he is fully ready to support me in any thing i want,few month later i got pregnant and gave birth to twins (girls) we are happy with ourselves. Thanks to Dr Zuma zuk for saving my relationship and for also saving others too. continue your good work, If you are interested to contact him and testify this blessings like me, the great spell caster email address is:(spiritualherbalisthealers@gmail.com)

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  66. Out of respect for you and your spells I must make this testimony know to all. I've been to other spell casters and psychic readers before, but in my opinion you are the best. I just wished I came to you earlier, but hey I got the best for last and that is Lord Osaze. My ex was gone for a year and I went everywhere and other spell casters for help but no result until my friend introduce me to Lord Osaze. After that Love Spell and Break Up Spell was done I finally gotten calls from him out of no where within 12 hours. Him and the other lady broke up and we are going on a vacation together... Thanks and I love you for helping me. To everyone who is looking for a real spell caster contact "spirituallove@hotmail. com"
    and he will help you..

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  67. I just now found your blog, doing a search on "push pull" and BPD. I haven't read all of the lengthy comments on this post but I wanted to say that I greatly appreciate the post here and your honesty and insights. I am coming to the realization that I'm involved with someone who is (undiagnosed) BPD — or doing a good imitation of it. Reading what you wrote here gives me a peak into the inner workings and makes some sense of what has been going on. Thank you.

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  68. I just posted and just started scrolling through the comments. I hope the admin weeds out the spam that is accumulating because this thread is too good to have all of the garbage on it.

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  69. Hello to everyone here, I'm here to share the unexpected miracles that happened to me two days ago, My Name is Becky I live in United State, and I `m happily married to a lovely and caring husband, two children, a very big problem has occurred in the family seven months ago, between me and my husband so terrible that they took the case to court for divorce, he said that he never again to stay with me, and urging me not as he made the house and grabbed me and my children are passed through a lot of pain. I have tried all my possible means to get him back, after much begging, but all to no avail, and he confirmed that he made ??his decision, and he never wanted me to see her again. So one evening when I returned from work, I met an old friend of mine who asked my husband So I explained everything to her, so she told me that the only way I can get my husband back it is, visit a spell caster, because it really worked for them too so I never believed in spell, but I had no choice but to follow their advice. Then they gave me the email address of the caster, they visited. (drakugbespellhome@gmail.com}, so the next morning I sent an email to the address they gave me, and the spell caster assured me that I get my husband back the next day, what an astonishing statement, I have never believed, so that he spoke to me and told me everything I need to do. then the next morning, so suddenly, that my husband, who has not called me for the past {7} seven months, gave me a call to tell me that he come back So Amazing! So that was how he came back on the same day, with lots of love and joy, and they apologized for their mistake, and for the pain she has me and my children. then from that day, our relationship was stronger than now, as it were before, with the help of a spell caster. So, I'm going to visit to advise there please the same site drakugbespellhome@gmailcom if you are in a state like this, or you have problems that bring on "your ex back. So many thanks to Dr. clement return for my husband and brought back great joy, my family. (drakugbespellhome@gmail.com} Thank you .. you can contact him fore you own help

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  70. My name is Gilda Perez, am from UK. i want to use this opportunity to thank my great doctor who really made my life a pleasurable one today. This great man DR.AISABU brought my husband back to me, i had three lovely kids for my husband, about four years ago i and my husband has been into one quarrel or the other until he finally left me for one lady. i felt my life was over and my kids thought they would never see their father again. i tried to be strong just for the kids but i could not control the pains that torments my heart, my heart was filled with sorrows and pains because i was really in love with my husband. Every day and night i think of him and always wish he would come back to me, until one day i met a good friend of mine that was also in a situation like me but her problem was her ex-boyfriend who she had an unwanted pregnancy for and he refused to take responsibility and dumped her. she told me that mine was a small case and that i should not worry about it at all, so i asked her what was the solution to my problems and she gave me this great man email address. i was doubting if this man was the solution, so i contacted this great man and he told me what to do and i deed them all, he told me to wait for just two day and that my husband will come crawling on his kneels just for forgiveness so i faithfully deed what this great man asked me to do and for sure after two days i heard a knock on the door, in a great surprise i saw him on his kneels and i was speechless, when he saw me, all he did was crying and asking me for forgiveness, from that day, all the pains and sorrows in my heart flew away,since then i and my husband and our lovely kids are happy.that's why i want to say a big thank you to DR.AISABU. This great man made me to understand that there is no problem on earth that has no solution so please if you know that you have this same problem or any problem that is similar, i will advise you to come straight to this great man. you can email him at: (aisabulovespell@gmail.com)...

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  71. My name is CLARA MARTIN,I am so happy to let the whole world know how this powerful spell caster saved my marriage. Everything was going down the drain as my husband can not stop cheating on me with other women.He became used to always heating on me. I tried to make him stop, but I couldn’t help the situation, the more I tried, the harder it becomes. At times we will fight and go apart for some months and we will come back again just because of our kids. One day a friend told me about this spell caster who helped her too, his name is Dr abacha solution temple. she said he uses white magic spells to solve spiritual problems. I decided to give it a try, I contacted him and he told me it will take just 2 to 3 days and I will see great changes in my husband. He actually cast a spell, believe me after 2 to 3 days of the spell, my husband was confessing different names of woman he has slept with. He begged for forgiveness and never to try it again. From that day till now, my mind is at rest. My husband dislike every other women on earth except me. And am so happy to have him for myself alone. The spell caster’s contact is abachasolutiontemple@gmail.com or call him with his number +2348132571730. You can contact him for any help, he is very powerful and can solve any kind of problem below.
    Do you want your ex lover back?
    Do you want to get pregnant?
    Do you want your husband to appreciate you?
    Do you want to be famous or rich?
    Do you want to be a celebrity?
    Do you your business to grow excessively?
    Do you want to be honorably good academically?
    Do you need a job?
    Do you need a husband?
    Do you have problem in your marriage life?
    Contact abacha today for speed help:abachasolutiontemple367@gmail.com

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  72. john Wales
    Getting my Ex back was something that i couldn't imagine will be so easy am John Wales. I've known Sophia for years, When we finally got together,things were so weird so we broke up in February 2013.In June 2014, she and I recently got back together and we were together until march of 2014 of which she told me she was not interested in the relationship again During that time my mind completely changed, I wasn't eating, neither was i sleeping,talking to anyone was even more difficult, I cried,I was so depressed and stressed out that I was scared and was even planning to end it all but a friend of mine named Lucas Scott who passed through the same situation advice me to contact Dr.ehizojlespiritual through his email Dr.ehizojlespiritualhome@gmail.com because I Love & care about her deeply and just want us to be together again i did with no assurance, i never used to believe in spell casting but i gave it a try and it was a positive result. Today we are happily married and blessed with two wonderful kids. To you all out there faced with the same problem or similar to this, you can contact Dr. ehizojlespiritual via his email address Dr.ehizojlespiritualhome@gmail.com ...once again thank you Dr. ehizojlespiritual for bringing back my love

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  73. GREAT DR. OFEMO THAT HELP ME SAVE MY RELATIONSHIP. Good Day everybody,
    My name is Lena Adams.am from the United State of America,This is a very happy day of my life with the help of Dr.Ofemo has rendered to me by helping me to get my divorce husband back with his magic power and love spell. i was married for 8 years and it was so terrible because my husband was really cheating on me, and was seeking for a divorce but when i came across Dr.Ofemo email on the internet on how he help so many people to get their ex back and help fixing relationship.and make people to be happy in their relationship. i explained my situation to him and then seek his help but to my greatest surprise he told me that he will help me with my case and here i am now celebrating because my Husband has change totally for good.he started begging me to forgive him that he is very sorry for everything, i was really surprised and was also happy, so that was how i forgive him and now we are living together happily than ever before,and He always want to be by me and can not do anything without my present. i am really happy with my marriage, what a great celebration. thank you Dr Ofemo who helped a lot, if you need his help you can contact him through email:drofemospelltemple@gmail.com or you can contact him through his website on http://drofemospelltemple1.webs.com/

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  74. I want to share my testimony on how i was able to get back my husband last few months and with the help of Dr Ekaka because my man left me for over 3years and went on with another lady and i was unable to move on with my life because of the love i have for him last month i saw a testimony on the internet on how Dr Ekaka help someone with love spell so i never believe it but just have to try my faith which i did and i contacted him on his email: ekakaspelltemple@yahoo.com and he told me what i need to do and after 2days i received a call from my husband asking me to come back to him it was all like a dream to me i am so happy now as we are back together again thanks to Dr Ekaka and i will advice anyone in need of help to contact him.

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  75. My name is Nelly Mabel,i wish to share
    my testimonies to the general public about how i got my husband back
    through the great man :dr.OJIESUNE.i was married to this man
    called William,we were married for 2years but i was unable to give a
    child,he left me and told me he can't continue anymore,so i started
    looking ways to get him back
    until a friend of mine gave me the link email :dr ojiesune and i
    contacted him,u can't believe that he did not ask for money but only
    pay for items ask for my details and cast a spell for me for
    free,believe me before 48hours my ex husband came back
    begging,:DR OJIESUNE did not only pray for husband to come back
    but for me to get pregnant,after a month i got pregnant through the
    power of this great man you can contact him drojiesunezizaspellhome@gmail.com OR pin number 330EBE7F

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  76. Why is that people like DR Lawrence that are genuine are hard to find. After i have searching for help for almost all the corner of this life concerning my marriage and all to no avail it was Dr Lawrence that finally helped me out,he wiped away all the agony i was going through with my lover and make him stop the divorce he was planning. Any one out there who believes all is over in his/her marriage contact DR Lawrence on Drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail.com or +2348143988536 and join those that are happy through his handwork.

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  77. Throughout my life i had a fear of being to close to people as they seem to disappear and hurt me. Although i crave love i find it difficult to hold on to and behave irrationally. In june of last year i met and fell in love with an amazing beautiful woman. However i soon started behaving badly and pushing her away. All the while craving the love she gave me. She thinks that she is not the woman for me although i absolutely know she is and always will be. None of this has been down to her as she has bern amazing. I have known it is a problem i have and need to break the cycle. However i now seem to have pushed too far, and am trying desperately to get the help i need and for her to see i crave the love she gives me and i do absolutely love her. Can this cycle be broken?

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  78. This has never ever been about me wanting to be anywhere but with her. The deeper i fell in love with her the more i behaved badly and tried to push away. I needed her to catch me behaving badly to then talk things through and realise this was not about her but my fears, me being scared of her leaving. But never wanting her to leave. In catching me and talking we could get the help i need and she could see just exactly how much i want her in my life. For now she just thinks i was looking for a way out. But nothing could be further from the truth. With her i experience feelings of love that i have never experienced before.

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  79. i want to use this medium to testify of how i got back my boyfriend after 8months of separation, I and my boyfriend broke up on the 12th of August because he felt i was cheating on him with a male friend of mine, i tried all i could to explain to him but he paid deaf ears, i was emotionally devastated because i really did love him until i saw a post on the internet about a spell caster, who helps people gain back their lost love, at first i doubted if it was real because i never believed in spells but decided to give it a try, when i contacted this spell caster, he helped me cast a re-union spell and i got back my boyfriend within 72hours (3days). Contact this great spell caster for your relationship or marriage problems via email dr.zakispellhome@gmail.com.... Goodluck

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  80. My name is morgan keri.i want to give thanks to dr.trust for bringing back my ex husband.No one could have ever made me believe that the letter I’m about to write would actually one day be written. I was the world’s biggest skeptic. I never believed in magic spells or anything like this, but I was told by a reliable source (a very close co-worker) that Trust is a very dedicated, gifted, and talented person,It was one of the best things I have ever done. My love life was in shambles; I had been through two divorces and was on the brink of a third. I just couldn't face another divorce, and I wanted to try harder to make our relationship work, but my husband didn’t seem to care. and he brake up with me again.I was confuse and do not no what to do again,rather them to get in contact with dr.trust. He did a love spell that make my husband come back to me. we are now very much happy with our self. dr.trust make him to realize how much we love and need each other.This man is for REAL and for good.he can also help you to fix your broken relationship. I had my husband back! It was like a miracle! He suddenly wanted to go to marriage counseling, and we’re doing very, very well,in our love life.contact email(ultimatespellcast@gmail.com or ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com tel:+234186885231)

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  81. Hi everyone act there.. my name is MULLAR SHARRON i am from germany. i will never forget the help DR.TRUST render to me in my marital life. i have been married for 5 years now and my husband and i love each other very dearly . after 3 years of our marriage my husband suddenly change he was having an affair with a lady outside,i notice it then i was praying for divine intervention the thing became more serious i told my pastor about it we prayed but nothing happen. my husband just came home one day he pick up his things and left me and the kids to his mistress outside at this time i was confuse not knowing what to do again because i have lost my husband and my marriage too. i was searching for help in the internet, i saw many people sharing testimony on how dr.trust help them out with their marital problems so i contacted the email of dr.trust i told him my problem and i was told to be calm that i have come to the right place were i can get back my husband within the next 24hours.he told me what went wrong with my husband and how it happen.that they will restored my marriage. to my greatest surprise my husband came to my office begging me on his knees that i should find a place in my heart to forgive him,that he will never cheat on me again. i quickly ask him up that i have forgiven him.friends your case is not too hard why don't you give Dr.trust a try they work surprises because i know they will help you to fix your relationship with your ex partner. i thank god for using dr.trust to save my marriage. contact him via (ULTIMATESPELLCAST@GMAIL.COM OR ULTIMATESPELLCAST@YAHOO.COM) tel +2348156885231

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  82. This is my testimony about the good work of a man who helped me..My name is Olivia Jane Mike, and I base in London.My life is back!!! After 8 years of marriage, my husband left me and left me with our three kids. I felt like my life was about to end,and was falling apart. Thanks to a spell caster called papa Justus who i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet, I was searching for a good spell caster that can solve my problems. I came across series of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and so on. There was one particular testimony I saw, it was about a woman called grace,she testified about how papa Justus brought back her Ex lover in less than 72 hours and at the end of her testimony she drop papa Justus e-mail address. After reading all these,I decided to give papa a try. I contacted him via email and explained my problem to him. In just 3 days, my husband came back to me. We solved our issues, and we are even happier than before. papa Justus is really a talented and gifted man and i will not to stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man...If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster to solve that problem for you. Try the great papa Justus today, he might be the answer to your problem. Here's his contact:
    drabeljustus@gmail.com Thank you great Justus. Contact him for the following:

    (1)If you want your ex back.
    (2) if you always have bad dreams.
    (3)You want to be promoted in your office.
    (4)You want women/men to run after you.
    (5)If you want a child.
    (6)[You want to be rich.
    (7)You want to tie your husband/wife to be yours forever.
    (8)If you need financial assistance.
    (9)Herbal care
    10)Help bringing people out of prison
    (11)Marriage Spells
    (12)Miracle Spells
    (13)Beauty Spells
    (14)PROPHECY CHARM
    (15)Attraction Spells
    (16)Evil Eye Spells
    (17)Kissing Spell
    (18)Remove Sickness Spells
    (19)ELECTION WINNING SPELLS
    (20)SUCCESS IN EXAMS SPELLS
    (21) Charm to get who to love you.
    (22)Business spell.
    Contact him today on:
    drabeljustus@gmail.com,
    +2347033354868.
    You can also CONTACT HIM ON whatsApp on the number.

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  83. hello viewers,please read my testimony,my name is EMILLY and i live in U S A, i never knew there are still real people who can still solve problems for real, my problem was solved under fouty eight hours by someone i met online, first i thought it was a scam, till my problem was solved by a sparetemple man, this man was introduced to me by a friend of mine. my husband just woke up one morning and left me and my three kids for almost three years, not too long i lost my job , i was struggling to feed my self and my kids. till one faithful day a friend of mine called shida introduce me to this spare casting man , she told me this man can solve all my problems, first i doubted, this man did it for me, i got a better job with more higher income, and my husband return home under fourty eight hours begging me to forgive him. this man can help you solve the following problems:

    if you want promotions in your job:

    if you want your ex lover back:

    if you are suffering from child bearing:

    if you need a new job:

    Gettings your lover or husband back.
    2. Spiritual bulletproof
    3. Training
    4. Money spell
    5. Long life spell.
    6. Prosperity spell
    7. Protection spell
    8. Get a job spell.
    9. Becoming a manager spell.
    10. Get a huge loan without paying any fee spell.
    11. Getting your scam money back.
    12. Child spell
    13. Pregnancy spell
    14. Freedom spell
    15. Love spell
    16, vanishing spell.
    17. Invisible human spell.
    18. Sucess or pass spell.
    19. Marriage spell
    20. Avenging spell
    21. Popularity spell
    22. Killing spell
    23. Cancer spell
    24. Supernatural power spell.
    25. Madness spell
    26. Free house loan spell.
    27. Production spell of films and movie.
    28. Hiv/aids spell
    29. Tubercolosis spell
    30. Loose weight and body spell.
    gambling spell and lot more.

    and other problems i cannot mention, contact this man through his email {drosamuspelltemple@gmail.com} i assure you that you will also drop your testimony.

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  84. i am joanna latorre and i want to thank doctorbalaya@gmail.com for bringing back my ex boyfriend, we broke up for more than 5 month and he told me that he will never want to see me in his life again. i love him so much to the extend that i could not think of deating any man again, i was confused and depress due to the love i had for him.i did everything i could do to have him come back to me but all went in vain. so i decided to contact a spell caster, i did not believe in spell casting i just want to try it may be it would work out for me. i contacted dr rivers for help,and he told me that he have to cast a love spell on him, i told him to do it. after 5 days my boyfriend called me and started to apologize for leaving me and also he told me that he still love me. i was very happy and i thank dr rivers for helping get back my ex back to my hands. his spell is the greatest of all over the world, it was the love spell he cast on my ex that make him come back to me. all you ladies who want back their ex back i want you to contact doctorbalaya@gmail.com for the return of your ex boyfriend and also your ex girlfriend he can also cast any kind of spell you want him to cast for you. his contact email:doctorbalaya@gmail.com just try him and their will be a solution to your case

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  85. BEWARE OF THESE SCAMS!!! DR MALAWI RACUM IS THE ONLY SPELL CASTER TO TRUST!( spellofsolutiontemple@yahoomail.com) will be of great help to you.
    I never believed in spell casting but After 4 years of dating my hobby, he left me because I lost my womb . I felt like my life has come to an end, I almost committed suicide, i was emotionally down for a very long time. Thanks to the spell caster called Dr Malawi whom i met online after my friend Tracy told me about how he helped her. She testified about how Dr Malawi brought back her Ex in less than 3 days and reversed the effect of her lost womb, and at the end of her testimony she dropped Dr Malawi's email address. I decided to give Dr Malawi a try. I contacted him via email and explained my problems to him. In just 3 days, my Hubby came begging. We resolved our issues, and we are even happier than before, am pregnant now to God be the glory. Dr Malawi is really a gifted man and i will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man... Come to think of it I didn't pay much and all I have to do is send him little 250 dollars which he used in providing the materials used for the spell. Even my pastor said that God works mysteriously, that some men are used by God to help others. If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster to solve all your problems for you. Contact Dr malawi anytime, he is the answer to your problems. Here's his contact spellofsolutiontemple@yahoomail.com

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  86. My name is Mike I am sharing my testimony to everyone that has tried everything possible and had lost hope on how they can get their ex back, i want you all to know that their is one man called Dr ukpoyan that work for me and after 24 hours of his spell brought my ex back to me without any delay, i am really happy now that we are together again and we are living happily with so much love and respect for each other, Email nowdr.ukpoyanspellhome@gmail.com

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  87. I and my boy friend as been separated for a long period, I cam across different spell caster and they were all unable to bring my lover back. I was so sad and almost gave up on him when i met a spell man called DR Osimen, who helped me get my lover back. Ever since then i have been so happy and couldn't believe it would happen. He also helped me with success spell, I have been living happily with my lover now and will be getting married soon. Here is his contact if you need his help. osimenspelltemple@gmail.com

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  88. OMG!! This is certainly a shocking and a genuine Testimony..I visited a forum here on the internet on the 20TH OF JUNE 2014, And i saw a marvelous testimony of this powerful and great spell caster called DR Ohehe on the forum..I never believed it, because i never heard nor learnt anything about magic before.. Not a soul would have been able to influence me about magical spells, not until DR Ohehe did it for me and restored my marriage of 8 years back to me and brought my spouse back to me in the same 24 hours just as i read on the internet..i was truly astonished and shocked when my husband knelt down begging for forgiveness and for me to accept him back.. I am really short of expressions, and i don't know how much to convey my appreciation to you DR Ohehe you are a God sent to me and my entire family.. And now i am a joyful woman once again.. here is his website: Email:(ohehenemenspelltemple001@gmail.com) Mrs Miller Moore from England City

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  89. I want to make a Big thanks to a man that just brought back my ex husband and my Kid back to my life through his spell casting,i thought Dr.OHEHE is a fake when i first meet him due to our Language differences and he told me that there is nothing i should be worried about because he is ready to help me and he promise that my Husband will be the one to call me begging me that he wants me back,i thought it was a joke,to my surprise this happen and Mark my Husband and ZAK my Kid is back to me now and i am very happy with the help of DR OHEHE that bring back happiness into my life.. if you really need help or you are looking for a way to know him,you can contact him on +2347031362391 or email address: ohehenemenspelltemple001@yahoo.com

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  90. Hello It is been said that Heaven help those who helped themselves, The very day that i helped myself was when i contacted Dr.Lawrence And since that very day it still surprise me how Dr.Lawrence was able to cast that spell that brought my lover back to me within 48 hours. Right now i feel like i am on top of the world with my lover by my side thank you so much drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail.com

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  91. I have just found the right one and the greatest spell caster on earth who has brought back my happiness and turned my world around by helping me get my ex partner and helped me get back my life cause i was totally frustrated after 6years of hardship and pain, a friend of mine buzz me on my email saying i should cheer up cause solution has come. At first i was like what are you saying, then she mentioned the name ‘EBOEHI’ and i must thank my savior Great DR EBOEHI who has play a very vital part of my life making me a great person and the most happiest person today you are a great man who is bless by powers with traditionaproblem l healing spell caster, after Great DR EBOEHI has help me get my ex back he also help me recover what i have lost in past years i must thank him (Great DR EBOEHI) the life he has restored back for me and my happiness. Now i am doing well in my work and also with my partner, Great DR EBOEHI is a very great spell caster you need to know just meet him and with your problem and it will be over.. Email him via: (supernaturalspelltemple@gmail.com)

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  92. Thanks to this great man of spirit called Dr samura which I don’t know how to thank him for the good work he has Don for me and family which I want to share my testimony with to you all so I was married to Hassan and my name is Nora for six years now he left me with two kids with know reason which I don’t know what to do.so one day i was in my friends place when I exposed my pain to her about my depression which I have be looking for who to help me out of it then my friend called me closer to her self telling me on how she got this great man of spirit who helped her found her way to get her husband back then I ask of his contact she quickly go and get her computer and gave me his Email ID and his number so,that is how I contacted him for a help. And now am so happy with my family and with a happy home if you are in such pain kindly Via Email SAMURATELLERSPELL100@YAHOO.COM or call +2348103508204 have faith in him and he will help you
    Nora

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  93. GREETINGS.....

    My name is Mrs Merlin Lina, Am from UK, I had a serious quarrel with my husband due to my parent, my parent never like him to be my husband, but i love him so much that i will rather die to let him go off me, that was how i met this great man of DR. TEBE online, he told me that everything will be fine that he can do a spell that will make my parent love him and allow me to marry him without any quarrel thoroughly it came to pass my mum and dad love him most than before we are now happily married,please help me in thanking him for his help, here is the email: greattebespelltemple@gmail.com His web site address is http://greattebespelltemple.webs.com ALSO CONTACT HIM FOR HELP IF YOU HAVE ANY PROBLEM. You can call him with this number: +2348143048153.

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  94. GREETINGS.....

    My name is Mrs Merlin Lina, Am from UK, I had a serious quarrel with my husband due to my parent, my parent never like him to be my husband, but i love him so much that i will rather die to let him go off me, that was how i met this great man of DR. TEBE online, he told me that everything will be fine that he can do a spell that will make my parent love him and allow me to marry him without any quarrel thoroughly it came to pass my mum and dad love him most than before we are now happily married,please help me in thanking him for his help, here is the email: greattebespelltemple@gmail.com His web site address is http://greattebespelltemple.webs.com ALSO CONTACT HIM FOR HELP IF YOU HAVE ANY PROBLEM. You can call him with this number: +2348143048153.

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  95. I am Mrs ANDERSON ANN from USA, i want to share a testimony of my life to every one. i was married to my husband Barry Morgan, i love him so much we have been married for 5 years now with two kids. when he went for a vacation to France he meant a lady called Clara who en charm him with his beauty, he told me that he is no longer interested in the marriage any more. i was so confuse and seeking for help, i don't know what to do until I met my friend Miss Rose and told her about my problem. she told me not to worry about it that she had a similar problem before and introduce me to a man called Dr Iyayi. who cast a spell on her ex and bring him back to her after 3days. Miss Rose ask me to contact Dr Iyayi. I contacted him to help me bring back my husband and he ask me not to worry about it that the gods of his fore-fathers will fight for me. He told me by three days he will re-unite me and my husband together. After three day my husband called and told me he is coming back to sought out things with me, I was surprise when I saw him and he started crying for forgiveness and that he never knew what came upon him that he will never leave me again or the kids.it was the spell that was casted on him that was working on him. Right now I am the happiest woman on earth for what this great spell caster did for me and my husband, you can contact Dr.Iyayi on any problem in this world, he is very nice, here is his contact driyayilovespellhome@gmail.com. or contact him through his website address: http://driyayilovespellhome.webs.com You can also contact him through his mobile: +2347032617285.
    You can also view my testimony on my blogger site: http://andersonann511.blogspot.com/201 .He is the best spell caster.




    I am Mrs ANDERSON ANN from USA, i want to share a testimony of my life to every one. i was married to my husband Barry Morgan, i love him so much we have been married for 5 years now with two kids. when he went for a vacation to France he meant a lady called Clara who en charm him with his beauty, he told me that he is no longer interested in the marriage any more. i was so confuse and seeking for help, i don't know what to do until I met my friend Miss Rose and told her about my problem. she told me not to worry about it that she had a similar problem before and introduce me to a man called Dr Iyayi. who cast a spell on her ex and bring him back to her after 3days. Miss Rose ask me to contact Dr Iyayi. I contacted him to help me bring back my husband and he ask me not to worry about it that the gods of his fore-fathers will fight for me. He told me by three days he will re-unite me and my husband together. After three day my husband called and told me he is coming back to sought out things with me, I was surprise when I saw him and he started crying for forgiveness and that he never knew what came upon him that he will never leave me again or the kids.it was the spell that was casted on him that was working on him. Right now I am the happiest woman on earth for what this great spell caster did for me and my husband, you can contact Dr.Iyayi on any problem in this world, he is very nice, here is his contact driyayilovespellhome@gmail.com. or contact him through his website address: http://driyayilovespellhome.webs.com You can also contact him through his mobile: +2347032617285.
    You can also view my testimony on my blogger site: http://andersonann511.blogspot.com/201 .He is the best spell caster.

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  96. I am Mrs ANDERSON ANN from USA, i want to share a testimony of my life to every one. i was married to my husband Barry Morgan, i love him so much we have been married for 5 years now with two kids. when he went for a vacation to France he meant a lady called Clara who en charm him with his beauty, he told me that he is no longer interested in the marriage any more. i was so confuse and seeking for help, i don't know what to do until I met my friend Miss Rose and told her about my problem. she told me not to worry about it that she had a similar problem before and introduce me to a man called Dr Iyayi. who cast a spell on her ex and bring him back to her after 3days. Miss Rose ask me to contact Dr Iyayi. I contacted him to help me bring back my husband and he ask me not to worry about it that the gods of his fore-fathers will fight for me. He told me by three days he will re-unite me and my husband together. After three day my husband called and told me he is coming back to sought out things with me, I was surprise when I saw him and he started crying for forgiveness and that he never knew what came upon him that he will never leave me again or the kids.it was the spell that was casted on him that was working on him. Right now I am the happiest woman on earth for what this great spell caster did for me and my husband, you can contact Dr.Iyayi on any problem in this world, he is very nice, here is his contact driyayilovespellhome@gmail.com. or contact him through his website address: http://driyayilovespellhome.webs.com You can also contact him through his mobile: +2347032617285.
    You can also view my testimony on my blogger site: http://andersonann511.blogspot.com/201 .He is the best spell caster.

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  97. I am Mrs ANDERSON ANN from USA, i want to share a testimony of my life to every one. i was married to my husband Barry Morgan, i love him so much we have been married for 5 years now with two kids. when he went for a vacation to France he meant a lady called Clara who en charm him with his beauty, he told me that he is no longer interested in the marriage any more. i was so confuse and seeking for help, i don't know what to do until I met my friend Miss Rose and told her about my problem. she told me not to worry about it that she had a similar problem before and introduce me to a man called Dr Iyayi. who cast a spell on her ex and bring him back to her after 3days. Miss Rose ask me to contact Dr Iyayi. I contacted him to help me bring back my husband and he ask me not to worry about it that the gods of his fore-fathers will fight for me. He told me by three days he will re-unite me and my husband together. After three day my husband called and told me he is coming back to sought out things with me, I was surprise when I saw him and he started crying for forgiveness and that he never knew what came upon him that he will never leave me again or the kids.it was the spell that was casted on him that was working on him. Right now I am the happiest woman on earth for what this great spell caster did for me and my husband, you can contact Dr.Iyayi on any problem in this world, he is very nice, here is his contact driyayilovespellhome@gmail.com. or contact him through his website address: http://driyayilovespellhome.webs.com You can also contact him through his mobile: +2347032617285.
    You can also view my testimony on my blogger site: http://andersonann511.blogspot.com/201 .He is the best spell caster.

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  98. I want to say a big thank you to drokhihie the Great Spell Caster that brought the love of my life back to me, it was really a hard time for me when i had a fight with my Fiance which led to our breakup.Though i tried every thing possible to make him forgive me and come back to me but he still refuse until i saw some testimony on the internet of how drokhihie has helped so many people with his spell so i contacted him via email:drokhihiespelltemple@gmail.com and explain every thing to him, to my greatest surprise he told me that all will be fine after he has prepared the spell and here i am very happy today because drokhihie is truly a man of his word,he has put a smile on my face by bringing my fiance back to me with his spell and now my fiance now love me more than i ever imagined. Do you have problems in your relationship ? have your partner broke up with you and you still love and want him back ? Do you have problem with your finance ? or do you need help of any kind then contact drokhihie today for i give you 100% guarantee that he will help you just as he helped me. drokhihie email is: drokhihiespelltemple@gmail.com

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  99. I can't really believe that i am with my Ex-Husband after when he broke up with me with 4 kids i thank Dr EDOSA of (edosaspelltemple@gmail.com) for helping me getting back my man back, My Name is Jazmin Perez i am from England and my man name is Mr Perez Cole, my happiness turn to bitterness,my joy turn to sorrow,my love turn to hate when my husband broke up with me last week,i was so frustrated and i could not know what next to do again, i was so unthinkable and i could not concentrate any more, i love my husband so much but he was cheating on me with another woman and this makes him broke up with me so that he can be able to get marry to the other lady and this lady i think cast a spell on my husband to make him hate me and my kids and this was so critical and uncalled-for,I cry all day and night for God to send me a helped to get back my man until i went to Westmoreland to see a friend and who was having the same problem with me but she latter got her Husband back and i asked her how she was able to get her husband back and she told me that their was a powerful spell caster in Africa name DR EDOSA that her help with love spell in getting back lost lover's back and i decided to contacted the same Dr EDOSA and he told me what is needed to be done for me to have my man back and i did it although i doubted it but i did it and the Dr told me that i will get the result after 24hours, and he told me that my husband was going to call me by 9pm in my time and i still doubted his word, to my surprise my husband really called me and told me that he miss me so much Oh My God i was so happy, and today i am happily with my man again and we are joyfully living together as one good family and i thank the powerful spell caster Dr EDOSA of (edosaspelltemple@gmail.com), he is so powerful and i decided to share my story on the internet that good spell casters still exist and Dr EDOSA is one of the good spell caster who i will always pray to live long to help his children in the time of trouble, if you are there and your lover is turning you down, or you have your husband moved to another woman, do not cry anymore contact the powerful spell caster Dr EDOSA on his email: (edosaspelltemple@gmail.com) and he will answer you, i am a living testimony and i will continue to testify of his goodness in my family,he turn my family to paradise and today we are all happy together Dr EDOSA i say thank you in one million times thanks Dr.

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  100. my name is JULIE MATTIE. When i read a testimony online on how dr.drust the great and most powerful spell caster online of great ultimate temple, i was wondering how can this be true, Because many has failed me in the past without any result from them. I just let the post pass by and move on the forum. To my notice under again, Some person posted and said tested and trusted spell caster. After reading through the mail it was this same dr.trust she was talking about. So i have no other option than to really check up how he works. Thank him for making my wish come true! I was totally devastated when my beloved lover left me. It was like my entire world vanishing into sorrow and pain. I felt how sincere, honest and authentic he was from his first email. I know it sounds weird but out of all the spell casters I contacted, he was the only one to give me that impression of being so true and trustful. More than his words, it s the fantastic work he accomplished for me that I will keep in mind. He brought my lover back and he made all my wishes come true. He is now loyal, pays attention to me, he offers me flowers every Sunday, and we often go out at the cinema and the restaurant. I will be forever thankful for turning my life from hell to heaven! i believe who need help should get to him for help. TRULY SPEAKING THIS MAN IS REALLY A GREAT SPELL CASTER AS HE DID NOT FAIL ME BUT GRANT MY WISHES BY BRING MY HUSBAND BACK TO ME. if you are passing through any kind of difficult in your relationship email him and he will help you (ultimatespellcast@gmail.com or ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com tel:+2348156885231) to get the problem solve, Because there is no spell caster online like him.

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  101. My ex-boyfriend dumped me 5 months ago after I caught him of having an affair with someone else and insulting him. I want him back in my life but he refused to have any contact with me. I was so confuse and don’t know what to do, so I visited the INTERNET for help and I saw a testimony on how a spell caster help them to get their EX back so I contact the spell caster and explain my problems to him….. the spell caster cast a spell for me and assured me of 3 days that my EX will return to me and to my greatest surprise the third day my EX named John came knocking on my door and beg for forgiveness. I am so happy that my love is back again and not only that, we are about to get married. Once again thank you Dr. ODIAGBE AKHIGBE you are truly talented and gifted contact his email: airehobhuanuagbontemple@yahoo.com

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  102. mark Lackwhite · University of Oxford
    My Name is Lackwhite from UK, I wish to share my testimonies with the general
    public about what this man called Dr.okuta has just done for me , this man
    has just brought back my lost Ex husband to me with his great spell, i was
    married to this man called Steven, we were together for a long time and we
    loved our self’s but when i was unable to give him a child for 2 years he
    left me and told me he can’t continue anymore then i was now looking for
    ways to get him back until a friend of mine told me about this man and gave
    his contact email drokutaspell@gmail.com then you won't believe this
    when i contacted this man on my problems, he prepared this spell cast and
    bring my lost husband back, and after a month i miss my month and go for a
    test and the result stated am pregnant am happy today am a mother of a baby
    girl, thank you once again the great okuta for what you have done for me,
    if you are out there passing through this same kind of problems you can
    contact him today on his email drokutaspell@gmail.com and he will
    also help you as well

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  103. mark Lackwhite · University of Oxford
    My Name is Lackwhite from UK, I wish to share my testimonies with the general
    public about what this man called Dr.ovia has just done for me , this man
    has just brought back my lost Ex husband to me with his great spell, i was
    married to this man called Steven, we were together for a long time and we
    loved our self’s but when i was unable to give him a child for 2 years he
    left me and told me he can’t continue anymore then i was now looking for
    ways to get him back until a friend of mine told me about this man and gave
    his contact email (drokutaspell@gmail.com) then you won't believe this
    when i contacted this man on my problems, he prepared this spell cast and
    bring my lost husband back, and after a month i miss my month and go for a
    test and the result stated am pregnant am happy today am a mother of a baby
    girl, thank you once again the great dr, okuta for what you have done for me,
    if you are out there passing through this same kind of problems you can
    contact him today on his email. drokutaspell@gmail.com and he will
    also help you as well

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  104. Hello everyone i want to share a live testimony on how Dr Alex was able to bring my husband back to me, myself and my husband were on a serious breakup, even before then we were always quarreling fighting and doing different ungodly act..
    My husband packed his things out of the house and we had to live in different area, despite all this i was looking for a way to re_unite with my husband, not until i met Dr Alex the great spell caster who was able to bring my husband back home, Dr Alex cast a love spell for me, and after some time i started seen results about the spell....
    Today my family is back again and we are happy living fine and healthy, with Dr Alex all my dream came through in re_uniting my marriage, friends in case you need the help of Dr Alex kindly mail him on( solutionhelpcentre@gmail.com ) or call him on +2347036013351, Sir i will forever recommend you!!!

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  105. Carol Andersen,

    This was even faster than I could dream of. Thank you for taking time to listen to me and answering all my emails. I feel emotional strong again. My confidence is back and I see my future clearly. I am forever grateful for your help in re-uniting me with my old lover.if there is any one out there ineed of help pls contact {d.rriveshebalisthome@gmail.com}

    Carol Andersen, Seattle, USA

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  106. Hello
    I am ROBERTSON ANGELIA from CALIFORNIA, When I eventually found testimonies about this spell caster DR.IYAYI, how he helped many people to get their lovers and broken homes back, i contacted him through his email address driyayilovespellhome@gmail.com because I was absolutely desperate to get my husband back. Life without my husband was a real mess for me and my two kids. i wanted a dramatic change and I thought magic could be the solution. After discussing the resolution with DR. IYAYI, he gave me hope that he will restore my marriage. I felt confident that he will actually make my husband to return home and he did! It’s fantastic what this great spellcaster have done for me, his help is priceless! I don't know what I would have done without DR. IYAYI, DR. IYAYI does his job so well he is organized and highly functional, i believe he is the best spell caster i can count on when it comes to all kinds of spell, I was floored that his spells worked, if you need help, contact him via email: driyayilovespellhome@gmail.com, or contact him through his website address: http://driyayilovespellhome.webs.com
    OR YOU CAN ALSO CONTACT HIM THROUGH HIS MOBILE: +2347032617285 and i assure you things will turn around for you....

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  107. Hello
    I am ROBERTSON ANGELIA from CALIFORNIA, When I eventually found testimonies about this spell caster DR.IYAYI, how he helped many people to get their lovers and broken homes back, i contacted him through his email address driyayilovespellhome@gmail.com because I was absolutely desperate to get my husband back. Life without my husband was a real mess for me and my two kids. i wanted a dramatic change and I thought magic could be the solution. After discussing the resolution with DR. IYAYI, he gave me hope that he will restore my marriage. I felt confident that he will actually make my husband to return home and he did! It’s fantastic what this great spellcaster have done for me, his help is priceless! I don't know what I would have done without DR. IYAYI, DR. IYAYI does his job so well he is organized and highly functional, i believe he is the best spell caster i can count on when it comes to all kinds of spell, I was floored that his spells worked, if you need help, contact him via email: driyayilovespellhome@gmail.com, or contact him through his website address: http://driyayilovespellhome.webs.com
    OR YOU CAN ALSO CONTACT HIM THROUGH HIS MOBILE: +2347032617285 and i assure you things will turn around for you....

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  108. Hello
    I am ROBERTSON ANGELIA from CALIFORNIA, When I eventually found testimonies about this spell caster DR.IYAYI, how he helped many people to get their lovers and broken homes back, i contacted him through his email address driyayilovespellhome@gmail.com because I was absolutely desperate to get my husband back. Life without my husband was a real mess for me and my two kids. i wanted a dramatic change and I thought magic could be the solution. After discussing the resolution with DR. IYAYI, he gave me hope that he will restore my marriage. I felt confident that he will actually make my husband to return home and he did! It’s fantastic what this great spellcaster have done for me, his help is priceless! I don't know what I would have done without DR. IYAYI, DR. IYAYI does his job so well he is organized and highly functional, i believe he is the best spell caster i can count on when it comes to all kinds of spell, I was floored that his spells worked, if you need help, contact him via email: driyayilovespellhome@gmail.com, or contact him through his website address: http://driyayilovespellhome.webs.com
    OR YOU CAN ALSO CONTACT HIM THROUGH HIS MOBILE: +2347032617285 and i assure you things will turn around for you....

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  109. Have never believed in the supernatural or talk less of spell or even voodoo.In my head there was nothing on earth that was ever going to get me involve in such thing but life was we know throw s**t at your door and some how the doors opens up and let it strike you.************* My twin sister was having an affair with the my long time boyfriend.I mean i only found out the day he told me was no longer want to be with me that he was in love with my twin sister and he has been cheating on me with her.This was after four year of dating.I lived in pain for a whole year having to see her face every family thanksgiving day with the man i love sitting side by side kissing him and hugging maybe to piss me off or something it only made me hated her more and more desperate to get my boyfriend back.I got him back finally yes i did, but i can fail to say i did not use the normal way Metodo Acamu help me cast a spell to kill their relationship and rekindle ours to how we were before they started her affair.In case you asking asking yourself how possible it is believe me i don't know and won't tell you i understand cos like i said i never in my life thought it would result to me using a spell or something but there is one thing i know is that the spell worked for me and made my love fall in love with me again.There not much i can say to emphasize how the spell worked all i know is that i was asked to get some materials for the spell of which i was to buy and go present the materials myself to Metodo Acamu or send over or send the expenditure to him to get the materials need for the spell.to me it was less expensive to wire th cash to him to get the materials cos they are the expert in it.But i know in the end METODO ACAMU pulled through with the spell and made me whole again.Like honestly my main purpose for writing this was to let those out there know that other comment about METODO on the internet is really cos here i am tell you my story it can get anymore real than it is already.I can never forgive my twin sister even though i have got my love back.Use this email address as METODO ACAMU contact metodoacamufortress@yahoo.com

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  110. !!! How Dr.Ukaka Restore My Broken Marriage And Bring Back My Lover !!!

    My Success Story: And i am so happy to spread the news on the internet for those that need real and a reliable spell caster to contact without meeting with various fake and rip off spell casters online first just the way i came in-contact with like 4 fake spell caster online before now. I will start my success story by introducing myself to the entire world and were i am from. I am Sarah by name a citizen of USA that was in so much depression, frustration and confusion before i came in-contact with this spell caster that helped me solve my problem and made me happy once more. Late last year, to be preside October 16 2013, I had a problem with my relationship, So because of that i have to quit the my boyfriend / husband and move on to another man i fell in love with again outside after i have left Matthew the following week. Matthew really tried for me as he showed me real love, by playing with me all the time when i return from work, so good to me when is bed time, In-fact he was really a nice man. But due to the fact that sometimes he complains on so many things to much i had to seek for a divorce and i left him alone and went ahead with life. This new man i meant was caring at first and also lovely. But as time pass-by, I found out that this new man only loved me all just because i had a very good Job as all he want to do to me is to run away with my money and claim so many of my assets. I noticed this late November same year and i went down with depression and burst into tears and i was regretting ever seeking for a divorce to leave Matthew because i really started missing Matthew in my life to the extent that i was calling his cellphone but he was not taking up my calls. As the only time i hear from him is when he will send me a text message were he will be telling me that he do not want me anymore as he is in love with his new girlfriend as they are even planing of getting married first week of December Thanks to Mrs Stefany that introduced me to this great spell caster called Dr Ukaka that is so trustful and reliable in all his works and spell casting. His email is as follows:freedomlovespell@hotmail.com also contact him on his web site: freedomlovespelltemple.yolasite.com

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  111. I have been in great bondage for about 4 years suffering in the hands of a cheating husband. We were living happily until he meant his old time girl friend and he started dating her again outside our marriage and before i knew it he stopped caring for his own family, to the extent that he was planning to marry her and divorce me. I cried and reported him to his family members but he never listened to anyone and to cut the story short, i came in search for a real spell caster who could destroy their relationship and make him come back to me and our 2 kids again; on my search i saw people sharing testimony on how their marriage was restored by Dr. Eze Malaka and i pick his email and told him the problem that i was going through, and he agreed to help me and told me never to worry. After he had finished casting the spell, on the second day, they both had a quarrel and he beat up his girlfriend and he came back home begging me to forgive him that his eyes are clear now that he will never do any thing that will hurt his family again and promise to be a caring father and never to cheat on me again. I am so happy that i did not lose him to the girl and all appreciation goes to Dr. Eze Malaka for his great work. You are a Great spell caster and to you all that are faced with this or similar problem to this, please contact him now on extremewhitelovespell@yahoo. com or his WEBSITE ADDRESS is http://extremewhitelovespell.webs.com once again thank you Dr. thank you, thank you.

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  112. My name is lius Francisca, and I base in U.S.A...My life is back!!! After 2 years of Broken marriage, my husband left me with two kids . I felt like my life was about to end i almost committed suicide, i was emotionally down for a very long time. Thanks to a spell caster called Dr Jatto, which i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet,I came across allot of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb,cure cancer,and other sickness, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and so on. i also come across one particular testimony,it was about a woman called Lydia,she testified about how he brought back her Ex lover in less than 2 days, and at the end of her testimony she dropped Dr Jatto E-mail address. After reading all these,I decided to give it a try. I contacted him VIA Email and explained my problem to him. In just 48hours, my husband came back to me. We solved our issues, and we are even happier than before Dr Jatto, is really a gifted man and i will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man... If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster to solve all your problems for you. Try High drjattosplltemple@gmail.com anytime, he might be the answer to your problems. Here's his Email drjattosplltemple@gmail.com OR CALL +2349035512062.

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  113. Thanks to this great man of spirit called Dr Zaza which I don't know how to thank him for the good work he has Don for me and family which I want to share my testimony with to you all so I was married to Hassan Moel and my name is Julie deshields for six years now he left me with two kids with know reason which I don't know what to do so one day i was in my friends place when I exposed my pain to her about my depression which I have be looking for who to help me out of it then my friend called me closer to her self telling me on how she got this great man of spirit who helped her found her way to get her husband back then I ask of his contact she quickly go and get her computer and gave me his Email ID and his number so,that is how I contacted him for a help. And now am so happy with my family and with a happy home if you are in such pain kindly Via Email {drzazaspelltemple100@hotmail.com} or call +2348103508204 have faith in him and he will help you
    Julie Deshields.

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  114. NOW I DON’T WANNA TALK ABOUT MY LIFE BUT I HAVE FOLLOWED MOST OF THESE CRAPS AND GOT USED. MOST OF THESE PEOPLE TELLING YOU BEWARE THIS BEWARE OF THAT ARE BUNCH OF CRAPS AND SCAMS. THE ONLY WOMAN YOU CAN ACTUALLY TRUST ON SPELL IS MAMA ISIABEL HER EMAIL IS mama4africanspell@gmail.com, I WOULD HAVE BROUGHT Her RIGHT HERE IN THE UK IF POSSIBLE. SHE DID A WHOLE LOT OF THINGS WHICH I WILL REALLY MENTION HERE BUT THE MOST OF WHAT SHE DID FOR ME WAS HELP ME BROUGHT MY EX BACK SHE IS GREAT AND I MET HER OVER THE INTERNET JUST AS EVERY OTHER PERSON HAS TESTIFIED BUT SHE IS ACTUALLY REAL AND A VERY GOOD SPELL CASTER AND KIND TOO AND SHE IS LIKE A MOTHER TO ME EVER SINCE SHE BROUGHT MY EX BACK. I’M STILL VERY MUCH INDEBTED TO MAMA ISIABEL FOR SAVING MY LIFE AND MY MARRIAGE. I WANT TO LET YOU ALL KNOW THAT YOU DON’T HAVE TO TRY ANYBODY ELSE EXCEPT MAMA ISIABEL. HER EMAIL CONTACT IS mama4africanspell@gmail.com

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  115. I have been greatly encouraged by the testimonies from those that Dr Love Spell caster Solution have helped to get their ex back between 48hrs .

    I have the same problem Two months ago,I fell in love with a Lady at work and we were in deep love for one year and half but the moment she discovered that i lied to her about my real age she decided to break up with me and After couple of weeks we break up she got New job with another company in a different City about 105 km away from me ,We communicate with each other once in a while but all what she want from me is just a friend .
    I really need her back in my life because i love her so much and i never feel this way before , cant stand the pain i go through everyday by day thinking about her because i miss her so much,then a friend of mine David refer me to contact DR Love Spell Caster for solution (oguuprince1@hotmail.com)
    i contact Dr Love for help ,he assure me she will come back to me between 48 hrs after performing spell on her,at first i don't believe it will work because i don't know someone like Dr Love spell caster solution exist in the world to help people get there love back until the next day i saw my ex girlfriend kate knocking my door early in the Morning . she told me she was very sorry that she don't meant to hurt my feeling about her ,Now we are planing to get married soon .thanks so much DR Love.

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  116. My name is lius Francisca, and I base in U.S.A...My life is back!!! After 2 years of Broken marriage, my husband left me with two kids . I felt like my life was about to end i almost committed suicide, i was emotionally down for a very long time. Thanks to a spell caster called Dr Jatto, which i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet,I came across allot of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb,cure cancer,and other sickness, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and so on. i also come across one particular testimony,it was about a woman called Lydia,she testified about how he brought back her Ex lover in less than 2 days, and at the end of her testimony she dropped Dr Jatto E-mail address. After reading all these,I decided to give it a try. I contacted him VIA Email and explained my problem to him. In just 48hours, my husband came back to me. We solved our issues, and we are even happier than before Dr Jatto, is really a gifted man and i will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man... If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster to solve all your problems for you. Try drjattosplltemple@gmail.com anytime, he might be the answer to your problems. Here's his Email drjattosplltemple@gmail.com OR CALL +2349035512062.

    1. GETTING YOUR EX BACK
    2. WINNING LOTTERIES.
    3. CHILD BEARING.
    4. BREAKING OF GENERATION COURSE.
    5. GETTING OF JOB.
    6. JOB PROMOTION.
    7. MONEY SPELL.
    8. SPIRITUAL PROTECTION.
    9. HERBAL CARE.
    10. BEAUTY SPELL.

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  117. Beware Of Spell casting scammers not all are real some might be fake BE WISE!!!I never knew people still have powers and make things happened this way.my husband Westley left me for another woman for three months’ ever since then my life have been filled with pains sorrow and heart break because he was my first love for over 21 years now. two years ago, A friend of mine Susan told me he saw some testimoniesof this great Dr Goodluck that he can bring back lover within some few days, i laugh it out and said i am not interested but because of the love my friend had for me, she consulted the great priest on my behalf and to my greatest surprise after three days my husband called me for the very first time after three months that he is missing me and that he is so sorry for every thing he made me went through and as i speak right now we are happily back for good. i still can’t believe it, because it highly unbelievable it just too real to be real. Thank you Dr Goodluck for bringing back my husband and also to my lovely friend who interceded on my behalf, for any one who might need the help of this great priest here is the email address drextrapowerghost@gmail.com or you can call the great man on +2347058807502. good luck

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  118. My name is tucker stacey.This is a very joyful day of my life because of the help Dr.Trust has rendered to me by helping me get my ex husband back with his magic and love spell. i was married for 6 years and it was so terrible because my husband was really cheating on me and was seeking for a divorce but when i came across Dr.Trust email on the internet on how he help so many people to get thier ex back and help fixing relationship.and make people to be happy in their relationship. i explained my situation to him and then seek his help but to my greatest surprise he told me that he will help me with my case and here i am now celebrating because my Husband has change totally for good. He always want to be by me and can not do anything without my present. i am really enjoying my marriage, what a great celebration. i will keep on testifying on the internet because Dr.Trust is truly a real spell caster. DO YOU NEED HELP THEN CONTACT DOCTOR TRUST NOW VIA EMAIL: Ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com or call +2348156885231 or ultimatespellcast@gmail.com. He is the only answer to your problem and make you feel happy in your relationship. wesbite http://ultimatespellcast-net.webs.com

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  119. my ex-boyfriend dumped me 8 months ago after I caught him of having an affair with someone else and insulting him. I want him back in my life but he refuse to have any contact with me. I was so confuse and don’t know what to do, so I visited the internet for help and I saw a testimony on how a spell caster (Dr Zack Balo) help them to get their ex back so I contact the spell caster (Dr Zack Balo) and explain my problems to him….. he cast a spell for me and assure me of 3 days that my ex will return to me and to my greatest surprise the third day my boyfriend came knocking on my door and beg for forgiveness. I am so happy that my love is back again and not only that, we are about to get married. Once again thank you for helping me to get my love back and your love spell is truely perfect, you are truly talented and gifted i will continue to publish your name on the net because of the good work you are doing.If you need his help contact him now through his email: wiseindividualspell@gmail.com.YOU CAN CONTACT HIM NOW AND GET YOUR PROBLEM SOLVED email: wiseindividualspell@gmail.com.




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  120. My name is miss Linda , I came across Dr.Sabato’s email address, through the search of help on the internet. on how he is good in helping people with their problems, such as bringing their lovers back, curing sickness etc. so I email him about my condition and how my lover left me. He told me it would take him only 48 hours to get my lover back to me, really my lover called me before 48 hours begging me to forgive him and forget about the past and he is ready to make up for lost time. Thank you Dr.Sabato, for the good job you did for me, continue the good work, for i know there are still people out there who need your help, do you need help to get your ex lover back? worry no more because Dr.Sabato the great spell caster can help you just as he helped me bring my lover back. contact Dr.Sabato on this email address (Sabatospiritualtemple@gmail.com

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  121. My name is Taylor Borg,All thanks goes to Dr.Trust for saving my marriage from toning apart.i feel so grateful and only have good words about a powerful spell caster named Dr.Trust who helped me bring back my wife. We had been apart for 4 months, at first I was thinking if I was doing the right thing by contacting a spell caster, but I so much love my wife and won't give her up for anything in this world. I decided to contact Dr.Trust through his mail address I found on several testifiers messages online,and I told him about my situation, he laughed and told me my wife will be back to me in the next 48 hours. I felt it wasn't going to happen at first until my wife called me and was so eager to have me back more than anything on earth.. Now we are together and she cant do without me,and both of us are happy. I feel so happy sharing this testimony because there was no negative act attached to his work. His work was smooth and fast. Thanks to Dr.Trust for bringing back happiness to my life. I swear with my life that Dr.Trust is a man to trust and take your problems to. You can contact him on his e-mail if you really truly want your love back. dr.(ULTIMATESPELLCAST@GMAIL.COM OR ULTIMATESPELLCAST@YAHOO.COM TEL: +2348156885231) website http://ultimatespellcast-net.webs.com

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  123. Hello everyone I want to share a live testimony on how Dr Alex was able to bring my husband back to me, myself and my husband were on a serious breakup, even before then we were always quarreling fighting and doing different ungodly act..
    My husband packed his things out of the house and we had to live in different area, despite all this I was looking for a way to re_unite with my husband, not until I met Dr Alex the great spell caster who was able to bring my husband back home, Dr Alex cast a love spell for me, and after some time I started seen results about the spell....
    Today my family is back again and we are happy living fine and healthy, with Dr Alex all my dream came through in re_uniting my marriage, friends in case you need the help of Dr Alex kindly mail him on( solutionhelpcentre@gmail.com ) or call him on +2347036013351, Sir I will forever recommend you!

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  124. I had a problem with my boyfriend 6 months ago, which lead to our broke up. When he broke up with me, i was not myself again; i fill so empty inside me. Until a friend of mine told me about a spell caster who helped her in the same problem too. i email the spell caster and i told him my problem and i did what he asked of me, to cut the long story short. Before i knew what was happening, not up to 48 hours, my boyfriend gave me a call and he come back to me and told me he was sorry for everything that happen,i am so greatful to this spell caster and will not stop publishing his name on the net for the good work he is doing.If you need his help,you can email him at onimalovespell@gmail.com and he will also help you too Dr Kasee of onimalovespell@gmail.com or tel +2347051705853 i will forever be greatful to you.

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  125. Hello to every one out here, am here to share the unexpected miracle that happened to me three days ago, My name is Edwin Wallace i live in United State,and I`m happily married to a lovely and caring wife,with two kids A very big problem occurred in my family seven months ago,between me and my wife so terrible that she took the case to court for a divorce she said that she never wanted to stay with me again,and that she did not love me anymore So she packed out of my house and made me and my children passed through severe pain. I tried all my possible means to get her back,after much begging,but all to no avail and she confirmed it that she has made her decision,and she never wanted to see me again. So on one evening,as i was coming back from work,i met an old friend of mine who asked of my wife So i explained every thing to her,so she told me that the only way i can get my wife back,is to visit a spell caster,because it has really worked for her too So i never believed in spell,but i had no other choice,than to follow her advice. Then she gave me the email address of the spell caster whom she visited.(kemespelltemple@gmail.com }, So the next morning,i sent a mail to the address she gave to me,and the spell caster assured me that i will get my wife back the next day what an amazing statement!! I never believed,so he spoke with me,and told me everything that i need to do. Then the next morning, So surprisingly, my wife who did not call me for the past seven {7}months,gave me a call to inform me that she was coming back So Amazing!! So that was how she came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and she apologized for her mistake,and for the pain she caused me and my children. Then from that day,our relationship was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a spell caster . So, i will advice you out there to kindly visit the same website {kemespelltemple@gmail.com },i f you are in any condition like this,or you have any problem related to "bringing your ex back. So thanks to Dr KUME for bringing back my wife,and brought great joy to my family once again.(kemespelltemple@gmail.com }, Thanks..

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  126. My name is Camille bruno Valdez my partner and I have been trying for a baby for over two years now, We were going to a fertility clinic for about 5 months before somebody told us to contact this spell caster who is so powerful, We contacted him at this email; arewaspecialistttemple@gmail.com , for him to help us, then we told him our problem, he told us that we will either conceive in February 2014 or March 2014,but after two years of trying we were at a point where we were willing to try anything. And I'm glad we came to Dr Dahiru, Because his pregnancy spell cast put us at ease, and I honestly believe him, and his gods really helped us as well, I am thankful for all he has done. contact him via email: arewaspecialistttemple@gmail.com if you are trying to get a baby or want your lover back. he has powers to do it, he has done mine,

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  127. When the man I love broke up with me, my world fell apart. I had gone to several casters and I got no results or insufficient ones. I found Dr. Grea http://reunifyexlove.webs.com and gave another try to retrieve my lover and restore the passionate relationship I had with him. I’m glad I did and trusted him. He performed a spiritual cleansing to banish negative energies and cast a love spell. 72 hours the man I missed dearly started to call me and told me few days ago that he still loves me and wants to try again. Thank you Re_unifyexlove@outlook.com or http://reunifyexlove.webs.com.

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  128. When the man I love broke up with me, my world fell apart. I had gone to several casters and I got no results or insufficient ones. I found Dr. Grea http://reunifyexlove.webs.com and gave another try to retrieve my lover and restore the passionate relationship I had with him. I’m glad I did and trusted him. He performed a spiritual cleansing to banish negative energies and cast a love spell. 72 hours the man I missed dearly started to call me and told me few days ago that he still loves me and wants to try again. Thank you Re_unifyexlove@outlook.com or http://reunifyexlove.webs.com.

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  129. Hi all I will never forget the help of DR Olokum do to me in my married life. I have been married for 4 years and my husband and I love each other dearly. after 3 years of our marriage my husband suddenly change he was having an affair with a woman outside, I realize that time I was praying for divine intervention thing became more serious I told my pastor about We prayed but nothing happened. My husband just came home one day to pick up and me and the guys went to her lover was at this point I was confused about what to do again because I lost my husband and my marriage too. I was checking my emails in the office when I saw someone share their testimony of how RD Olokum help with her marital problems so I contacted the email jayema priest told him my problem and told me to be assured that i have come to the right place that I fill out some information about my self I did after 30 unless he called me again congratulating me that my problems are solved within 48 hours. told me what went wrong with my husband and how happen.that that my marriage will be restored but will make a donation to the orphanage loose anything home my heart told me. to my great surprise my husband came to my office on her knees begging that I should find a place in my heart to forgive him, I ask him quickly that I have forgiven him.friends not appropriate, why it is not very difficult DR Olokum work try giving surprises because I also bring back her husband. contact him through LAVENDERLOVESPELL@YAHOO.COM

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  130. Am Taisia from USA. After being in relationship for seven years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the Dr CAFAi, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by reffering him or her to the only real and powerful Dr CAFAi who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email cafaispiritualtemple@yahoo.com) you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything.

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  131. After being in relationship with emma for seven years, he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email: drinegbedionspellhome@gmail.com you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT YOU SIR HIS EMAIL ADDRESS

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  132. My name is maria johan from malaysia. My boyfriend left me a month ago and he was leaving with another woman who is 10 years older than him,i feel like my life is completely over. I read over the internet how a spell caster have help several people to get there love back. I have been depress for the past one month and what i need is to get him back and live with him happily. so i decided to give it a try so i contacted the spell caster called Dr.Trust and explain my problems to him and he cast a love spell which i use to get my boyfriend back and now my life is complete and both of us are very happy with the relationship. and i am throughly grateful to this man,his contact email is ultimatespellcast@gmail.com or ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com Thank you very much and i am extremely greatful Tel: +2348156885231.And there is know evil attach to his spell.it will only make your relationship very stronger. website http://ultimatespellcast-net.webs.com

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  133. I want the world to know a great man that is well known as Dr.EKPEN TEMPLE has the perfect solution to relationship issues and marriage problems. The main reason why i went to Dr.EKPEN TEMPLE was for solution on how i can get my lover back because in recent times i have read some testimonies on the internet which some people has written about Dr.EKPEN TEMPLE and i was so pleased and i decided to seek for assistance from Dr.EKPEN TEMPLE which he did a perfect job by casting a spell on my lover which made him to come back to me and beg for forgiveness. I will be drop his contact of Dr.EKPEN TEMPLE for the usefulness of those that needs his help, They are via email: (((ekpentemple@gmail. com))) via mobile +2347050270218

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  134. I am Champagne Douglas from USA, I promise to share this testimony all over the world once my husband return back to me, and today with all due respect i want to thank DR NICE for bringing joy and happiness to my relationship and my family. I want to inform you all that there is a spell caster that is real and genuine. I never believed in any of these things until i loosed my husband I required help until i found drniceharbelhealinghome@gmail.com a great spell caster, And he cast a love spell for me, and he assured me that I will get my husband back in two days after the spell has been cast. two days later, my phone rang, and so shockingly, it was my husband who has not called me for past 3 years now, and made an apology for the heart break, and told me that he is ready to be my back bone till the rest of his life with me. DR NICE released him up to know how much i loved and wanted him. And opened his eyes to picture how much we have share together. As I’m writing this testimony right now I’m the most happiest woman on earth and me and my husband is living a happy life and our love is now stronger than how it were even before our break up. So that’s why I promised to share my testimony all over the universe.All thanks goes to DR NICE for the excessive work that he has done for me. Below is the email address in situation you are undergoing a heart break, and I assure you that as he has done mine for me, he will definitely help you too. drniceharbelhealinghome@gmail.com

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  135. My name is jessylynn taylor NY from U.S.A I have to give this miraculous testimony, which is so unbelievable until now. I had a problem with my Ex husband 2years ago, which lead to our break up. when he broke up with me, I was not my self again, i felt so empty inside me, my love and financial situation became worst, until a close friend of mine lucy told me about a spell caster who helped her in the same problem too his name is Dr.irabor I email drbellospellcaster@gmail.com the spell caster and i told him my problem and i did what he asked of me, to cut the long story short. Before i knew what was happening my husband gave me a call and told me that he was coming back to me in just 2days and was so happy to have him back to me. We have two kids together and we are happy with ourselves. Thanks to Dr.irabor for saving my relationship and for also saving others own too. continue your good work, If you are interested to contact him and testify this blessings like me, the great spell caster email address is (prophetirabor@gmail.com) you are the best among all the spell caster online I hope you see my testimonies and also pray for my family too. And he also do the following spell
    1-Love spell
    2-Money spell
    3-Good Luck spell
    4-Job spell
    5-Exam spell
    6-Home problem Spell
    7-Instant Death Spell
    8-Famous Spell
    9-Fruitfulness of a child
    10-Lottery spell
    In short contact him in any kind of spell is CONTACT ME VIA
    EMAIL:prophetirabor@gmail.com
    he will help you. thanks once again my spiritual Father God bless you.



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  136. `I don`t just know how to start writing this testimony in tears of joy and happiness,After 3years of heart break by the man i truly love and cherish, a man who disvirgined me and took away my pride,He left me and for another lady telling me he his not longer interested i cried and was totally down for 3years never knew who to cry to so ,Until i was reading on a news paper few days ago on how Dr OSAUYI helped someone in bringing back her ex i saw the lady who broadcasted the news i was like for a lady to broad cast this good job of this great man Dr OSAUYI ,So i said let me give a try i contacted Dr OSAUYI and told him my problem how my lover left me for 3years without even calling or texting me,So Dr OSAUYI told me that everything would be okay within 48hours that i would be happy with the man i love,Truly before the 48hours i got a call from my lover saying in tears that he was sorry,And he want to came over to the house and he proved to me that he will never leave me for any other lady,He made me had access to everything and made me is beneficiary to all is will and asset,Am so happy today for what Dr OSAUYI has just done for me,Please friends don`t make mistake but be in the right path here is Dr OSAUYI private mail OSAUYILOVESPELL@YAHOO.COM or cell Number +2347064294395 My Name is Carol Brandy, Doc i appreciate your work web sit (http://osauyilovespell.webs.com)

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  137. After being in relationship with him for 3 years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email is DRAISEDIONSPELLCASTER@GMAIL.COM you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or any other problem.

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  138. Hello, My name is Jessylynn harvey. i want to share to the whole world on how Dr Keke Odin the chief Priest of all the spell casters in India Helped me reunite my marriage. To cut the long story shot, after 2 years of break up with my Husband with no phone calls or email messages. i was so frustrated because i have contacted so many other spell casters with no results. when i read about Dr Keke Odin (The Chief Priest Of all the spell casters in India) on his website at http://greatkekespelltemple01.webs.com so i decided to contact him for help. to my greatest surprise, in just 24 hours later my Husband called me and started begging for forgiveness. i am now a happy woman with a beautiful baby girl.all thanks to Dr Keke Odin. You can contact Dr keke Odin On contact him directly on his email at greatkekespelltemple@gmail.com or contact him through his website at http://greatkekespelltemple01.webs.com. his help is assured and guaranteed once again email him directly at greatkekespelltemple@gmail.com

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  139. Hello, My name is Jessylynn harvey. i want to share to the whole world on how Dr Keke Odin the chief Priest of all the spell casters in India Helped me reunite my marriage. To cut the long story shot, after 2 years of break up with my Husband with no phone calls or email messages. i was so frustrated because i have contacted so many other spell casters with no results. when i read about Dr Keke Odin (The Chief Priest Of all the spell casters in India) on his website at http://greatkekespelltemple01.webs.com so i decided to contact him for help. to my greatest surprise, in just 24 hours later my Husband called me and started begging for forgiveness. i am now a happy woman with a beautiful baby girl.all thanks to Dr Keke Odin. You can contact Dr keke Odin On contact him directly on his email at greatkekespelltemple@gmail.com or contact him through his website at http://greatkekespelltemple01.webs.com. his help is assured and guaranteed once again email him directly at greatkekespelltemple@gmail.com

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  140. My name is morgan keri.i want to give thanks to dr.trust for bringing back my ex husband.No one could have ever made me believe that the letter I’m about to write would actually one day be written. I was the world’s biggest skeptic. I never believed in magic spells or anything like this, but I was told by a reliable source (a very close co-worker) that Trust is a very dedicated, gifted, and talented person,It was one of the best things I have ever done. My love life was in shambles; I had been through two divorces and was on the brink of a third. I just couldn't face another divorce, and I wanted to try harder to make our relationship work, but my husband didn’t seem to care. and he brake up with me again.I was confuse and do not no what to do again,rather them to get in contact with dr.trust. He did a love spell that make my husband come back to me. we are now very much happy with our self. dr.trust make him to realize how much we love and need each other.This man is for REAL and for good.he can also help you to fix your broken relationship. I had my husband back! It was like a miracle! He suddenly wanted to go to marriage counseling, and we’re doing very, very well,in our love life.contact email(ultimatespellcast@gmail.com or ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com tel:+234186885231) http://ultimatespellcast-net.webs.com

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  141. looking for how to get this boy back to my life because i love this boy with the whole of my heart, i could not replace him with any body,one day i was watching my television when i saw a lady giving thanks to Dr igbalu and telling the world how he helped her i was so shocked i could not believe it because i never taught that there are powers that can bring back lost love, then that was how i decided to contact him too because i do really need my love back,when i contacted him i told him everything and he told me not to worry that my love will surely be back to my arms within 48hours at first i could not believe because i was thinking how could somebody that has gone for 6years come back within 48 hours,so then i decided to watch and see,unbelievable within the next 48hours i got a call from unknown number so i decided to pick the call the next thing i could hear was my loves voice he was pleading and begging me on the phone that i should forgive him that i should forget all that have happened that he did not know what came over him,he promised not to leave for any reason, that he was really sorry for what he did,i was so surprised because i never believed that this could happen,so that was how i accepted his apology and the next morning he came to my house and still pleading for me to forgive him i told him that everything is okay that i have forgiven him, that was how we started again and now we are married, i promised to say this testimony in radio station, commenting this testimony is still okay but before this month runs out i promise to say this in radio station and i will,sir thank you very much.World please am begging you people to try and thank this man for me,or if you need his help here is his email address:ogbonispelitemple@hotmail.com , you can still contact me through my email to know more about him.this is my email adress:ogbonispelitemple@hotmail.com.

    Name:faith

    Country USA

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  142. Today has being the most happiest day of my life after 1 year of sadness and sorrow without being with the one i love, i tried all my possible best to make sure i make my lover happy but it never seems to work out well it was like am doing everything in vain but all thanks to Dr OSAUYI for coming to change all my worries and sadness to Joy. i knew the great man when i read some wonderful reviews about Dr OSAUYI how he has helped a lots of people on there relationship problem i was reading a magazine which then i saw great testimonies as well which then i decided not to waste time because i have missed my lover so much i decided to contact him and share all my problem with him which then he told me not to worry that he assures me that within 48 hours everything would be sorted out i believed Dr OSAUYI so much because i believe he can't fail me but truly Dr OSAUYI never failed me a man that stand on his worlds is really a man,my husband who left me for good a year plus replied my text and returned my calls and asked me to please forgive him i was so happy am so grateful to Dr OSAUYI for what he has done for me if you are there pass the same problem or any kinds of problem just contact the great man on OSAUYILOVESPELL@YAHOO.COM call his mobile number +2347064294395.

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  143. My Name is rosna ,i am From canand .I wish to share my testimonies with the general public about what this man called Prophet Osula has just done for me,this man has just brought back mylost Ex husband to me with his great spell,I was married to this man Muller we were together for a long time and we loved our self’s but when I was unable to give him achild for 2 years he left me and told me he can’t continue anymore then I was now looking for ways to get him back until a friend of mine told me about this man and gave his contact email,then you won't believe this when I contacted this man on my problems he prepared this spell cast and bring my lost husband back,and after a month I miss my month and go for a test and the result stated am pregnant am happy today am a mother of a baby girl,thank you once again the great Prophet Osula for what you have done for me, if you are out there passing through any of this problems contact the great spell cast email: ayelalashrine@gmail.com

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  144. i want to thank this great man called drzizi for bringing back my love life, me and my boyfriend were having some issues during this last period and he told me he was no longer interested in the relationship and i was so down by this until i meant drzizi who helped me and am taking my time to tell the whole world about him you can contact him through his email;drzizitemple@gmail.com or you can give him a call +2348164509114 if you are having any issue with your relationship.
    STEPHANY
    UK

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  145. Hello, my name is Miss faith, I'm from USA. I want to inform you all that there is a spell caster that is genuine and real. I never really believed in any of these things but when I was losing Garvin, I needed help and somewhere to turn badly. I found consultant.odia spells and i ordered a LOVE SPELL. Several days later, my phone rang. Garvin was his old self again and wanted to come back to me! Not only come back, the spell caster opened him up to how much I loved and needed him. Spell Casting isn't brainwashing, but they opened his eyes to how much we have to share together. I recommend anyone who is in my old situation to try it. It will bring you a wonderful surprises as well as your lover back to you. The way things were meant to be." you can contact the spell caster on ogbonispelitemple@hotmail.com he's very nice and great.

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  146. I am from Cyprus, i want to use this medium to testify of how i got back my ex husband after divorce, i and my husband have been married for 8years with 2 kids, we have been a happy family. Last year his behaviour towards me and the kids changed, i suspected he was meeting another woman outside out marriage, any time i confronted him, he threatened to divorce me, i did all i could to make hings right but all to no avail until i saw a post on a "love and relationship forum" about a spell caster who helps people to cast spell on marriage and relationship issues, when i contacted this spell caster via email, he helped me cast a re-union spell and my husband changed and came apologising to me and the kids. Contact this great spell caster for your relationship or marriage issues via this email ikedispiritualtemple@gmail.com Goodluck

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  147. I NEVER BELEIVE IN LOVE SPELLS UNTIL DR OGOJI DID IT FOR ME

    Hello I am Kate from usa ,I am out here to spread this good news to the entire world on how I got my ex lover back.I was going crazy when my love left me for another girl last month, But when i meet a friend that introduce me to Dr OGOJI the great messenger to the oracle that he serve,I narrated my problem to Dr OGOJI about how my ex lover left me and also how i needed to get a job in a very big company.He only said to me that i have come to the right place were i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect.He told me what i need to do,After it was been done,In the next 2 days,My ex lover called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me before now and also in the next one week after my ex lover called me to be pleading for forgiveness,I was called for interview in my desired company were i needed to work as the managing director..I am so happy and overwhelmed that i have to tell this to the entire world to contact Dr OGOJI at the following email address and get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve..Contact him direct on:ogojidogospirituallovespell@gmail.com and get your problems solve.

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  148. My name is Rosie Smith. To cut a long story short I tried about 3 different spell casters over a period of 3 months and all they wanted was more & more money and kept coming up with excuses as to why the spell wasn’t working. Just when I was about to give up I came across several good testimonies of Dr. Oyinbo over the internet. I contacted him and he promised to restore my faith back into spell casters, that they are real and love spells do actually work. I was very sceptical after several scam spell casters. Mine wasn’t a simple spell but Dr. Oyinbo went above & beyond his way to look for extra money when extra work was required. Always called & txt on time. Replied to emails on time. Only asked for half the spell money as initial payment. My partner had walked out on me one day with no explanation …. I was devastated. When I was about to give up hope, Dr. Oyinbo words guided and encouraged me, and then he was back 3 days after the spell was cast. I recommend Dr. Oyinbo extremely highly. Dr.oyinbo you are a gifted man and I will not stop recommending him because he is a wonderful man. If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster, Try him anytime, he is the answer to your problems. You can contact him on ( prophetoyinbojesus@yahoo.com or prophetoyinbojesus@yahoo.com) or call him +2348074066640. He is the best caster that can help you with your problems. He restored my faith and I AM FINALLY HAPPY.

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  149. I have been in bondage ever since my ex leaves ME for another man,It was really hell for me and everybody told me to forget about her but i could not because i love her so much. Things get worse until my friend introduced me to this great spell Therapist ONIHA and i contacted him through his email winexbackspell@gmail.com i explain everything to him and he cast a spell for me immediately after four days, everything turn around and my love come to me on her knee begging for forgiveness that i am the one and only man in her life now. I was surprise i have never seen such a miracle in my life. I am so thankful to this man and i will forever publish his name Therapist Oniha of the winexbackspell@gmail.com is the greatest.

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  150. I am Wrisney Tan, from USA, I promise to share this testimony all over the world once my boyfriend return back to me, and today with all due respect i want to thank Prophet Lord for bringing joy and happiness to my relationship and my family. I want to inform you all that there is a spell caster that is real and genuine. I never believed in any of these things until i loosed my boyfriend, I required help until i found a grate spell caster, And he cast a love spell for me, and he assured me that I will get my boyfriend back in two days after the spell has been cast. Three days later, my phone rang, and so shockingly, it was my boyfriend who has not called me for past 6 years now, and made an apology for the heart break, and told me that he is ready to be my back bone till the rest of his life with me. Prophet Lord released him up to know how much i loved and wanted him. And opened his eyes to picture how much we have share together. As I`m writing this testimony right now I`m the most happiest girl on earth and me and my boyfriend is living a happy life and our love is now stronger than how it were even before our break up. So that`s why I promised to share my testimony all over the universe. All thanks goes to Prophet Lord for the excessive work that he has done for me. Below is the email address in any situation you are undergoing a heart break, and I assure you that as he has done mine for me, he will definitely help you too. solutionoflovespelltemple@gmail.com that is his email address

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  151. Hi every one...

    I am Jennish Ox born from Texas USA, I want to use this medium to testify of how I got back my ex
    boyfriend. After 3 years in
    relationship with my boyfriend he suddenly told me that he was tired of the relationship and broke
    up with me, I was emotionally devastated because I really did love him, I tried all I could to get
    him back but all proved abortive until I saw a post on the internet on how a spell
    caster Dr. Ojuku helps people restore back their broken relationship/marriage at first I doubted
    but decided to give it a try, when I contacted this spell caster via email he helped me cast a re-union
    spell and within 5hours my boyfriend came back to me apologizing and today we are happily together again.
    Contact this great spell caster on your marriage and relationship
    problems at drojukuspellhome@gmail.com or call him on his phone number, +2348112941538
    Good luck.

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  152. I have been in great bondage for about 4 years suffering in the hands of a cheating husband. We were living happily until he meant his old time girl friend and he started dating her again outside our marriage and before i knew it he stopped caring for his own family, to the extent that he was planning to marry her and divorce me. I cried and reported him to his family members but he never listened to anyone and to cut the story short, i came in search for a real spell caster who could destroy their relationship and make him come back to me and our 2 kids again; on my search i saw people sharing testimony on how their marriage was restored by Dr. guru anunu and i pick his email and told him the problem that i was going through, and he agreed to help me and told me never to worry. After he had finished casting the spell, on the second day, they both had a quarrel and he beat up his girlfriend and he came back home begging me to forgive him that his eyes are clear now that he will never do any thing that will hurt his family again and promise to be a caring father and never to cheat on me again. I am so happy that i did not lose him to the girl and all appreciation goes to Dr. guru. anunu for his great work. You are a Great spell caster and to you all that are faced with this or similar problem to this, please contact him now on anunuspelltemple@ymail.com he will give you all the attention you deserve.

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  153. A GREAT SPELL CASTER(Dr Agagu)THAT HELP BRING MY EX GIRL BACK TO ME. My name is martins i want to testify about this great spell caster that helped me when all hope was lost. I broke up with my ex girlfriend with just little misunderstanding hoping we will get back shortly,but things was growing worse until i contacted Dr Agagu who help me with his powers to bring her back, i have never believed in a spell caster until i come across Dr Agagu,in case you need the help of this great spell caster you can contact him through his email:agaguspelltemple@live.com once you contact him all your problems will be over,once again i say very big thanks to you sir for helping me to recover my ex girlfriend, and please sir keep your good work cause people may need your help.

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    Get all solutions in your life within 36 hours and with 100% guaranteed. contact him on agaguspelltemple@live.com

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