Wednesday, March 7, 2012

Push Me - Pull You : The Push-Pull Cycle


The Push-Pull cycle in Borderline Personality Disorder is complicated. There’s a million different variables that lead into and cause various episodes of this; love, fear, abandonment, dissociation, object constancy, splitting, etc. I’ve talked about the push-pull cycle, mentioned aspects of it in various places, but I don’t believe I’ve tried to pull it all together in one place. So let’s do that.

Push-Pull - is a chronic pattern of sabotaging and re-establishing closeness in a relationship without apparent cause or reason. It’s that back and forth feeling of wanting to be close to someone, letting them into a more intimate and vulnerable position in our life, being suffocated, or becoming afraid of that vulnerability, needing to escape [potentially] being hurt, fearing the loss, acting on that fear, and then desperately trying to get that person back from fear of that abandonment, often by apologizing profusely and doing everything we can to be perfect for them again. Rinse. Lather. Repeat.

Often for me this breaks down to two key factors; wanting to be intimately close to someone, and fear of being hurt/abandoned by them at the same time. The closer you allow someone to get to you, the more vulnerable you become to the reality that they are now in a position to hurt you more than other people. If you keep people at a distance you have a safety zone, an emotional buffer. But this doesn’t allow for true intimacy.

It’s that whole threat of intimacy. I want to be close, but I want to be safe too. The closer someone gets, the more able they are to hurt me. So someone gets too close, I push away. Half the time I think it’s for their own good! I know my issues. I’ve ruminated on the millions of possibilities that could happen if someone gets close enough to see the “real me”. The illusion of perfection will be shattered in the tarnished portrait of the bad person I really am. For as much as I want love, want to love, I don’t always believe I deserve it because I know how much has happened to me, everything I’ve done, all my baggage is too much to place on another person. What right do I have to unload all of this onto someone? So pushing away really is for their own good after all. Of course I’m rationalizing, but it’s true to me regardless. But then I’m left alone, I get lonely, and I miss the closeness that was there, and I want to pull back.

For the most part I think it’s a fear response. Fear that we will be left, that we aren’t worthy of being loved, that people are lying and trying to use us… an endless list of other things. We need reassurance and it takes a lot of energy to show us that. Unfortunately it’s a part of our nature to need this. It’s also a part of our nature to feel smothered by it, push it away, fear the loss of it, frantically try to retrieve it, and repeat the cycle endlessly, for as long as someone will let us.

From my article on Baiting and Picking Fights:
There’s something else though. An element of, if the other person will allow me to push, stay with me through the hurtful things I do, it ‘proves’ that they won’t abandon me. The more we can push away, the more baits and barbs we can throw, the more fights we can pick, the longer they show that they’ll tolerate it or try to work it out with us, the more we can believe that they mean what they say and aren’t trying to deceive us … If we can make someone we care for SO ANGRY, they’ll either prove us right, or prove us wrong. Either way we’ll know something for sure, and it stops (momentarily) the constant second guessing going on in our heads. Believing someone, trusting someone… I know I’ve been hurt so badly that I can never fully do this. That doesn’t mean I don’t want it. I just have to test the fences to be sure.

I think what triggers unstable behavior in relationships is the magnitude of intimacy. The closer the relationship, the more invested we are, the more frightening the possibility of it ending becomes. Funny, that this is almost always a self-fulfilling prophecy. We become frightened something will happen, we act in ways to push people away, to distance ourselves from them, before they can hurt us, and this very act is what starts the downward spiral into the destruction of the relationship. It sounds clean cut when you look at it like that, but it never is.



The pushing away is gradual. Often we don’t even recognize the things we do that manifest as pushing people away. Our thoughts and actions seem quite rational to our traumatized mind. No one sees it coming, not even us most of the time.

Hypersensitive to feeling trapped! This is one of the biggest triggers that makes me push away in relationships. It’s coupled by the sensation of being smothered. Boring-Ex smothered me. He’d coddle me. I would see him and I would have no room to express myself, be myself, I would lose myself because he would criticize when I did express myself. His personality was so overbearing that I could feel the air being slowly sucked out of my lungs whenever I was near him. I didn’t feel like I could be me, and the only way I knew to reestablish that was to eliminate the problem that created this deficit; the relationship. I did try talking to him about these things, but he wasn’t the kind to compromise.

That’s not to say that everything that goes on is purely in our own minds and created by our fears. Things are often brought about by how the other person treats us. I’ll do so much for people, pull people close, meet their needs and demands, and then eventually I’ll flip. I’ll be completely overwhelmed by what someone else wants when it’s not what I want. This often happens because I’ll take on so much responsibility for “our happiness” that I don’t express what I need in a constructive way. Instead, I’ll feel like I’m losing my sense of Self to their needs, not my own, that what I’ve just been doing is now too much, being taken advantage of, a demand instead of a desire, expected not appreciated and I’ll have to Push away to regain control of my own situation. It’s not quite the same as the traditional Push-Pull explanation, but the sentiments match up. It inspires feelings of resentment and resistance coupled with the borderline flipside desire to not be abandoned and needing approval. Can’t be too aggressive otherwise we’ll push people away irrevocably, can’t be too passive and just let things slide because then we’re just being taken advantage of and the resentment builds to explosion.  

A Non may have done nothing wrong, they may have unintentionally triggered us, or they may be someone that we’re afraid to get too close to because we can see the potential for an intimate relationship. Seeing the potential doesn’t mean we’re prepared to deal with it though. For me, and for many with BPD, there is a lot of abuse, a lot of hurt, a lot of pain in our past, and each new relationship is an opportunity to repeat that process. We have to move slow, emotionally. I often move fast physically to stave off the emotional intimacy that I really need. When I sense things getting too close, closer than I prepared to handle, I need to reestablish a safe zone, I push back. Sometimes this just means taking some space, sometimes it manifests as baiting and picking fights, sometimes it means dropping off the radar completely until I’m ready to rejoin humanity. What I want is to be close, but not too close. I can’t figure out how to do this without pushing away and pulling closer. Allowing someone in, and then forcing them back out.

How do you cultivate trust when you’ve been so wounded? How do you cultivate trust when you don’t actually know how to trust?
Finally, this also happens when we plain just don’t want to be with someone anymore. I’m not going to lie. This is exactly what happened with Boring-Ex. I wasn’t attracted to him when we were together. The only time I was attracted to him was when we were breaking up. I absolutely believe this was because I was more afraid of The Loss and not necessarily the loss of him.  So I would pull him back to me, despite the fact that I knew deep down that I didn’t really want to be with him. It still FELT like I did. In the moment I absolutely believed I needed to be with him. It was the fear of that loss that triggered my need to pull him back to me though.
The Push-Pull cycle is insidious. It sneaks up on you. Neither person may notice it at first because it begins so small. Only once it escalates do you really realize what is happening.

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  1. I think the fact that you want intimacy at all is a good step in the right direction. I have trouble even really wanting to get that close to anyone. It's a nice idea and all I guess, but.... I dunno. it's like I can't have that closeness with someone unless I can somehow control their mind/thoughts and actions all the time, which is obviously impossible.

    As for trust?..... :/

    I think you're asking the right questions, though; and questioning the thought processes sometimes that hold you back.

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  2. Another perfectly timed blog entry, Haven. Last night I broke up with my friend. Ive been doing push/pull with him (he does it with me too) for the last few weeks and last night I snapped. I told him he wasnt being fair to me, he didnt love me enough to be my boyfriend, he just wants a glorified fuckbuddy and Im done with it.

    Its hard for me, because I cant tell when I am standing up for myself and when I am being overdemanding and unreasonable. I think its reasonable that I would want us to be making some forward progress after 8 months, and not him just using me for sex. He doesnt see it that way. He's all "different love" and he cares about me, just like he cares about the other women he fucks.

    Ive got to work on me. I cant be involved with someone who wont even commit to me in a non-monogamous fashion. It is killing what little self esteem I have.

    I was hoping when I pushed him away last night he would step up, but he didnt. So now I have to let him go :(

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    1. Oh man that sucks. Or maybe it's for the best that you finally snapped. The cycle is often more vicious than the actual ending of the relationships.

      It sounds like you've put up with too much in this relationship so far and you're not being unreasonable.

      There's never fault in needing to work on you. You deserve someone that holds you up and makes you feel good, not someone that fucks with your head and destroys your self esteem.

      It'll probably be rough for a bit but you can get through it.

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    2. Sarah

      I hear you. I'm only on this site trying to understand the push/pull. I can tell you as a "non", you are not over-reacting. By 8 months, most men are sharing their long term relationship goals.

      If he can't even be exclusive with you then you dont sleep with him. You need to roll back girl and go completely NO CONTACT. This idiot is playing you and humans will expend the least amount of energy possible for the benefits...would you pay $20 for something you could pay $2 for. His personality is almost impossible to change until he is ready. No perfect woman is going to make him change, yes yes all of us want to be the exception and tame him into being loving and committed but that only happens when HIS time is ready for that...not how wonderful the woman is....the woman who makes him change just happens to turn up at the right time...if you're thinking of hanging around incase he spontaneously combusts from a cockroach, to a frog to a prince (thanks Baggage Claim website for that quote), then you're dreaming girl

      Power up my friend....get rid of him and make the next guy value you...no sex until he is exclusive...you are worth more than casual.

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    3. MY sonia is back to me after a very long time which i an my ex separated since i was alone my life change every thing about me change a friend of mine gave me an email address and told me that this was the email address she contacted when she was in the same problem so i contacted the email i got a reply he ask me to send him my number so i did he was a man call priest grace he caster a spell for me and told me that within THREE day that my ex we be back for good within that three days my ex was back, i and my ex are getting married. next week, you contact him at gracerelatinshipspell@gmail.com once again thank you priest grace a God to me

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  3. Great post Haven, I agree with Sarah. Nicely timed.

    I'm the effing champ of push/pull.

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  4. Information and education are the key. Some people are well worth fighting through the Push/Pull battle. Haven, thanks for the info & the education. The Champ isn't so bad. :)

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  5. I've overcome part of this as I have been happily married 15 years in May. We had some rough times, but when I "restarted" therapy, I was diagnosed with PTSD and Major Depressive Disorder which caused me to go into full Borderline chaos. My husband started therapy and learned how to manage and take care of himself. This is one of the few relationships that I am firmly attached. However, I still do this with my therapist, but not as much. In the beginning of my first round of therapy, I tested and tested and push and push and pulled and pulled. Thank God he hung in there because it was 7 years of learning how to trust that he was going to just show up.

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  6. My boyfriend of three years has just broken up with me three weeks ago. He has been diagnosed with different metal illnesses and one of this is BPD. I guess my question is, how can I tell if he just broke up with me because he is in his push/pull cycle or does he acutally want to break up with him. I know either way, it is his reality that he does not want to be in a relationship. I guess if he is going through a pull/pull cycle, I will try to tough it out and support him and be there for him. If he really does not want to be in a relationship, I guess I would just have to walk away.

    When I hung out with him this past weekend, I told him I felt like he cleaned me out of his condo but he actually stashed everything of ours/mine in the closet. He told me that he did not throw anything out. I had asked him why and he said something along the lines that he doesn't know what will happen in the future. I think he might be implying that he thinks there is a possibility we would get back together(?).

    He made plans with me to attend a music festival this weekend and seems to be very excited about it. Of course, with me still wanting to be in a relationship with him, I agreed to attend this music festival with him.

    I asked him he hangs out with me because he thinks it is easier for me or if he just feels sorry/bad for me. He said he hangs out with me because he likes it but then I ask him questions and that frustrates him and then he feels conflicted.

    He has told me that he needs me to move on and that he just wants to be alone and he doesnt want to be in a relationship...that he will just end up hurting me and he will never be able to commit to me like I commit to him.

    Help!! I want to stay in this but am I just really being stupid?

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    1. From my experience when I push away it's almost immediately followed by an attempt to pull back. Smaller arguments I'll try to pull back right away, after major break ups it'll be within a couple days and I'll be in a panic until I can get back with them.

      It doesn't sound like there's anything like that here. He may genuinely like you as a person (which is why he didn't just throw out your stuff which would be rude) and want to keep you in his life, but if he's not making an attempt to actually get back together, apologizing profusely, begging you to come back, etc, then his attempts to stay in contact may be genuine platonic affection but not romantic.

      He's told you that he doesn't want to be in a relationship so you should probably take him at his word. He sounds like he cares for you but that doesn't mean it's right for a relationship. Honestly the best thing for you is probably to take some time off from him until you can move on and get over your feelings for him. He's already out. For you to stay in and keep asking him questions is probably why he gets frustrated.

      For someone diagnosed with BPD this actually sounds like a pretty rational and reasonable response from him.

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    2. Thanks for your response.

      I guess I was confused because he told me he didn't want to be in a relationship and then he would tell me that he might change his mind next week. So then I have this glimps of hope.

      He has told me that he feels conflicted, frustrated and like he is suffocating and a lot of it has nothing to do with me or the relationship. He said that he pushes me away because that is what he has always done in the past. He said when he feels like this, he just pushes people away...and that is part of the reason why he doesn't have many friends...and then he feels down because he doesn't have many friends.

      I guess I just want to make sure of everyting because I walk away. I had once told him that he cannot push me away like he did to his friend and that I would be here for him and love him no matter how crazy the rollercoaster is.

      He said that he doesn't usually know if he is doing the push/pull thing until later on and then he regrets it.

      He said with that saying "you don't know what you have until it is gone", he has to play that game. He feels like he has to break up with me to see if he gets that feeling(?).

      Anyways, thanks for listening to me rant and vent.

      I really thought he was in the push/pull cycle and maybe I painted it that way to give myself hope.

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    3. and if I tell him I'm going to let him go, if this is a push/pull cycle, he would want to get close to me again?

      Sorry, I get kind of confused. I have different people telling me different things.

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    4. Yeah it's likely. If you tell him you're going to move on, and actually make the move so it looks like you are... if he starts getting clingy or really needs attention and wants to get even closer again then it would be more push/pull cycle.

      If he let's you move on, then he may just mean what he says.

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    5. Thank you for your help.

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    6. Ultimately the choice is yours and depends on what you're okay with dealing with. It's never just one cycle of push-pull. It will happen over and over, maybe not forever, but it isn't usually just one instance. That can be a lot for people to take emotionally, but if he's someone that you feel is worth it (because we do have many many redeeming qualities as people, BPD aside), then it could be worth the emotional investment for you.

      Either way, it sounds like if you don't take a step back, he won't be able to figure it out. I do understand what he means. I'm usually never sure about someone until I discover how afraid I am of losing them.

      Really the best advice I can give is try not to overthink it, and take it day by day.

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    7. We had a brief conversation last night. He said that now that he is not with me, he doesn't feel frustrated anymore. He is not sure why and he can't pinpoint the reason. I guess it really was the relationship then if he doesn't feel frustrated anymore.

      Thanks for all your responses.

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    8. Not a problem at all. Sometimes things just end. In the end it'll be better for both of you to find someone that is who you really needs. I know it feels horrible now though ::hugs::

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    9. This sort of reminds me of my current situation, but I'm not sure. My boyfriend and I broke up because he had a freak out one night during an argument and I ended up in the hospital diagnosed with BPD because of my subsequent breakdown over it. For me, that helped me make a lot of sense of what sorts of things were happening in my head during various situations, but I often sometimes wonder if my boyfriend is also undiagnosed BPD, and here's why...

      Since the breakup, we have been slowly reestablishing a relationship from the ground up, and the process has been a few months. He has said to me and some of his friends that he just wants to focus on fixing himself and our friendship for now and I was okay with that, because I felt like we would eventually gravitate towards what we had naturally. But then the push-pull began, and I recognized it from the brief break up we had had about a year and half prior. He'd build me up, talk to me, want to hang out with me, then go a little quiet. The big difference in this time and last time is that I have been trying to be more communicative, especially about the things that trigger my BPD and make me split, like this push/pull cycle. Recently, his push phase went so far as to be flirting with me and teasing with rekindling the relationship for about a week, and then he went stone quiet. My BPD was obviously super triggered by this, and I often end up riding the tides of his push/pull, but when I made him tell me what was going on (as I could tell it couldn't be just "work is stressful" since he was being more quiet than usual), he said he met someone he was getting a feel for and might consider pursuing, though maybe they'd just end up friends, the relationship would be hard, he wasn't sure.

      So after thinking about it for a few days, I told him that maybe we shouldn't talk for a bit until he figured out what he wanted to do, because my brain couldn't handle being put in those emotionally vulnerable situations so often. I asked for just two weeks of this, and he said not to put a time limit on it, for me to take the space I needed, and he'd take his, and that I could contact him when I felt comfortable to. It hasn't even been a week and I'm dying... I want to reach out again, but if his behavior is anything like last time, putting my foot down and sticking to it is what made him clean up his act. So I'm hoping that this will be the right move to stop the cycle, but I've also been freaking out that I just slammed the door and he'll think I'm overreacting to something that might not even mean anything except that he's crazy confused and conflicted and unable to tell up from down.

      Our mutual friends all express pride that I stood up for myself because he was jerking me around, though all of them contest that knowing him, it was unlikely he had any idea he was. Some of my other friends feel like I'm too fixated on him, but I think that's because they've been listening to me handle this push/pull thing for like half a year now. Anyway, I guess I'm just curious what you think of this situation, if it sounds like my boyfriend is push/pulling or if he's just fucking with me. And maybe if my prediction that putting my foot down will help at least push him out of the cycle, if not back to me?

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  7. hello Haven...after being envolved with my boyfriend with BPD...things were looking pretty good for the past 3 months, he tells me he needs some time off to get a clear picture, he needs to challenge his day to day fears, it has nothing to do with me he says...now its 5 days and have no news....what do i do?...i have some very deep feelings for this man, but don't know if i should just let it be till he comes back to me...or move on, or at least try...cause i am so deeply hurt...lolita

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    1. I would say it's ok to check in. Tell him you're thinking about him and wonder where he is.

      5 days isn't terribly long. I've taken breaks from people because I believed I need to before that have lasted longer. It's ok to touch base, but don't push. Let him have the space he needs but reassure him that you'll be there when he comes back.

      If he takes much, much to long, than make it clear that you need someone that will be there. You don't deserve to wait around forever. But if you really do care, it's okay to wait a while a give him time to work through what he's working through.

      Relationship are a two way street. It's important, and productive, that he's telling you what he needs. But it's important that he respects what you need as well when you need some reassurance as well.

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    2. thanks for your reply...very kind of you...i spoke to him last thursday...he give me all kinds of excuses why he wasn't calling...one of them was that his therapist prefers that he is alone...then he told that while he was with me i talked too much about my ex...i reassured him with that...so he told me he would call me the next day...he didn't so i made the weekend pass...and i text him tonight telling him i wanted to know if he was ok...and that i was on st.denis street and thinking of him because we use to go there often....he replied that him too was on st. denis street having supper with his son...and also thought about me...and thats the way he ended it...now i am more confused because i don't want to call him back...don't want to bother him....oh by the way i had some clothes at his place and the other day he said he would mail it to me....he is acting very strange....i wonder if he moved on with someone else????...do you think he has remorse and he would even miss me???....don't know what to do....right now i need to consult...its the first time i care so much about a man...thanks Haven just to read me....!!!

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  8. Thank you Haven for sharing your insights. This is exactly what I needed to read and have some degree of understanding. For the past year and a half, I have been trying to pinpoint this very description of behaviour.In one weeks time, I have had three phonecalls; can we start seeing each other again and take it slow, then planning future events and staying over at his new place and then the call a few days later, you and I can't get back together. There is no future with us. Sheer past projected breakups already predicting future outcomes. All breakups have stemmed from jealousy, trust issues and non anger provoking situations. A rollercoaster ride at a non amusement park!

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  9. Hi Haven. I stumbled upon your blog yesterday and can't stop reading. The same way I walked into an Al-ANON(my boyfriend got sober 6 months prior) meeting 8 months ago and realized I am actually an alcoholic myself(6 months sober Aug.6th), yesterday I began a voracious hunt for the reasons why I still think and act the way I do(the inner devils still hanging about), and felt a sad relief that BPD is me.Unquestionably, your empathy, personal stories and candor have soothed, shocked, amused, compelled and inspired me through 5 days of silence from my boyfriend of 3 years.

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  10. He is a recovered alcoholic, almost a year, and is doing well. We were living together, both sober and having every chance to have a healthy relationship, but because of my over-the top overreacting word for word same inner thoughts and outer actions/reactions as you told with your boyfriend, it became clear that I had to move out.I left kicking and screaming literally.Yup, you know what kind of lunatic I acted like.When I'm like that it's not dramatic. It's something beyond a definable emotion. I was getting literally out of my mind. The way I was acting was in no way correlating to what I was feeling. Instead of calmly talking to my bf, I emotionally ruined us. I pushed so far it wasn't far enough in my eyes....never is--sadly. It was watching a physical body writhe and cry being controlled by a mind not foreign to it, but not of it's choosing. I've been inflicting this scenario on my bf for 3 years. I don't want to do it anymore. No physical being would willingly put a BPD mind in the command center! I got sober, yet with not a drop of booze in me for 6 months, my emotional "freak outs" continued on their usual 2-day cycle. 2 good days/2 screaming, aggressive,awful beyond irrational behavior would ensue---torture me and him for 24hours straight(I would not allow either of us to sleep). Some AA's would say I'm a dry drunk. That term is loosely defined as continuing to do the same things that didn't work when drunk-sober. I guess that label probably works too!Bring on the dysfunction! Moreover the clustered group of thoughts/experiences/reactions/obsessive behaviors and mind ruminations define the brain that I have. It's how my brain works and always has. I can accept that my brain is sucky and broken and ill, I just want to believe that there are ways or medicines out there that will allow me to have happy relationships again.

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  11. I can see clearly my inappropriate reactions now that I'm sober, but they are not stopping soley because there is no booze in my brain. So I had to figure something more was going on. I've known something was simply not functioning in my brain the way it does in non-BPD people since I was a toddler, I've just never had it spelled out so plainly and clearly!THANK YOU!Obviously, this isn't a happy revelation(addict and probably BPD) but if I can somehow stay alive maybe there is hope that I can find a way to have close healthy relationships with people. I never have. You've given me so much to think about. While I'm so daunted by the total destruction I've caused, tonight(it's 4am and no im not up for work!insomnia every night...yay)I think I want to live. Like you I've never thought of actually killing myself. I was more of the mind of not caring if lived I died. If I drank myself into a coma one night and my heart just stopped beating, well ok...I've always wondered if heaven actually exists and if it's cool like in the movie Ghost?----WTF?! That's my alcoholic mind at it's finest.I do care if I live or die today, but I'm left with an unsoothed BPD mind coping with being asked to leave my home with my boyfriend, and being afforded no compassion, love, support, familiarity or continued commitment from the man I love. Totally alone, living with an overweight, alcoholic, meeting-a-guy obsessed,disliking-being around me because I'm skinny obsessed, dirty, disorganized, smelly, poor-hygenic roommate.I need to make a move to live in a home bursting with good vibes and karma, uncluttered and clean home. It's not about the money. I can afford to live elsewhere. I came here, to this old drinking buddy's(that's all she really ever was)apartment at the last minute when my bf kicked me out. Right now, I feel beyond scared. I feel doom, like surely, I will screw it up again, continue to be miserable and unable to cope and make good decisions. I have so much practice of making bad choices and suffering amazingly unbelievable bad consequences.Yea well it looks like I have to keep this sucky brain because I can't find a coupon for a brain trade or upgrade or something on line.

    But thanks to you Haven I'm going to try to get through this and live and not lose the person I love or myself to this mental disaster, well permanent state of chaos is a better description. I've lived in crisis mode for 25 years.Here's to hope for finding some kind of sustainable relief, respite and unconditional understanding from the people we love. Tonight I'm meditating and praying that the people I love can find a way to internalize how sad I am to own this brain and how very much I want to change so that I can love them back!

    You are flat out a gifted writer. I'm glad you're writing a book. Your blog is the definitive, go-to resource for BPD folks. I was a journalist. I worked writing for a CBS television affiliate for years. You're good! I destroyed that writing opportunity, but just reading about your life and seeing the words come together to affect the world-really is awesome. I just want to encourage you to keep going. You already have something great, and you are inspiring me to at least start journaling again tomorrow.I've so much gratitude for you and I may never meet you. Thank you seems so small....a little prayer I hear every day, so simple. never overused...it can't be I don't think. It applies so sweetly to almost everyone in the world: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.

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  12. Anonymous and Haven, it was great to read your comments on here. I too have been in a very similar relationship to Anonymous where I have been dealing with what I believe is a BPD man. He has not been diagnosed or at least he has been diagnosed but he never told me. Anonymous if you click on my name it will bring you to my blog and it may help you in someway as your relationship is so similar to mine its uncanny. My 'BPD' man told me towards the end of our 6 year relationship he didnt want or need anyone when it came down to it. That of course crushed me because we had been together a long time and towards the end he was just calling me his friend. He told me right from the start he could only sustain a easy going relationship but I fell for him because he was wonderful, attentive, caring and all those things I look for when I seek a mate. But overtime I felt that things were not terrific.

    Initially we had probs in the bedroom dept and he blamed it on 'performance anxiety' telling me it was perhaps just psychological he couldnt perform. Then we got a little help and things improved and we were very happy for a while. But the moment I really needed him (I miscarried) he may have been there for me on Gmail but in person he was not. Any little thing like my grandfathers death, my Mum's breast cancer, moving house etc He really was not there and didnt seem to know how to be there for support.

    OK some men dont do feelings sort of stuff but with him I knew something was different. He is a gifted musician and he would fly into a rage when things didnt go right or he would often talk more about himself than us.... I also spent many a time boosting his ego too.

    Now I am alone. In Feb of this year he dropped a bombshell on me, he told me he had met up with an old school friend. Time will tell with that relationship and we have only had sporadic contact since yet he still keeps my number on his mobile, I am still on his Gmail. Like you I thought we could be forever. I put so much love into this man and within a short time of his news I at the tender age of 38 had an angina attack. My heart suffered really badly and I just thought it was a panic attack at first.

    Maybe one day he may come back and maybe your guy may too but for me I am not going to sit around Anonymous I have to move forward. Yes its hard, its bloody hard but my health is important and more important than waiting around for someone who pushes and pulls you when they want you. How about you tend to you now. Nuture yourself, find some people that have similar interests and get out and discover what is out your front door step. I walk every day to work and although its hard without this man near, I breathe deeply and I enjoy the sunshine, I take time to enjoy what is around me rather than rushing as I did with this guy. I learnt so much from being with him but right now I am learning about me and once you find out about you, you will love yourself more. You will be ready for someone, not necessarily him but you will have more confidence in yourself too. We will survive!! Be strong :-)

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  13. Hi, I just wanted to leave a little post of deep thanks. I only just read this blog post for the first time a few minutes ago, and I'm sitting here shaking and trying not to burst into tears (of both happiness and sadness!).

    FINALLY there's something that's written in just the right way - so that I can understand - that tells me what's going on within me! I'm so familiar with the Push-Pull Cycle, I've had it for as long as I can remember. Naturally, it's been hellish.

    There's a wonderful, caring man in my life who's showing interest in me (and who is a Clinical Psychologist, of all occupations!), and while he's in the perfect place to understand me, I just don't want to screw things up again.

    I'm not expecting miracles, but I do hope that the information that I have gleaned from your post will help me to see what's happening, and try to either ward off some of the cycle, or at least be able to explain to him what's happening to me.

    Thank you. Thank you so much. x

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    1. Hello and welcome. I'm so glad you were able to find the kind of understanding that you've been searching for.

      It really is hellish. I know everyone has different ways of dealing, but for me I do think it's helpful to be able to recognize my behaviors so I can learn to deal with them better in the future. I hope you're able to as well.

      Good luck!

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  14. There was this guy and we got really close, we both really liked each other and he asked me out but before I could answer he suddenly changes his mind and says it "might not work" what's happening??

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  15. Hi Haven, I finally found a blog which seems to be helping me in understanding my own situation. There are so many questions I have but don't know where to start. I am in a push/pull friendship/relationship? with someone who shows all of these traits you list. (I feel I am reading all about him)

    I really love him and would never do anything to hurt him, but he HAS hurt me terribly in the past. Confrontation led to total denial on his part,I understand completey why he denied his actions but at the same time I knew he was lying to me which only served to hurt me more.

    As all of the drama unfolded I gathered a deep sense of him being scared that I would hurt him in return (in other words, take some kind of revenge)

    He has hung on to me now for more than the last year, still declaring his deep love for me, but will NOT give me any real time.

    This was very physical in the beginning, but with a few problems which I desperately tried to figure out and understand. We got there in the end, and guess what, he showed his true Narcissitic traits, some times I felt he was actually enjoying hurting me.

    In all of this ( you can imagine the pain I felt) he has kept me there dangling, and only really pulled back at me if he feels I am no longer interested. I have had some really dramatic excuses for his absence, all of them pretty unbelievable, but I have tried to let them pass after studying and trying to understand him.

    I always knew from the start that he was not an honest person, again, I tried to see deeper to find a logic reason.

    I have stayed, waited, hung around, let the excuses go, left him to come back when he feels ready, then I have got very frustrated at his total lack of empathy for my feelings and questioned him only to have him deny his actions, and the cycle begins again.

    What in your opinion is the best way to deal with this? I have tried ignoring him, I can't. I know he needs me and probably confuses this with 'love'

    Reading your post above has made me think differently and put all I have read into a different perspective.

    I have had the usual few days of no contact, and then ' I feel you are getting tired of this, I've been expecting you to say it's over'

    Does this mean he is waiting for me to end it all?

    I am stuck in a vortex with all of this, going round and round with no real relationship, yet he just will not say to me 'it's over for me'

    I don't want to lose him, I want to understand what his fears are and work with them, I would like to at least have some kind of deep friendship with him if he is happy with it, but he just keeps saying, I can't have you for just that! How do I handle it if there is any hope at all. Obviously I don't want to be used as a 'fix' either, and have him there just to ennjoy toying with me.

    What are we supposed to do when we give boundaries but they are ignored and we are left banging our heads against a wall of confusion and hurt,it is nothing short of torture for a non.

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  16. Hi to everyone in here. I have a problem with my boyfriend, which i feel likes the push/pull cycle. He has done it the 3rd time today. He said he was just busy with work and school,and tells me that i dont need him,that i am already done with school and everything. He has been hurt deeply as a child and he said that sometimes,he doesnt care about the stories of people. He would listen to them but remain indifferent. Today he said he wanted space, and says im the most wonderful girl,but he doesnt deserve me. He started to tell me he wanted to remain friends, but with benefits! How horrible! I told him to stand up for his choice,but he asked for time to think about it. 0ne time he said he doesnt wanna let go becoz he feels like hes gonna regret it. He got upset when i told him that we wont talk anymore. He just blasted ''so you really wanted to leave me?'' Then when we ended the call,he asked when we could talk again? He hasnt been diagnosed with it, but i suspect that he is. Im glad to have read this enlightening post... Advice,pls.should i let go,or not? He's so hard to understand.

    God bless to all, and thank you Haven!

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  17. I have a friend of 6 yrs who for the second time has pushed me away.The last time was for 8 months and when he came back around it was like nothing happened. This time, he stopped talking to me a month ago, then 2 weeks ago he blocked me from his facebook page, then last week he called me n said i undermine his relationships, talk behind his back and was not happy i talked to his mom even though i am close to his family and he knows his mom n i talk. about a year ago he told me i was like a second mom and he is always quick to tell me how important i am in his life...but then he pulls this crap. He knows he needs help as he has told me in the past and last week he told his mom he is going to talk to someone. he has a girlfriend of a year that supposedly he is in love with but she also had a crush on him for 3 yrs while he was married(he is getting a divorce now). As of Aug his wife would not sign divorce papers which I feel triggered this latest episode. Anyways, does this sound lie BPD or something similar? Do I leave him alone 100% as he wants?

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  18. Hi,
    I came upon this and it breaks my heart because its exactly what I went thru for five months with a girl I adored. The push pull thing was insane but I kept coming back to her because I wanted to show her that she could trust me. She went balistic on me and said I wasnt in her heart, and that she doesnt trust her ability to pick a man because of an ex that died suddenly. I walked out. Four days later, she texted me and begged me to come back telling me that I trigger her emotions. All she kept telling me is that our intimacy makes her out of control and that she cant handle it. I went back, but the cycle began. I couldnt take it anymore, so after her gaslighting and bullying I told her I couldnt do it. I walked. She texted me asking me why i was doing this and that she was confused. I told her I couldnt accept her abusive behaivor anymore. I never heard from her again. I dont know if she ever loved me, but her statement that rings in my ear is "I dont like being out of control with my feelings. You could do anything thing you wanted to me and I would still want to be with you" I told her, All I want to do is treat you good. I am dead inside because I miss her so much but reading your blog makes me know it would never be. I guess I just wish Iknew if she ever cared. We were doing so great together and then she just beat my heart physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Your thoughts are appreciated....and just some advice to bpd people It takes time to trust, and it somebody is trustworthy, they will take the time necessary if you could just be honest about it. Sabatoging brings the worst out in people. I did my best but every man has his limits and she just wouldnt stop. One week great one week run away. Thanks for your blog. Its helping me. Just wish I knew what I was dealing with.

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  19. PS Was there anything I could have done different? I gave her space, but as soon as we got close again, she would do what you are saying...picking fights, being mean, needing space. I guess I am killing myself inside because I put my foot down to stop the abuse. She always came back, but when I told her I wont stand for it anymore, she was gone. I wish I could reach out to her, but I told her I wouldnt. Does this ever stop?

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  20. Haven,
    You know you are the only one that says sticking with a BPD is not crazy. I appreciate it. Therapist only interested in helping us to move on because the chaos doesn't stop. The chaos may not stop but how we deal with it can change. Thanks for the encouragement.

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  21. - I am kasha i lives in uk and i was in a serious relationship with my ex guy for three good years.. One day we were in a dinner party, we had a little misunderstanding which lead to a Quarrel and he stood up and left me at the dinner party. i try to call him but he was not picking my calls so after than i contacted my brother and told him about it,my brother so much love me that he had to see him on my behalf,he told my brother that it is over between us.. Then i contacted a friend of mine that had this similar experience and she directed me to one of the spiritual diviner (maduraitemple@yahoo.com).at first i thought it was not going to be possible and i contacted him i was ask to come up with a little requirement,so i did what i was ask to do, after 3 days i was in my office when my ex guy called me and was asking me to forgive him and come back to him. i was very surprise it was like a dream to me,so ever since we have been happily married with one kid my lovely baby(Ceslav)...i wish you the best of luck...

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  22. Who the heck are the people here praising withcraft spells for love.withcraft is to be condemned for undermining target's will if no other reason. I have been on receiving side of withcraft and all i can say is... it cannot be love if you must overpower someone at mind to care about you robotically.what s disaster.

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  23. Haven... This article sounds EXACTLY what keeps happening with me and my GF. Just happened today. She's been slowly distancing herself for about a month or so. Then pretty ubruptly (or so it seemed to me) all communications stopped. I sent her a txt and asked for a reply. What I got sounds exactly like things you say here. And a up to 2 months ago (and on/off for YEARS, I've been the love of her life... Talk most days, she wants my company often, etc. now all of a sudden (so it seems), I'm annoying to her (because of how much time we've been spending together. (this happened also about 7 months ago too. BOTH times ironically about the time her answered attempts at contacting with one of her patents SHE hurt occurred! I'm kinda thinking classic transference/projection... "Folks whom I love hate me/ won't talk to me anymore/ abandoned me"... So I'm going to punish the one I love"

    Then when those emotions heal enough, she'll be ready/able to get back to the relationship with me! She said that she simply needs some time and space from me and that when we do resume, need to rethink just how much time we spend together. (AGAIN, she did that EXACT same thing to me those many months ago)

    Oh and of course she won't admit that BPD, BP, or some other emotional "disorder" is at play. She's just expressing what she really needs.

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  24. Just today I realized that I have been sabotaging my marriage for years. Yesterday was a celebration that we both looked forward to, after quite a while of having issues. I woke up and sabotaged the whole day and we both moped around until I went to bed first. I went to the internet and looked up the word relationship sabotage. We've been doing it to each other! Time to revisit my therapist and get to the bottom of this...I think I know where the abandonment fears came from in my childhood. And that's who I'm taking care of...ME, until I get to the bottom of this.

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  25. I have been seeing my boyfriend for two years now we both met in the pub and we both were alcholics. During the first year he became violent and beat me up three times and head butted me and threatended me with a knife. Since the last beating we decided to give upvdrnk and have been sober for over a year and there have been no further incidents. I keep on going over and over in my mind the horrific events and if that will happen again in the future. He wants to marry me and have children with me but I cant trust him yet. Am I doing the push pull thing because of my bpd or am I generally scared. I have just told him I want to split as I cant live with this indisisivness but I feel that I will miss him and his financial help when hes gone. He has helped me through do much however I cant get close is it because of his violent pass or my bpd? Please help I have important decissions to make and make the right ones. I sometimes can want all he iffers and feel really happy but then feel so sad and scared and dont wsnt him in myvlife

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    1. Oh darlin, this is not Push-Pull. This is abuse. You have general cause to be frightened. He's already beat you 3 times, the odds that he will never do it again??? Don't seem good to me. It's very common to still have feelings for someone that abuses you. You probably will miss him... but that doesn't mean you don't deserve to be treated well, it doesn't mean you shouldn't want a life and a relationship without fear. You deserve someone that does not physically abuse you. So even if you do miss him, it doesn't mean it was the wrong decision to leave. When you find someone that treats you well, you'll have your proof.

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  26. It sounds like a phobia because it isn't terribly logical but an extreme fear. but deep down, as any human being you crave love. So you have a phobia of love but also a deep desire for love, and because there is conflict, you bounce back and forth. well, people can get over phobias!

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  27. I have been dia I have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder post traumatic stress disorder and borderline personality disorder and I'm currently on disability for it I've struggled so hard with relationships I came across this blog in couldn't believe how unbelievably familiar these previous stories of their ex or current boyfriend girlfriend pushing and pulling them away wanting distance wanting them back...etc I do the same thing and I've actually convinced myself and pride myself on the fact that I can play mind games with people but in all reality I'm so sad and lonely I can't bear it. almost like I don't know how to be sweet I feel all dirty or uncomfortable when I feel things are going well in a relationship.. completely sabotaging everything we've built for absolutely no reason. I know in the back of my mind that they will get tired of that s and I will move on to someone else and repeat the same cycle over and over again. I'm currently with this great guy I really like and don't know how to be close when we start having sex and it feels good I'll stop him. like I'm scared of the possibility of him getting me off because only 1 other has ever done that that I've allowed to go to that level. and I'm so obsessed with the guy and he loves me but I left him. is this making sense? What can I do to reassure myself it's okay to feel. I know getting hurt can't possibly over ride not even feeling at all. I'm so programs to manipulate and hurt em play with other people's heads it's involuntary. I feel like I am a horrible person that doesn't deserve love but at times I feel that I am or were they then all others because I can get a lot of different mental be involved with me and keep them holding on until I get psycho and start with these bipolar symptoms. they think I'm a challenge and I I am worth the battle. I guess it makes them feel special that I'm with them because they see how many other guys want me. in all honesty I got off what may and bad and if I don't have any kind of feelings towards him I can totally please him and fake the entire retain and have him absolutely obsessed with me and I love this I fucking love it. if I have feelings for the man I can't even get past 5 minutes of it feeling good or even maybe if we're kissing and I start to feel an intense feeling I'll pull away I'll make him feel like he's doing something wrong. when really he's doing everything exactly right. ever since I can remember maybe starting at age 6 I have than a riding person off of chaos. Probably bend to the psych ward over 10 maybe 15 different occasions. I swear I'm so delusional I feel bad I don't have this disorder or any disorder that they diagnose me wet I feel that I'm actually tracking them into thinking that I have it and really I'm so confused I don't know if I've talked myself into really having it or if you know that I was born with this? Please give me some advice to help me not sabotage this relationship I know if he has in the past week been over 5 * and each time I have left him Feeling like a complete failure because I stop in the middle of getting intimate in the bedroom. everything turns off words and I feel like well I might as well go ahead and break up with them because it's just too much weird stuff when everything was going right to hours before. am I delusional or do you think I have this disorder. I can tell you I've been with over 400 men in my life and can only remember maybe 5 of the experiences in detail. almost as if my brain is putting a mental block on my ability to feel these senses um reactions are just not capable of you know coming out of Me. please help!!!

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  28. Sorry my spelling was in exactly the greatest on what I was trying to get across. I feel that I don't have this disorder that I've actually been pricing myself on tracking these doctors into thinking I am when really I feel I'm not. I'm on disability for it and um you know sometimes I will withdraw from the world for say 5 or 7 days and I'll expect everything to be fine and be the same it was when I left it and I expect anyone close to me to just understand and deal with it. if not I'll just find another you you're not hard to replace. when really it's all may I have a Taj what they have to offer their qualities that I don't cause ass scare me because I don't know how to give them what they give me or could give me back. it's so sick that I find pleasure in hurting people playing mind games with them and I guess really in my head I don't get pleasure from it but I talk myself into the fact I guess is a coping mechanism into the fact that um there's gotta be some reason I'm doing this so I I don't know. I really can't ruin this relationship how do I stop myself from pulling away when the sexes feeling good. when I'm in bed with a man that I'm not feeling a connection with I can please him and put on the bass performance ever and I can't even get close to that when I feel something for someone. I've actually gone as far as asking this guy to pretend he was a client of mine because I used to do you know I'm not gonna lie I have had men pay all my rents my cars um just take care of me and I've use sex to do it. so in order to not lose what I want to give this guy I try to put it in my head he's just another client so I'm pleasing him but I'm not pleasing myself. and to ask such an absurd thing of him going back to they well I'll just envision you as a client because I'm in barrist I can't even get through 1 minute of a connection because I'm so scared is feeling good. same goes for all other areas of my relationships. I'm sorry for freaking mind warp I don't know how I feel anymore I don't know why I do the things that I do. but at the same time I see how I've done them and I know what I'm doing but I just don't get why do it and I can't stop. please help me be able to feel intimate feelings without being like I've done something that's wrong or isn't is it normal or I don't deserve I don't know. how how how?? When I go to see a psychiatrist and I've seen so many I will have them so confused and not understanding my story line when they ask me questions because in my had things are shadow In N Out of what really did happen or what was I thinking I was making happening so I'm just kind of clustered all Over the place because in my head maybe I was wine at the time but I really did convince myself it was the truth So how have I track my own mental state into not knowing if I'm really being honest or not anymore.. okay I'll stop there I'm going on and on and not making sense again lol. please help me be able to feel without resisting!

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  29. I've spent the whole day sending apologies to those I hurt when drunk the other day. I have never felt such shame, remorse, sadness or regret. It's prob because I'm allowing myself to get close to a group of people. My emotional wall (yes, the result of child abuse & having no one to trust, having to be on my guard for as long as I can remember)is crumbling and it's scary. I was really vicious to my friends, as if the devil had got into me. I really hurt them. I'm 61 now, I want to break the cycle. They have accepted my apologies. I'm not gonna drink again. All this bullying ran in the family: incest, child abuse, alcoholism, suicide, sex addiction. I've made it my life's work to be different. It's really hard but I am determined. I want friends, I want to treat them properly, respect them.

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  30. This description of the push/pull describes how I feel perfectly :( So thank you for that. I'm wondering if I'm doing it at the moment. Basically i met a guy in October and we dated for a while then went to being friends as thats all he wanted at that time. Anyway last week we were out and he dropped the bombshell that he's "completely in love with me" and has "never felt like this about anyone before." He also asked me to be his girlfriend. Having felt the same about him the whole time i said yes and he has been amazingly attentive ever since. I love this guy to pieces. He's the nicest guy I have ever known. He's the most interesting and funny, not to mention hot. So I should feel nothing but joy at the moment. However, all i feel is suspicion. why did he suddenly feel this? does he even want this? does he just pity me? And tonight talking on the phone I asked him if he was staying over on Saturday after plans we have together. He said he didn't know. And now suddenly I want to tell him to piss off since then. I have issues with uncertainty which I'm sure you're all aware is common with BPD. I have been in therapy for BPD for the past year and this is my first relationship since and my mentalisation based therapy is on a break for Easter so I have nowhere to talk about this and am scared I'm going to push away the best person to ever happen to me. I know it's completely irrational to feel so annoyed just because he said he didn't know yet whether he was staying over but I am just dying to text him and break up. Thankfully I do have a bit more impulse control than I used to.

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  31. Hi, I'm a female and I've never been in a relationship not because I don't believe in it or love. It's just that I've never thought about it because I've been busy raising my siblings and taking care of my family. Family and friends mean a lot to me their first. Im starting to look after myself and do things for me(im working on it lol) I had no idea I would fall for someone especially an other female. We're good friends we understand each other and know how we feel before hand. I can't believe it but I told her how I feel and she feels that I can't seem to be able to open up to her but I feel like im trying she knows I like her when no one else knows that I do. I really care about her are her happiness my gut feelings tell me she cares too but she's stopping herself I don't know why. I try talking to her but she avoids it. What should I do?

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  32. Oh. My. Freaking. God. I have never heard anyone describe what I do in relationships *so perfectly*. I have BPD and it's so awesome to hear it described from the borderline's point of view in a compassionate way vs. from the "victim's" point of view. I'm excited to read the rest of your blog! Judging from all the comments, there are a lot of us out there. Thanks for providing a safe place for us when there is so much out there on the internet basically saying that we're evil, hopeless, and will never recover. I say, bullshit.

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  33. OK, this is what is happening with my co-worker. She wants to be friends, but she back-stabs and sabotages me (tries, everybody is on to her.) There will be a fight, then she will be uber friendly to the point of ridiculousness, apologizing constantly for nothing, that will pass, she'll be sort of normal, and can be very high functioning, then eventually, she'll start abusing me again, the cycle repeats. I caught in one of your posts, "major psychological disorder." Oh. I thought that might be the case. But she's also been isolating more and more the last couple years. Stopped going to church, has only one friend who keeps contact with her on purpose. My new manager has better communication skills, and is on top of this situation, but we're not sure what to do with, around, about her. The manager calls her on bad behavior whenever she sees it, and keeps on doing that. I will too, depending on the situation at work. But I'm at a stand.

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  34. I been with this girl for almost 5years, we both suffer from borderline, together we can have so much fun we do /did everything, we spend almost everyday together, even talks last almost like forever, it would be perfect IF.. one of us didnt freak out all the time, even about small stuffs getting into a fight, and yes the pushing and pulling is horrible, at some point( mostly after 7-8 months) one of us always starts to distance totally, mostly she distances herself slowly from me, then i become even more clingy cause Im scared to lose her, i almost beg her not to leave me, while she gets more annoyed and even tells me to give her space, I try hard but I cant. at somepoint I start to push her away tho and we insult each ohter like little kids, the final result is , we block each ohter everywhere, facebook/phone etc etc, 2-4 months later we talk again like nothing happend and then everything redos, 7-8 months all okay, if we put the smaller fights a side, and then the silence returns for months, sometimes I hate her, and the nextday i cant without her, rightnow we have no contact again, for the 5th time? or more.. I dont know anymore, its so painful, and tiring. I know she misses me too, over our friends i heard that in the past already, sometimes Im scared she never talks to me again, but at the ohter side Its maybe better for both of us, I dont know.

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    1. That sounds exactly like my ex GF I was the one that always broke up with her because I couldn't take the mood swings. She accused me of every thing under the sun, simply not answering a text would send her into a crying fit, even if I didn't answer the text because I was calling her on the phone. Things could be perfect and she would come out of my room with all of her stuff because I hadn't checked on her in the shower. Multiply those things by a thousand and that was us. I really loved her and we could have the best until something set her off. I finally decided she felt more comfortable in some sort of fight. Our relationship continued to go down hill even though I still love her, I just couldn't live with the constant turmoil. I guess it's ironic because she claimed she loved me and wanted to get married, but when life was nice and calm and I started thinking we could be married she would start a fight.

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  35. I'm really curious about people who get close, but then push away and leave it like that. I've done it for years. But, I've done things impulsively too that make things happen way too fast - then I become overwhelmed when it really sets in. For example, many many years ago I worked with a man briefly. We moved to diff. countries and we reconnected online. He flew to my country and I even had a 1 yr old baby with me in tow - and we traveled by plane to meet him on an island in the south of the country I lived in (sorry I just dont want to give all the details). He is genuinely a wonderful man. But both of us meeting up like that - after only briefly meeting once prior - is a little nuts thinking back (esp for me, with a child). We ended up having an amazing wonderful time - and we slept together. Maybe I felt he was too clingy after many days passed and I was returning to my city and he wanted to fly up there with me too. I honestly cannot remember. The weird thing now is that I don't remember this - but he told me recently that I had asked him to leave. :( Thinking back, I feel really bad and surprised I cannot remember doing that. It's true we jumped in too quickly - way too fast with everything - but even so, he is someone I could have had something with. We're still in contact now. I apologized years later. Either way, since then, I've had a habit of dating and really going too fast - I guess I let them in too fast and really am caring with them and we get close (and I dont necessarily mean physical) so fast - then they usually become clingly and text or call repeatedly and I am doNE! I can't handle the repeated texts - it makes me so anxious. I end it and walk away. I dont ask for another chance ever. The only situation where I would want another chance is with the person from the first part of my post...does it sound like I have BPD? :) I had a rough childhood - too much to get into - always took care of myself and wasn't taken care of. Even so, I have had a really successful life and appreciate each day. The area I am really lacking in is in relationships. I dont want to be a bad example to my son. I am a big loner nowadays and rarely date - when I do, usually a disaster.

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  36. I read this article last year and my jaw dropped. I read it again just now and my jaw still drops. The woman I had been seeing off and on... It so perfectly describes her that I thought our experiences together had somehow been infiltrated and documented. This beautiful woman could be open with me on Wednesday evening and by Thursday morning I'd have an apology for her behavior and that our intimacy and talk was just that. She'd ask for space, I would give it, then be chastised for not being close enough for her. We would share intimacy and talk for hours. Then I would be shunned for a week without much explanation. It became me vs her. She would say one thing and do the exact opposite. I mistakenly smothered her with goodwill, not knowing that this the exact thing BPDs don't want. The exact thing that makes them push away. In the end, I adored this woman at times. Other times I get so tense just thinking about our dynamic, I freeze. She finally cut me off and burned the bridge with me. 26 years of friendship down the drain. It was like being with Jekyll and Hyde. I was pushed and pulled so much I got whiplash. I feel so bad for her.

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  37. My boyfriemd, well current ex, has BPD. he has already broken up with me this year and then taken me back. last time he broke up with me he went on a rampage of chatting up 15/16 year olds and hanging out with them. hes 24. id text him each day begging for him back. and hed ignore me. then i decided to vanish for a few days, have no contact etc and that freaked him out and he eventually asked for me back.
    this time, the same thing has happened again. he spent $3000 on us just days before he dumped me. and is back in to chatting these 15/16 year olds again. this time im barely texting him but we see each other nearly eery day cos we work together this time. so i cant exactly vanish and make him freak out.
    im holding on hope that hell come back again but its so damn hard. I know for certain he still loves em etc as he told me so himself, but hes just being arrogant and wont take me back. yet, i hope. but the thing is, if he was definitely serious about us breaking up, surely he wouldve asked for my car to be out of his name? he wouldve asked for his $400 suit back that i took and is sitting in my car. and he wouldve removed all our lovey dovey letters/notes thats around our room. but he hasnt?!

    i love him so much and wont give up. me and him are meant to be. honestly, were perfect for each other. ive supported him thru so much. no one knows what hes actually like apart from me. no one knows what hes like when he hits rockbottom etc etc. he has a bad habit of telling his mum EVERYTHING and feeding her bullcrap which makes her think im the bad guy and she tells him what to do ang hell listen. unfortunately. but not even she knows what hes truly like.

    he had been on wrong medication also and took an illegal drug which both ended up making him faint all the time. i ended up supporting him literally off my bare any money and look after him until he got better. but when i found out about this drug use i started packing my things and went to leave. he begged me to stay so i did as long as he stopped the drugs which he did. i then supported him thru this stuff, and overall ended up being stressed out about his health etc. beign stressed didt hel[ but as soon as he got better we began to get back on track, which is where he bought me a $700 necklace and the total of $3000 got spent, and then i was dumped.

    i just dont know what to do. i love him thst much and accept him for how he is. ill do anything for him. and i know he loves me too. were meant to be. but i just need to know what should i do? should i ignore him and do 'absence makes the heart grow fonder'? do i hold on to hope?
    PLEASE HELP, I MISS HIM SO MUCH

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  38. What are some healthy way to stop a cycle of this when you recognize it? Are there any known tell tale signs of whether the dynamic is being brought on by both parties, just ones self, or the other person? Any experience on conversations that would draw such a cycle out into awareness, and allow a healthy dialogue that is not reenacting the push pull dynamic to find out if it is healthy to try to continue when you notice this pattern?

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  39. My ex-boyfriend dumped me 9 months ago after I accused him of seeing someone else and insulting him.I want him back in my life but he refuse to have any contact with me.I was so confuse and don't know what to do,so I reach to the internet for help and I saw a testimony of how a spell caster help them to get their ex back so I contact the spell caster and explain my problem to him and he cast a spell for me and assure me of 3days that my ex will return to me and to my greatest surprise the third day my ex came knocking on my door and beg for forgiveness.I am so happy that my love is back again and not only that,we are about to get married.once again thank you Kala spell.you are truly talented and gifted Email: kalalovespell@gmail.com is the only answer.he can be of great help and I will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man kalalovespell@gmail.com

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  40. My ex-boyfriend dumped me 9 months ago after I accused him of seeing someone else and insulting him.I want him back in my life but he refuse to have any contact with me.I was so confuse and don't know what to do,so I reach to the internet for help and I saw a testimony of how a spell caster help them to get their ex back so I contact the spell caster and explain my problem to him and he cast a spell for me and assure me of 3days that my ex will return to me and to my greatest surprise the third day my ex came knocking on my door and beg for forgiveness.I am so happy that my love is back again and not only that,we are about to get married.once again thank you Kala spell.you are truly talented and gifted Email: kalalovespell@gmail.com is the only answer.he can be of great help and I will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man kalalovespell@gmail.com

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  41. My ex-boyfriend dumped me 9 months ago after I accused him of seeing someone else and insulting him.I want him back in my life but he refuse to have any contact with me.I was so confuse and don't know what to do,so I reach to the internet for help and I saw a testimony of how a spell caster help them to get their ex back so I contact the spell caster and explain my problem to him and he cast a spell for me and assure me of 3days that my ex will return to me and to my greatest surprise the third day my ex came knocking on my door and beg for forgiveness.I am so happy that my love is back again and not only that,we are about to get married.once again thank you Kala spell.you are truly talented and gifted Email: kalalovespell@gmail.com is the only answer.he can be of great help and I will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man kalalovespell@gmail.com

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  42. Just went through this again last night. I'm the "non". I just went away to Europe cos something was wrong with me but I didn't know what. I loved my BPD, even proposed to her last september and she accepted, but after so much turbulence, make ups break ups I just began fantasizing about "normalcy" and that's very unlike me.
    Of course I go to Europe, get the impulsive dear john letter a few days in and began my road to introspection. Her mom had Borderline disorder so I decided to look it up. Sure enough it fit like a glove. So I did exhaustive research, joined a yahoo support group, and even managed to get a copy of an instant message convo that actually showed the shift from love to hatred and accusations of abuse.
    I looked at this to remind myself of reality. I had suffered through gas lighting and crazy making and push pull.
    It happened again recently. She reached out via Facebook very pleasantly, even wrote a public thank you and admission of love to me for introducing her to such great people. She said her eyes had been "opened" after doing continued shamanic work (not for BPD, she refuses she has that or anything) so I bit. Called her up she sounded rational I got showered with I love yous and concern for my feelings. Then there was a second call. Went well. Wanted me to call back again and I did and I got more I love yous.
    About 20mins in she accused me of not caring whether she lived or died. Said cos I am still friends with a few close friends who do not like her demonstrates. I need to drop them. I'm a socipath, weak, evil, garbage, I never liked you I was just being nice to you cos I know you need help, etc...
    Then this morning she is a bit more balanced but I am finally calling her on her shit.
    Sucks cos I love her so it's easy to be drawn back in. I know even if I did drop those friends (whose crime was pointing things about her that I had to go overseas to see and telling me not to run to her beck and call after she needed emotional support following her breaking up with me) that she would find something else to test me on. And why drop people when I can't trust her emotions?
    Think the push pull will continue or you think this might be the final straw? I'm an addict for her so I am trying so hard to rally against my heart and try to move on. But it's a brutal process.

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  43. my name is Amber and I recently had a breakup with my husband about 3months back. He said we are done that we should move on that he has someone else now. I could not even bear the pain and everything and just so unfortunate, I discovered I was pregnant when me and my ex we going through some big fights. I couldn't tell him I was pregnant because I knew he would blame it on me. I suffered with the secret on my own and I could not go through an abortion on my own. The funny thing is I discovered that he had two other girlfriends I was not aware of. I know if I could turn back the hands of time I would do it again because i could not suffer everything alone, I almost drop out of varsity because of a guy. On a faithful day after i lost of thought, an old friend told me about a spell Dr obas with this email obasspiritualtemple@gmail.com who could help me restore my love and have my baby in good terms. I sacrifice everything to make sure the spell was done. and the spell was now the savior. his spell brought back my lover after 2days. My joy, love and happiness is restored because of this spell Dr obas, my baby comes soon.

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  44. My friends out there, am Justina from usa, am short of words i dont know where to start from, am just happy for getting back my love who left me for good 2years without calling or texting, i was in love with this boy named Patrick, we live together in love but suddenly he just changed and was in bad terms with me i know i never did anything wrong to him but he just decided to quite with me and the most painful part was that he was the one who broke my virginity so i love him so much but he never understood the love i have for him, so that was how he move away from New york, to San jose ca, and he never called me or texted for good 2years, his thought always come to my mind every minutes, so i have been looking for how to get him back to my life,so i have been contacting some spell casters happens to be scams, so i decided not to contact any spell caster,so there was a day i went to go and buy some papers, because am a reading type, so that was how i turned to a page and i saw testimony of love so i decided to read it then i saw how a man named Hudson was helped by Dr jaja in getting back his love,and i read that he also said it in radio stations,so i decided to wait if i will hear the testimony on radio too, so 2 days later i was watching television when i saw a man named harry was giving testimony on how this same Dr jaja brought back his wife and 2kids, i was so surprised then i had no doubt, immediately i contacted Dr jaja and i told him what i want he to me not to worry that he my love will come back to me within 24hours, i did not doubt him cause i have seen prove, so in the next 24hours which he said i got a call from Patrick he was pleading and begging me to forgive him, so the next day he came to my house in New york, in the presence of my 2 sisters he went on his knees pleading for me to forgive him, so i had to, then he said we should move to San jose ca, to stay, am writing this testimony in San jose ca,and am pregnant for him,and he bought me a new car and am happy now,you can contact Dr jaja through moonspelltemple@gmail.com

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  45. Hi Haven,

    Thank you so much for this post. It was enlightening to hear your insights on the push/pull cycle.

    I just walked away from my current relationship because I couldn't deal with the pain of being pushing away any more.

    However, is the pushing away a result of a personality disorder, or did he just not want to be in the relationship?

    In the beginning it was very intense. He was asking me to marry him, he went ring shopping, told me what a good life we were going to have.

    I was skeptical, of course, but he was the man of my dreams. I let the walls down and I fell in love....for the first time ever in 30 years.

    However, 3 months into dating, I noticed he wasn't himself. His communication became more sparse. It was even more difficult that he traveled for work 4 days a week. I thought I was internalizing it at first, but as the days went along, I found he moved farther and farther away.

    When I confronted him about his behavior he said he was "dealing with stuff' and 'didn't want to talk' and let him handle it his way.

    That stuff, I later found out, had a lot to do with his upbringing, and feeling like a failure (his first marriage dissolved i believe due to the same issue)

    But it continued.

    He recognized his behavior was hurting me and it 'killed him'. Yet he did nothing about it.

    When I did tell him I was walking away (in a very long email) he told me he was an asshole, and suicidal. Quite a short response to my email....and quite a selfish answer in response to how much he hurt me.

    Does borderline pair with depression? Or was it not borderline and just depression? Or was it just a put off because he just didn't want to be with me and have the balls to break up with me?

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  46. I am Bailey, i want to share testimony of my life to every one. i was married to my husband four years ago, i love him so much. When he went for a vacation to France he meant a lady who made my marriage a problem, he told me that he is no longer interested in our marriage any more that he want to divorce me. I was so confuse and seeking for help and i want to a life coach who did not to my problem, i don't know what to do until i explain to my friend and she told me not to worry about it that she had a similar problem before and introduce me to a man called Dr Ijebu who cast a spell on her ex and bring him back to her after 2days. She gave me an email address to contact Dr ijebu and ask him for help. I contacted him to help me bring back my husband and he told me not to worry about anything that the gods of his fore-fathers will bring him back to me. He told me by two days he will re-unite me and my husband together. After two day my husband called and told me he is coming back to stay with me and the kids, i was surprise when i saw him and he started pleading for forgiveness. I am happy to have my husband back with me again, you can contact Dr Ijebu for any problem you are facing, he will help you out. Here's his contact ancientijebudespelltemple@gmail.com. He is the real spell caster on the internet so far

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  47. Hello My Name is Charly KOnteripen and i am from indonesia , I wish to share my testimonies with the general public about what this man called Dr Ogba of:ogbapaullovespellcaster@gmail.com,for what he has just done for me , this man has just brought back my lost family to me with his great spell caster, i was married to this Man called Richard Brown we were together for a long time and we loved our self's but when i was unable to give him a child for 2 years he left me and told me he can't continue anymore then i was now looking for ways to get him back until a friend of mine told me about this man and gave his contact email: ogbapaullovespellcaster@gmail.com then you wont believe this when i contacted this man on my problems he prepared this spell cast and bring my lost Husband back in two days and after a month i miss my month and go for a test and the result stated am pregnant am happy today am a Mother with a baby boy, thank you once again the great Dr Ogba for what you have done for me, if you are out there passing through this same kind of problems of you need a lost love back or any kind of problems for you can contact he today on his email: ogbapaullovespellcaster@gmail.com and he will also help you as well

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  48. How do you know or suspect whether the person you are with does not just have an avoidant attachment style instead of some personality disorder? See here for signs of an avoidant:

    http://aloftyexistence.wordpress.com/2011/03/02/top-ten-signs-your-partner-is-avoidant/

    Say that avoidant persons partner has an anxious attachment style or at least is to anxious for a particular avoidant then an avoidant-anxious trap is formed:

    http://aloftyexistence.wordpress.com/2011/02/09/anxious-avoidant-trap/

    This looks like what you are describing here but there is no suggestion of a personality disorder.

    My understanding is that personality disorders are very difficult to diagnose and treat. But for people with insecure attachment styles (avoidant and anxious), 25% of them will change within 4 years by having the right relationships (with secures). These numbers go up with counseling and therapy.

    Now it maybe that the majority of these insecures that change are anxious since avoidants are the much more problematic of these two types ... at least that is the impression I get from reading the book "Attached."

    Any insights would be appreciated. Thanks.

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    1. I've written quite a lot on Attachment Disorders and Attachment Styles actually.

      4 years is still a long time, and with therapy and medication is a similar treatment time for even many cases of BPD and some personality disorders. They're not as difficult to diagnose and treat as you would imagine. Not anymore anyways. Treatment has come a long ways.

      Most people with personality disorders also have anxious or avoidance attachment disorders/styles as well, though people with anxious or avoidant attachment disorders/styles don't necessarily have a personality disorder. That doesn't mean they'll have an easier or harder time recovering either. It's entirely dependent on the person and the kind of help they're able and willing to receive.

      Go over to the Left and Look in the list of Labels for Attachment and Attachment Disorder and you'll see what I've written there.

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  49. Thanks for your fantastic blog, Haven. I came across it a few days ago and I simply couldn't stop reading it. I'm from Europe and have been deeply in love with a BPD woman I already knew for a long time (i'm 53 and she's 48). During the last few months (when we became closer) I'm getting used to most of her BP issues. I've done a lot of research about the subject, talked with some shrinks who happen to be my friends (i went to Medical School, so almost a doctor) but their technical advice (and most of the web pages which discuss these matters) don't allow me to really feel the same kind of truth and the deep knowledge you really have about this condition - and particularly the vivid experiences and the clever and wise thoughts you share with your readers. By the way, you write very well and it's been a pleasure to read each one of your posts.
    I'm trying to cope with my BPD sort-of-girlfriend, trying to understand her ups and downs, pull / push cycles, and only the future will tell how the relationship evolves. She's high-functioning, quite successfull (a celebrity in my country), and she must hide all the time from people. Only their closest friends and family know about all the pain and suffering she has gone through since her childhood.
    I was married for 13 years and had other relationships, but when I look back and compare them with this woman, well... I must confess that, in spite of what I recently have been through, all those girls now seem to me so dull and boaring...
    She's very fond of me and she likes me a lot, but not in the same way I do love her...
    Tell me: how can I build some more trust? What can I do to make her believe I am commited? Every time I show my will to care about her or to protect her, she apparently moves away a bit. It seems she's always afraid of losing herself, you know? But for me it's not easy to play "hard to get" or to act cold - I just can't help being nice to her.
    Anyway, she texts me a lot and, in fact, when I read many of your posts in this blog it seems I'm reading her messages in my cellphone ;)
    Thanks again for your enlightening blog.

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    1. From my experience trust comes with time. The trick really is that to build trust without breaking it; Don't lie, don't cheat, don't betray. Once you do any of these things - All things will be called into question and all things will begin to crumble. Work on your communication and your trust from the start and your entire relationship will benefit from the onset. The moment you stray, don't fool yourself, she will be able to yell because we are exceptionally perceptive.

      Anyone with BPD has had a very traumatic history. We do not build trust easily. It's unfortunate but if you push too hard, it's scary for us, and we push away. You have to allow trust to build in it's own time, as it will. Simply remain. Remain constant and consistent. Be a constant presence in her life. If this is someone that you want in your life forever than act as though they are someone that will never be out of your mind and reassure them of that. If it's to be for all time, then you have all of time.

      It should not be about acting "hard to get" or acting cold. I don't know any Borderline that likes that. Be yourself. Because frankly if she does not like you for you, than that will also tell you something of what you need to know.

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  50. I've been in two of these now and it also helped me discover and deal with my own codependency. In response to 'Tanker', you have to understand that bpds require large amounts of stimulation to 'feel alive' due to cutting themselves off from darker feelings since a young age. Trust will come with time and a lot of hassle but the relationship you maybe crave maybe won't ever happen.

    What I've finally learned is that true intimacy and reciprocation of love would take a long time and the destructive behaviours of my recent ex make me doubt I'll last the distance. So for any 'non'. You simply have a decision on whether you want to deal with this anymore. If the prize is worth the price?

    I can relate to the comments above regarding text anxiety because my exes push/pull or sabotaging triggered my own feelings of abandonment that I had to resolve from codependency. Towards the end of that relationship, the anxiety and panic I felt on a couple of occasions when she was distancing was horrible and to consider it from the bpd perspective who can be prone to paranoia, delusions, hypersensitivity it is understandable why they push and devalue things.

    Your real hope in a bpd relationship is to ensure you are not codependent/clingy and not expect consistent reciprocation because once they feel smothered, they run (even though they will complain that you don't give enough attention :) Paradoxical but just how it is.


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  51. So would the push and pull be related to to seeking out another relationship while still in one? Just curious, I think the guy I was seeking might be BPD, for the last year we go through this thing where he attempts to start up online relationships, creates new email accounts so he can do the online thing. He has a primary yahoo and facebook and part of our agreement was to give each others passwords. Well he will clean out trash, so I won't find the trail but forgets to delete the sent. So I always catch him LOL...anyway. We go thru this apology thing..how sorry he is and he was felling mentally not right??? Anxiety, etc and that is why he does it. Then he begs for forgiveness and tells me he would die if I left him..Whatever getting old now. Any way is it attention or the drama or what?? Any input would help because I told him I can't do it anymore. If its a game and he just like the "forgiveness" and there is no actual sex involved; maybe I could handle his little staged online love affairs. But if he is engaging in unprotected sex...that's different. Let me know your thoughts and thanks

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  52. This push/pull behavior is constant in my relationship with her. The only part I really have a problem with is that when I "return", she ignores me and makes me feel unimportant and she will immerse herself in other people and projects. So then I get upset because it feels so unfulfilling and lonely, and so I push her away again and then she chases me frantically. Once she has me back after a while she will ignore texts/ emails and just plain not seem interested. It seems as if she is only interested in the dramatics of the cycle. I'm so tired. I just want to move on, but I do care for her. Why might she be doing this? I would love to understand what is going on.

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    Jessica

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  56. After being in relationship with Wilson for seven years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that don't believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I meant a spell caster called EZE MALAKA and I email him, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email: extremewhitelovespell@yahoo. com you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT YOU SIR HIS WEBSITE ADDRESS is http://extremewhitelovespell.webs.com CONTACT HIM NOW FOR SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEMS.

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  58. Hello everyone am samata from Indonesia . My husband left me for no reason on 12th of June 2013. He moved in with another woman, I felt like killing myself. I've tried different spell casters and went to different churches to pray but all to no avail. My life was very bitter and sorrowful. Then one day, a friend of mine told me about a prophet that is very good and does not even charge for his services, he said he gave him some lucky numbers that he played in a lottery and he won 5 fives consecutively. I didn't believe it because I've worked with so many of them and it didn't work. He begged me further so I decided to try this great Prophet called Ogba. I contacted him and I gave him the necessary information. He didn't ask for anything he said i should pay for the items that will be used in the casting of the spell but he said after the spell works, I can then voluntarily contribute to his orphanage home which I'm doing now with joy and happiness because I still didn't believe after he told me it will back until I used the spell he gave me and the next day which was on the 29th of July, 2012 I received a call and it was my darling husband frankly. He apologized and came back to me crying for a second change and he even gave me 10,000USD as a means of compensating me on that very day before leaving. I'm now a very a happy woman and our marriage vows were renew again and ever since he has shown me love like never before. Thank you Prophet Ogba, I will forever be grateful to you. You can reach him on his email:ogbapaullovespellcaster1@gmail.com He can solve any problem you are facing now. Try him today..

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  59. My name is Rose Smith from united states of america. I never believed in love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once when i went to Africa in February this year on a business summit. I meant a man who’s name is DR.MADURAI he is really powerful and could help cast spells to bring back one’s gone, lost, misbehaving lover and magic money spell or spell for a good job or luck spell .I’m now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 3 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 3years. I really loved him, but his mother was against us and he had no good paying job. So when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him. At first i was undecided, skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. And in 7 days when i returned to Canada, my boyfriend (now husband) called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married. I didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do. Well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid, and my husband also got the new job and our lives became much better. His email is maduraitemple@yahoo.com

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  60. My name is Stacy Blair i have been in bondage ever since my EX left for another woman, It was really hell for me and everybody told me to forget about him but i could not because i love him so much. Things got worse until my friend introduced me to this great spell caster DR. OTIAGBE who have saved so many life and relationships and i contacted him through his email ( Otiagbe@yahoo.com ) i explained everything to him and he cast a spell for me immediately after three days, everything turn around and my boyfriend came to me on his knee begging for forgiveness that i have been the only woman he has loved in his life and he is ready to love me forever. I was really surprised because i have never seen such a miracle in my life. I am so thankful to this man and i will forever publish his name Dr. Otiagbe.

    Contact him now for your own miracle via email: Otiagbe@yahoo.com

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  61. My husband has abandon me and the kids for the the past 8months now, and refuse to come back because he was hold on by a woman whom he just met, for that, my self and the kids has been suffering and it has been heel of a struggle, but I decide to do all means to make sure that my family come together as it use to, then I went online there I saw so many good talk about this spell caster whose email is LAVENDERLOVESPELL@YAHOO.com so I had to contact him and in just 4days as he has promised, my husband came home and his behavior was back to the man I got married to.I cant thank the spell caster enough what what he did for me, I am so grateful. I even spoke to the spell caster over the phone, to confirm his existence. His email again is: LAVENDERLOVESPELL@YAHOO.com

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  62. Hi DOC OBODO ,the love spell really work perfectly just receive a call from my ex this morning pleading for my forgiveness and asking me to take he back ,every one DOC OBODO is the right person to contact for help and here his contact info: templeofanswer@hotmail.co.uk ,+2348155425481 so that you can also be testifying to his good work

    From Anonymous saying living in Georgia USA

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  63. I have just found the right spell caster who has bring back my happiness by helping me get my ex back after 2years and i must thank my Dr. Lee who has play a very vital part of my life making me a great person and the most happiest person today you are a great man who is bless by God with traditional healing spell caster, after Dr. Lee has help me get my ex back he also help me recover what i have lost from me i must thank Dr. Lee for the life he has restored back for me and my happiness. Now i am doing well in my work happily with my wife, Dr. Lee is a very great spell caster you need to know just meet him and your problem will be over.. Email him via: Ancientfathersandmothers@gmail.com

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  64. I have just found the right spell caster who has bring back my happiness by helping me get my ex back after 2years and i must thank my Dr. Lee who has play a very vital part of my life making me a great person and the most happiest person today you are a great man who is bless by God with traditional healing spell caster, after Dr. Lee has help me get my ex back he also help me recover what i have lost from me i must thank Dr. Lee for the life he has restored back for me and my happiness. Now i am doing well in my work happily with my wife, Dr. Lee is a very great spell caster you need to know just meet him and your problem will be over.. Email him via: Ancientfathersandmothers@gmail.com

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  65. I want to use this opportunity to tell everyone about Dr Shiva of reunitingexspell@yahoo.com on how he help me reunited with my husband after 2 months of divorce.My husband divorce me because he saw another woman in his office and he said to me that he is no longer in love with me anymore and decide to divorce me.I seek help from the Net and i saw good talk about Dr Shiva and i contact him and explain my problem to him and he cast a spell for me which i use to get my husband back within 2 days.If you need his help Email him at reunitingexspell2@gmail.com

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  66. my name is Lisa and I recently had a breakup with my husband about 4 months back. He said we are done that we should move on that he has someone else now. I could not even bear the pain and everything and just so unfortunate, I discovered I was pregnant when me and my ex we going through some big fights. I couldn’t tell him I was pregnant because I knew he would blame it on me. I suffered with the secret on my own and I could not go through an abortion on my own. The funny thing is I discovered that he had two other girlfriends I was not aware of. I know if I could turn back the hands of time I would do it again because i could not suffer everything alone, I almost drop out of varsity because of a guy. On a faithful day after i lost of thought, an old friend told me about a spell caster wadada with this email: oselovespelltemple@gmail.com who could help me restore my love and have my baby in good terms. I sacrifice everything to make sure the spell was done. and the spell was now the savior. his spell brought back my lover after 2days. My joy, love and happiness is restored because of this spell caster wadada, my baby comes soon.: oselovespelltemple@gmail.com

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  67. Am HERMIA i want to share my life experience to every body on this site.i was in a serious relationship with peter i love him so much we have dated for almost 6 years now.until he meant another girl called rose he told me that he is know longer interested in dating me any more. i was so confuse i don`t know what to do.so i told my friend about what my love just told me and he told me that she can solve my problem i was doubting her how can that be possible.so she directed me to a spell caster called Dr.OKIJA.so i contacted him and i explain every thing to him and he told me that my problem will be solved within two days if i believe i said OK.So he cast a spell for me and after two days my love came back to me begging me on his knees on the ground asking me to forgive him.Am so happy now. so that why i decided to share my experience with every body that have such problem you can contact his email via email, oselovespelltemple@gmail.com

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  68. My name is Kristine Helm. My life has been sour since i became a
    cripple at the age of 14 and this has really affected my living. I met
    Nelson during the Olympic when i was 26 years old and he was a very
    funny and caring guy who taught me how important i am to world. He made

    me understands been crippled is not the end of the world for me and i

    was very happy having him as my companion. Justin was a very

    hardworking guy and he promise to marry me before he left for business
    trip in China. Two months later he arrived from China and never visited
    me. I was told by my brother that Justin is now going out with my
    friend and this really broke me down cos he is the only one that truly
    loves me. No one wants to go out with me because i am a cripple. I and
    my brother traveled to South Africa to watch the world cup when i heard
    about temple of permanent healing. I never believe in God because i am
    a cripple and i believe that no one can ever make me walk again but
    when i heard about his great power, i decided to go there. I begged my
    brother to take me to temple of permanent healing. I spent 7 days in
    his healing center and it surprises me that on the 7th day, i was able

    to stand and walk. The priest told me that Justin was under a spell and

    he prayed for me to destroy every obstacle in my life. I came back home

    and i was shocked to see Justin. He came and begged me for forgiveness,
    our relationship came back normal. I am very happy to inform the
    general public that i and Justin are happily married since October last
    year and i am pregnant. I know that people might be passing through any
    problem and i will advise you to contact temple of permanent healing
    because his miracle is free. His email address is
    D.rrivershebalisthome@gmail.com

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  69. I NEVER BELIEVED IN LOVE SPELLS UNTIL I MET THIS WORLD'S TOP SPELL CASTER. HE IS REALLY POWERFUL AND COULD HELP CAST SPELLS TO BRING BACK ONE'S GONE,LOST,MISBEHAVING LOVER AND MAGIC MONEY SPELL OR SPELL FOR A GOOD JOB.I'M NOW HAPPY & A LIVING TESTIMONY COS THE WOMAN I HAD WANTED TO MARRY LEFT ME 2 WEEKS BEFORE OUR WEDDING AND MY LIFE WAS UPSIDE DOWN COS OUR RELATIONSHIP HAS BEEN ON FOR 2YEARS... I REALLY LOVED HIM, BUT HIS MOTHER WAS AGAINST US AND HE HAD NO GOOD PAYING JOB. SO WHEN I MET THIS SPELL CASTER, I TOLD HIM WHAT HAPPENED AND EXPLAINED THE SITUATION OF THINGS TO HIM..AT FIRST I WAS UNDECIDED,SKEPTICAL AND DOUBTFUL, BUT I JUST GAVE IT A TRY. AND IN 7 DAYS WHEN I RETURNED TO USA, MY GIRLFRIEND(NOW WIFE) CALLED ME BY HERSELF AND CAME TO ME APOLOGIZING THAT EVERYTHING HAD BEEN SETTLED WITH HIS MOM AND FAMILY AND SHE GOT A NEW JOB INTERVIEW SO WE SHOULD GET MARRIED..I DIDN'T BELIEVE IT COS THE SPELL CASTER ONLY ASKED FOR MY NAME AND MY GIRLFRIENDS NAME AND ALL I WANTED HIM TO DO... WELL WE ARE HAPPILY MARRIED NOW AND WE ARE EXPECTING OUR LITTLE KID,AND MY WIFE ALSO GOT THE NEW JOB AND OUR LIVES BECAME MUCH BETTER. IN CASE ANYONE NEEDS THE SPELL CASTER FOR SOME HELP, HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS;okutemple@hotmail.com ......HOPE HE HELPS YOU OUT OUR OPPORTUNITY ... CONTACT THIS GREAT SPELL CASTER VIA EMAIL:okutemple@hotmail.com






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  70. hey Jean, i really like your comment about Dr.Kwale on how he fix your broken marriage and make your husband to be all yours, and i am here also to keep assuring others that Dr.Kwale can also help them get their lover back just as he has brought my ex lover and your husband back. i will also advice everyone looking for help on how to get there ex lover back to contact this grate Dr.Kwale, he will help you within 2days and make your lover to come back to you. Here is Dr.Kwale email address kwaletemple@gmail.com or you can call him via his mobile number +2348056141089, just contact him to confirm my word.

    Jacqueline

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  71. I was been suffering hardshiply from HIV/AIDS since 9yrs now, and i happen to have 2 kids for my husband, and now we cannot proceed to have another kids all because of my disease and now i have do all what a human like i and my husband can do just to get my disease healed, i have went to several places to seek for help not even one person could ever help, until i melt a comment on the daily news paper that was commented by Miss Marilyn about how this powerful traditional doctor help her get cured of the disease (HIV-AIDS) " my fellow beloved" i firstly taught having a help from a spiritual traditional healer was a wrong idea, but i think of these, will i continue to stress on these disease all day when i have someone to help me save my life?" so i gather all my faiths and put in all interest to contact him through his Email address at agumaguspelltemple@gmail.com , so after i have mailed him of helping get my disease cured, i respond to me fast as possible that i should not be afraid, that he is a truthful and powerful doctor which i firstly claimed him to be. So after all set has been done, he promise me that i will be healed but on a condition that i provide him some items and obeyed all his oracle said. I did all by accepting his oracolous fact and only to see that the following week dr agumagu me on my mail box that my work is successfully done with his powers, i was first shocked and later arise to be the happiest woman on earth after i have concluded my final test on the hospital by my doctor that i am now HIV- Negative. My papers for check are with me and now i am happy and glad for his miraculous help and power. With these i must to everyone who might seek for any help, either for HIV cure or much more to contact him now at these following email now, Email: agumaguspelltemple@gmail.com



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  72. I will love to share my testimony to all the people in the forum cos i never thought i will have my girlfriend back and she means so much to me..The girl i want to get marry to left me 4 weeks to our wedding for another man..,When i called her she never picked my calls,She deleted me on her facebook and she changed her facebook status from married to Single...when i went to her to her place of work she told her boss she never want to see me..I lost my job as a result of this cos i cant get myself anymore,my life was upside down and everything did not go smooth with my life...I tried all i could do to have her back to all did not work out until i met a Man when i Travel to Africa to execute some business have been developing some years back..I told him my problem and all have passed through in getting her back and how i lost my job...he told me he gonna help me...i don't believe that in the first place.but he swore he will help me out and he told me the reason why my girlfriend left me and also told me some hidden secrets.i was amazed when i heard that from him..he said he will cast a spell for me and i will see the results in the next couple of days..then i travel back to US the following day and i called him when i got home and he said he's busy casting those spells and he has bought all the materials needed for the spells,he said am gonna see positive results in the next 2 days that is Thursday...My girlfriend called me at exactly 12:35pm on Thursday and apologies for all she had done ..she said,she never knew what she's doing and her sudden behavior was not intentional and she promised not to do that again.it was like am dreaming when i heard that from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him my wife called and he said i haven't seen anything yet... he said i will also get my job back in 3 days time..and when its Sunday,they called me at my place of work that i should resume working on Monday and they gonna compensate me for the time limit have spent at home without working..My life is back into shape,i have my girlfriend back and we are happily married now with kids and i have my job back too.This man is really powerful..if we have up to 20 people like him in the world,the world would have been a better place..he has also helped many of my friends to solve many problems and they are all happy now..Am posting this to the forum for anybody that is interested in meeting the man for help.you can mail him to agumaguspelltemple@gmail.com I cant give out his number cos he told me he don't want to be disturbed by many people across the world..he said his email is okay and he' will replied to any emails asap..hope he helped u out too..good luck:agumaguspelltemple@gmail.com.ONCE AGAIN HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS: agumaguspelltemple@gmail.com




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  73. This powerful WIN EX BACK SPELL is tailored to bring your lover back in your arms permanently and with no delay. I use the best spell casting techniques to make my lover come home and beg for my forgiveness. This spell is customized to your situation and deals specifically with the barriers that have risen between you and your ex-partner. One by one, all obstacles will be removed until your lover realizes that leaving you was a mistake and desire nothing but coming back into your arms.you can contact him his email address and beg for his help winexbackspell@gmail.com

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  74. I am PANDEV from canada.I never
    believe in spells and magic until I
    experienced one some times ago and it
    really worked for me. I was in love with
    this guy and he is in love with me too for
    3years and we making preparations to get married but to my surprise,his
    parents didn't want his hand in the
    marriage because of the religion
    difference. I was about loosing my man
    to another lady under the influence of his
    parents until I met a spell caster on net that claimed he can help me out.
    He
    helped me cast a very strong spell that
    helped change his parents mind and i
    noticed also that my man love for me has
    greatly increased. We are happily
    married now with kids. People with similar problems can contact the spell
    caster on drodionspelltemple@gmail.com)
    He cast spells for different purposes like
    (1) If you want your ex back.
    (2) if you always have bad dreams.
    (3) You want to be promoted in your office.
    (4) You want women/men to run after
    you.
    (5) If you want a child.
    (6) You want to be rich.
    (7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be yours forever.
    (8) If you need financial assistance.
    (9) Herbal care
    Contact him today on:
    at:drodoinspelltemple@gmail

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  75. Since my last boyfriend I have felt so lonely. You know that as I explained that thoroughly in my first email to you. I wished for my heart to be filled with love and happiness and you did that! I have met the perfect guy and I am to be promoted tomorrow at work! It seems that the gods are smiling at me and you are the reason why. I will be your faithful follower for ever. Ancientfathersandmothers@gmail.com

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  76. My name is Francisca i am very happy today for what PROPHET ROBSON has done in my life by helping me get my ex back with his spell and after 2 years of living without him. if you need help to help you locate ex back or are you in financial crisis then contact PROPHET ROBSON for help via email *(prophetrobsontemple@yahoo.com)

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  77. Good day to anyone read this testimony. I was heartbroken when my husband moved in with another woman abandoning our family. So I had a spell to bring him back home and stop the affair he had with the new girl. In just 24 hours he left her and went to live at the motel to cover his shame. He called to say so and also get news of the kids. The discussion was pleasant, as if he was changing to become the man I knew when we got married. Now he's back home and absolutely crazy in love with me and the kids. I am so thrilled by this spell that I can't find the right words to say how I feel right now. All I can decently say is that Lord Ferdinard, saved the most important thing in my life. My family gives thanks to you Sir for bringing back my husband home. If you passing true the same problems in your home contact Lord Ferdinard, for help on his Email: lordspiritualtemple@gmail.com

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  78. Hello to every one out here, am here to share the unexpected miracle that happened to me three days ago, My name is Edwin Wallace i live in United State,and I`m happily married to a lovely and caring wife,with two kids A very big problem occurred in my family seven months ago,between me and my wife so terrible that she took the case to court for a divorce she said that she never wanted to stay with me again,and that she did not love me anymore So she packed out of my house and made me and my children passed through severe pain. I tried all my possible means to get her back,after much begging,but all to no avail and she confirmed it that she has made her decision,and she never wanted to see me again. So on one evening,as i was coming back from work,i met an old friend of mine who asked of my wife So i explained every thing to her,so she told me that the only way i can get my wife back,is to visit a spell caster,because it has really worked for her too So i never believed in spell,but i had no other choice,than to follow her advice. Then she gave me the email address of the spell caster whom she visited.(supremetemple@hotmail.com}, So the next morning,i sent a mail to the address she gave to me,and the spell caster assured me that i will get my wife back the next day what an amazing statement!! I never believed,so he spoke with me,and told me everything that i need to do. Then the next morning, So surprisingly, my wife who did not call me for the past seven {7}months,gave me a call to inform me that she was coming back So Amazing!! So that was how she came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and she apologized for her mistake,and for the pain she caused me and my children. Then from that day,our relationship was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a spell caster . So, i will advice you out there to kindly visit the same website {supremetemple@hotmail.com},i f you are in any condition like this,or you have any problem related to "bringing your ex back. So thanks to Dr Papa for bringing back my wife,and brought great joy to my family once again.(supremetemple@hotmail.com}, Thanks..

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  79. I have a testimony to share with you only if you are willing to listen to me, My name is Williams Edwin from London. I have been having problems in some aspect of my life which almost led me to commit suicide, several time I applied for jobs and each time I was turn down, it come to a point that my Wife left me for another Man and this made me to have high blood pressure (B.P). One day as I was looking for job online in the internet I came across a testimony of a woman how a great spell caster called VOODOO help her with his spell to solve her problems so I decided to contact the Spell caster (Voodoo) by mail. I narrated all my story to him and the only thing he told me was don't worry because your problems are solve already. for you have made the right choice of contacting me. I filled his form and provide the item he requested from me for the preparation of the spell to get me a good job, bring my ex back and also to heal my high blood pressure (B.P) and today my brothers and sisters that are reading this I am very glad to say that Voodoo is a God on earth. I have a good Job now, My wife is back and I am healed of my High Blood Pressure (B.P). Do you have problems and you think all hope is gone, I advise you to contact VOODOO today and your problem will be solve just as he solve mine ok. Voodoo email is: voodoolovespelltemple@hotmail. com. this african temple is genuine I swear. WOW AM ON TOP YOU CAN BE TOO.INSTEAD OF FALLING FOR THOSE SCAMS THAT CALL THEIR SELF SPELL CASTERS, VOODOO YOU I WILL CONTINUE TO THANK YOUR TEMPLE.

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  80. This is a testimony that I will tell to every one to hear. I have been married four 4years and on the fifth year of my marriage, another woman had a spell to take my lover away from me and my husband left me and the kids and we have suffered for 2years until I met a post where this man DR OLOKUM have helped someone and I decided to give him a try to help me bring my lover back home and believe me I just send my picture to him and that of my husband and after 48hours as he have told me, I saw a car drove into the house and behold it was my husband and he have come to me and the kids and that is why I am happy to make every one of you in similar to met with this man and have your lover back to your self. His email:lavenderlovespell@yahoo.com.

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  81. My name's Tony Almeida, I'm from Brazil and have lived some years in the UK. My story has come up with this sad episode. Last December, 2013, my lover decided to visit her grandmom earlier for Christmas, even without my knowing. The worst! We has already planned to spend the Christmas' Day at the beach as we had always done, which had always been something she always asked me to. Well, for Christmas, I even called her on the cell-phone over and over to wish her Merry Christmas, but she didn't answer it.
    Then, I keep calling every day and the same thing went on and on. She spent 2 months at her grandmom's, and when she returned, I called her mom and I was told my lover didn't want to come back to me, which was a shock, it seemed the whole world had come down on me. I came to be hospitalized for me relationship with my love was so perfect that since her mom and I got divorced she wanted to just stay with me. I took her everywhere I went on trips, parks, theaters, movies, and from nothing she just turned her back on me. I got to talk to her some 20 days ago and we talked some, but she was so resisting that we had to hang up. So far, I haven't called her, because her mom said she is depressed. I really don't know how to behave in this situation. I've been in pain. God knows how much it has hurt me and i have no option until i contacted Dr. Ikhine powerful spell caster who brought her back to me within 72hours contact him on agbadado@gmail.com for help just as he has did for me

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  82. Am happy from USA i want to share my great experience to the whole world about how i got my lover back to my arms after we departed for 4 years i never taught that i could have him back in my life until i met this great man named Dr jaja who showed me true powers of spell, Me and Larry Broke up 4 years ago ever since i have not been my self although i have been in several relationship i have not seen who is as good as Larry, so ever since i have been thinking about him, so i had to tell my friend about how i feel for Larry that i wish if i can have him back to my arms, so that was when my friend told me that she was reading a love review the other day when she saw how somebody commented on how she got her lover back with the help of a man named dr
    jaja . So that was how i told her to show me the site were she read the reviews so that was how she showed me and i saw so many reviews about this great man how he helped a lot of people even the sick, without wasting anytime immediately i collected his contact and called him and told him what i want, he just laughed over it and told me not to worry that he will come back to me, so that was how i waited to see what will happen, so surprisingly i got a call from Larry. i was like this is a dream, but later realized that it was reality, Larry was crying and pleading on the phone that he missed me a lot that i should come back to his life, i was like is this real? until he came to my house and went on his knees pleading to me that i should forgive him, so that was how we got united again with the help of great
    jaja, and now we are happily married, thanks be onto dr jaja for what he has done for me, if you need his help you can contact him through pekokospelltemple@gmail.com

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  83. We broke up 5 months ago,after 2 years , because he said he wasn’t in love with me anymore. I hadn’t understood how he was feeling; i thought he was happy and he still liked me, until he broke up with me. We study in different cities and i think that the distance made him feel like that. Now we both have new mates (i feel great with my new boyfriend) but i miss him so much and i am thinking of him very often, hoping that some day we will be together again… I know that now i must focus on my new relationship, but i can’t stop thinking of the great time i had with my ex. He is now back with the help of Dr ikhine the powerful spell who help me cast a spell that brought him back within 48hours contact him on agbadado@gmail.com or call him on +2347060552255 for your help

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  84. My and ex and I were together for 14 months and we have lived together our entire relations. A month ago he broke up with me because he felt his better off alone and wants to be single. That’s what he told me anyways. I spent two weeks avoiding him by staying busy with friends and family and staying with people. He was miserable he didn't eat, sleep or do anything besides lay on the couch. I came home and the house was a mess because he didn't do anything...
    When I got home we had a talk about making it work by being friends as we live together and none of us can leave. Ever since the talk we have become really close, we flirt, laugh, playfully tease each other, we curl up on the couch and watch tv together and play the xbox together, We cook together and back to our usual selves. He has now moved himself back into my bedroom and sleeps in the same bed with me. He still calls me babe and sweetie and gives me hugs if I want one. We are really good friends. He said its ok for me to date or sleep with someone else as long as im honest with him. However recently we went out and I flirted with a few guys and out of nowhere he picked a fight with me and started to say that I wanted him back and using our mutual friends as an excuses saying he heard it from them and that I was bad mouthing him, Which isn't true. I got really upset and he walked away and I went and stayed at friends and didn't hear from him all night, in the morning he texted me asking where I was, if im coming home, was persistent in picking me up and said he wants us to be good again. I came home and he was back to normal and made sure I was ok. We are closer then ever and when I leave, his miserable, his friend keeps asking him if he made the right decision and brings us up and he just says its work and then goes quiet, or changes the subject. If I bring up the relationship he just goes quiet. He talks about me in his future. until i contacted Dr. Ikhine the spell caster who put our relationship in good shape and we are happily married now contact him on agbadado@gmail.com for your good relationship to be together.

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  85. My ex-boy dumped me 6 months ago after I accused him of seeing another woman and insulting him.I want him back in my life but he refused to have any contact with me.He changed his line,block me from sending him email and facebook.I was so confuse and don't know what to do. So I reach to the internet for help and I saw a testimonies of how this powerful spell caster help them to get their ex back. So I contact the spell caster whose name is Dr Shiva and explain my problem to him and he cast a spell for me and assure me of 2days that my ex will return to me, and to my greatest surprise the Second day my ex came knocking at my door and ask me to forgive him.I am so happy that my love is back again. Once again thank you Dr Shiva,you are truly talented and gifted. Email: reunitingexspell2@gmail.com He is the only answer to your problems.He can be of great help and I will not stop publishing his name for the good work he did for me and people are still talking about him on the Internet. REUNITINGEXSPELL@YAHOO.COM

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  86. I am writing this because I want to testify how great you are Dr. Lee. Everyone needs to know! I am a very satisfied and happy customer. I can’t tell how long it’s been since I’ve bought spells online, but none of them had the same results than yours. Eliton definitely reconcile with me 2 weeks ago. It was just a few days after you cast your spell. I know I should have messaged you before, but I was a bit scared that he could find out about the spell you did so I removed all your emails. Anyway, I can tell all your future customers who are reading this that they are doing the right thing to go with you for a spell. It was always great communicating with you and all the services you offer are just excellent. Thank you for everything you did for me. Any interested one should contact him through Ancientfathersandmothers@gmail.com

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  87. Am happy from USA i want to share my great experience to the whole world about how i got my lover back to my arms after we departed for 4 years i never taught that i could have him back in my life until i met this great man named Dr jaja who showed me true powers of spell, Me and Larry Broke up 4 years ago ever since i have not been my self although i have been in several relationship i have not seen who is as good as Larry, so ever since i have been thinking about him, so i had to tell my friend about how i feel for Larry that i wish if i can have him back to my arms, so that was when my friend told me that she was reading a love review the other day when she saw how somebody commented on how she got her lover back with the help of a man named dr
    jaja . So that was how i told her to show me the site were she read the reviews so that was how she showed me and i saw so many reviews about this great man how he helped a lot of people even the sick, without wasting anytime immediately i collected his contact and called him and told him what i want, he just laughed over it and told me not to worry that he will come back to me, so that was how i waited to see what will happen, so surprisingly i got a call from Larry. i was like this is a dream, but later realized that it was reality, Larry was crying and pleading on the phone that he missed me a lot that i should come back to his life, i was like is this real? until he came to my house and went on his knees pleading to me that i should forgive him, so that was how we got united again with the help of great
    jaja, and now we are happily married, thanks be onto dr jaja for what he has done for me, if you need his help you can contact him through pekokospelltemple@gmail.com

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  88. Jennifer

    My husband came home suddenly two weeks ago. I am so grateful to Dr.kizzekpe. I stood on the promise of that little mustard seed and miracles started happening everywhere in my life, not only my marriage is healed, but also my family is healing by Dr.kizzekpe email him on:kizzekpespells@outlook.com

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  89. Be careful here nobody can help you here or even suggest how you can get your ex or love back,any testimonies of most spell caster here must be ignore.because most of them are scam i mean real scam which i was a victim and i got ripped of thousands of dollars because i was so anxious to get my wife back after she left me for over 2 years with my 7 years old son jerry,i have applied to 7 different spell caster here and all to no avail they all ask for same thing send your name your ex name address and picture phone number etc which i did over and over again and most of them were from west Africa until i saw a post about mama Anita spell and i decided to gave her my last trail.she ask me four things my real name,my ex and my ex mother name and $180 and said my ex will come back in 24hours, i have paid over $3000 on spell casting and courier and nothing have work for me after 3 days i was thinking about how much i have lost so far so i said let me give her a try so i called her again and send my real name,my ex and my ex mother name and the $180 because i swear it was my last try so i was waiting as she told me to wait till next day and i could not sleep that night because i really love my wife and want her back at 9pm that day i saw my wife on line on face book and she said hi at first i was shock because she never talk with me for the past a year and 9 month now i did not reply again she said are you there? i quickly reply yes and she said can we see tomorrow i said yes and she went off-line i was confused i try to chat her again but she was no more on line i could not sleep that night as i was wondering what she is going to say, by 7.am the next morning she gave me a miss call i decided not to call back as i was still on shock again she call and i pick she said can we see after work today i said yes so she end the call immediately i got off work she call me and we meet and now we are back again i call mama anita the next day thanking her for what she has done in fact i still call her and thank her as my life was not complete without my wife please be careful here i have been scam thousands of dollars if you want a true love spell then contact mama Anita (mama.anitatruelovespell@gmail.com)

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  90. This is a testimony that I will tell to every one to hear. I have been married four 4years and on the fifth year of my marriage, another woman had a spell to take my lover away from me and my husband left me and the kids and we have suffered for 2years until I met a post where this man DR OLOKUM have helped someone and I decided to give him a try to help me bring my lover back home and believe me I just send my picture to him and that of my husband and after 48hours as he have told me, I saw a car drove into the house and behold it was my husband and he have come to me and the kids and that is why I am happy to make every one of you in similar to met with this man and have your lover back to your self. His email:lavenderlovespell@yahoo.com.

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  91. My name is Mary and my ex-boyfriend dumped me 8 months ago after I caught him of having an affair with someone else and insulting him. I want him back in my life but he refuse to have any contact with me. I was so confuse and don't know what to do, so I visited the INTERNET for help and I saw a testimony on how a spell caster help them to get their ex back so I contact the spell caster and explain my problems to him..... he cast a spell for me and assure me of 3 days that my ex will return to me and to my greatest surprise the third day my peter came knocking on my door and beg for forgiveness. I am so happy that my love is back again and not only that, we are about to get married. Once again thank you RE UNITING EX SPELL TEMPLE caster, you are truly talented and gifted contact his email: Reunitingexspell@gmail.com All thanks to the source of my happiness{ DR. MAGBU}.

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  92. This powerful WIN EX BACK SPELL is tailored to bring your lover back in your arms permanently and with no delay. I use the best spell casting techniques to make my lover come home and beg for my forgiveness. This spell is customized to your situation and deals specifically with the barriers that have risen between you and your ex-partner. One by one, all obstacles will be removed until your lover realizes that leaving you was a mistake and desire nothing but coming back into your arms.you can contact him his email address and beg for his help winexbackspell@gmail.com

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  93. After six years in marriage with my husband with 3 kids, he suddenly started going out with other women and coming home late, each time i confronted him it turns out to be a fight and he always threatened to divorce me at all time, my marriage was gradually coming to an end. i tried all i could to stop him from this unruly attitude but all proved abortive, until i saw a post in the forum about a spell caster who helps people cast spell on marriage and relationship problems, at first i doubted it but decided to give it a try, when i contacted this Spell caster Dr. Dangogo via email, he helped me cast a spell and within 4 hours my husband came back apologizing for all he has done and promised never to do such again and today we are happily together again. Contact this Great spell caster for your marriage or relationship issues via this email; dr.dangogospell@gmail.com

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  94. I am Mrs Rhozelyn Bentozal from Philippines . i was married to my husband, i love him so much we have been married for 9years now with two kids. when he went for a vacation he meant a lady called Jane , he told me that he is no longer interested in the marriage any more. i was so confuse and seeking for help, i don't know what to do until I met my friend miss Mangmang and introduce me to a man called DR.OSIN who cast a spell on her ex and bring him back to her after 3days. Miss Mangmang ask me to contact DR.OSIN . I contacted him to help me bring back my husband . After three day my husband called and told me he is coming back to sought out things with me, Right now I am the happiest woman on earth for what this great spell caster did for me and my husband, you can contact DR.OSIN on any problem in this world, he is very nice, here is his contact Email loverrelationshipspell@gmail.com He is the best spell caster.

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  95. My fiance had an affair. We had been engaged for 13 months and were due to get married in November this year. i found a text on his phone and at first he denied everything and then he admitted it. He has now left and is seeing the girl from work that he was having the affair with. I am devastated, all my hopes and dreams for my future have been crushed. I desperately want him back and i went online for advice where i saw a comment and the email address written on it ancientijebudespelltemple@gmail.com I contacted the temple for help and to my greatest surprise, my fiance gave me all attention that's due to me and now we are getting married 12th of April. I am so happy for having what belongs to me back.

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  96. I NEVER BELIEVED IN LOVE SPELLS UNTIL I MET THIS WORLD’S TOP SPELL CASTER. HE IS REALLY POWERFUL AND COULD HELP CAST SPELLS TO BRING BACK ONE’S GONE,LOST,MISBEHAVING LOVER AND MAGIC MONEY SPELL OR SPELL FOR A GOOD JOB.I’M NOW HAPPY & A LIVING TESTIMONY COS THE WOMAN I HAD WANTED TO MARRY LEFT ME 2 WEEKS BEFORE OUR WEDDING AND MY LIFE WAS UPSIDE DOWN COS OUR RELATIONSHIP HAS BEEN ON FOR 2YEARS… I REALLY LOVED HIM, BUT HIS MOTHER WAS AGAINST US AND HE HAD NO GOOD PAYING JOB. SO WHEN I MET THIS SPELL CASTER, I TOLD HIM WHAT HAPPENED AND EXPLAINED THE SITUATION OF THINGS TO HIM..AT FIRST I WAS UNDECIDED,SKEPTICAL AND DOUBTFUL, BUT I JUST GAVE IT A TRY. AND IN 7 DAYS WHEN I RETURNED TO USA, MY GIRLFRIEND(NOW WIFE) CALLED ME BY HERSELF AND CAME TO ME APOLOGIZING THAT EVERYTHING HAD BEEN SETTLED WITH HIS MOM AND FAMILY AND SHE GOT A NEW JOB INTERVIEW SO WE SHOULD GET MARRIED..I DIDN’T BELIEVE IT COS THE SPELL CASTER ONLY ASKED FOR MY NAME AND MY GIRLFRIENDS NAME AND ALL I WANTED HIM TO DO… WELL WE ARE HAPPILY MARRIED NOW AND WE ARE EXPECTING OUR LITTLE KID,AND MY WIFE ALSO GOT THE NEW JOB AND OUR LIVES BECAME MUCH BETTER. IN CASE ANYONE NEEDS THE SPELL CASTER FOR SOME HELP, HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS;ohehenemenspelltemple001@gmail.com ……HOPE HE HELPS YOU OUT OUR OPPORTUNITY … CONTACT THIS GREAT SPELL CASTER VIA EMAIL ohehenemenspelltemple001@gmail.com

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  97. i am sharing my testimony to everyone that has tried everything possible and had lost hope on how they can get their ex back, i want you all to know that their is one man called Dr. baba that work for me and after 2days of his spell. my ex came back to me without any delay, i am really happy now that we are together again and we are living happily with so much love and respect for each other, so i will advise everyone to ask for this same man's help so that you can be happy again and make your dreams and wishes you have with your ex come true. via worldwidesupremetemple@gmail.com
    he can help you without any delay

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  98. IS A TESTIMONY, I NEVER BELIEVED IN LOVE SPELLS UNTIL I MET THIS SPELL CASTER CALLED DR UNITY. HE IS REALLY POWERFUL AND COULD HELP CAST SPELLS TO BRING BACK ONE'S GONE,LOST,MISBEHAVING LOVER AND MAGIC MONEY SPELL OR SPELL FOR A GOOD JOB.I'M NOW HAPPY & A LIVING TESTIMONY COS THE WOMAN I HAD WANTED TO MARRY LEFT ME 3 WEEKS BEFORE OUR WEDDING AND MY LIFE WAS UPSIDE DOWN COS OUR RELATIONSHIP HAS BEEN ON FOR 3YEARS... I REALLY LOVED HER, BUT HER MOTHER WAS AGAINST US AND I HAD NO GOOD PAYING JOB. SO WHEN I MET THIS SPELL CASTER, I TOLD HIM WHAT HAPPENED AND EXPLAINED THE SITUATION OF THINGS TO HIM..AT FIRST I WAS UNDECIDED,SKEPTICAL AND DOUBTFUL, BUT I JUST GAVE IT A TRY. AND IN 48HOURS WHEN I WAS IN MY HOUSE IN USA,SHE CALLED ME BY HERSELF AND CAME TO ME, APOLOGIZING THAT EVERYTHING HAD BEEN SETTLED WITH HER MOM AND FAMILY AND SHE GOT A NEW JOB INTERVIEW SO WE SHOULD GET MARRIED..I DIDN'T BELIEVE IT COS THE SPELL CASTER ONLY ASKED FOR MY NAME AND MY GIRLFRIENDS NAME AND ALL I WANTED HIM TO DO... WELL WE ARE HAPPILY MARRIED NOW AND WE ARE EXPECTING OUR LITTLE KID,AND MY WIFE ALSO GOT THE NEW JOB AND OUR LIVES BECAME MUCH BETTER. IN CASE ANYONE NEEDS THE SPELL CASTER FOR SOME HELP, HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS;unitylovetemple@gmail.com THANKS DR UNITY FOR YOUR GOOD WORK. ONCE AGAIN HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS unitylovetemple@gmail.com

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  99. My name is John Sheri I'm from California i have been married for 4years and i have a break up with my husband 3months ago and i was worried and so confuse because i love him so much. i was really going too depressed and a friend directed me to this spell caster Dr. Laco and i made all my problems known to him and he told me not to worry that he was going to make my husband to come back to me and in just 48hours i receive a call from my husband and he was appealing that i should come back to the house. i have never in my life believe in spell and but now it have just helped me and i am now so happy. All Thanks to him and if you also want to have your Husband back to yourself here !! his email Address lacopowerfulspellcaster@yahoo.com i am so happy to testify of your work and kindness

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  100. Am so excited that Dr Okun the powerful spell caster brought my ex lover back to me within 2days after leaving me for the past 6months I was frustrated until I met Dr Okun who help me to cast a spell that brought him back and now am so happy and my ex lover has just bought me a brown new car which he has never done before, thank you very much Dr Okun for what you have done for me contact him on okunspelltemple@outlook.com and all your problem will be solved, once and for all.the most interesting part about this man is that, he has revive my uncle's broken home and his business that was down. Because of what he did 4 me and my family, I have decided to invite him over to canada for a spiritual bath against any intruder concerning my father's company. Call for urgent response okunspelltemple@outlook.com

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  101. Santana Valdez Says i am giving this testimony cos l am happy My name is Mrs. Santana Valdez from Houston,taxes.i never believed in love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once. when i went to Africa in June 28th 2013 this year on a business summit. i meet a man called Dr Zuma zuk.He is powerful he could help you cast a spells to bring back my love’s gone,misbehaving lover looking for some one to love you, bring back lost money and magic money spell or spell for a good job.i’m now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 3 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 2 years… i really loved him, but his mother was against me and he had no good paying job. so when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him..at first i was undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. and in 6 days when i returned to taxes, my boyfriend (is now my husband ) he called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married..i didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do… well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid,and my husband also got a new job and our lives became much better. in case anyone needs the spell caster for some help, email address spiritualherbalisthealers@gmail.com Great Zuma zuk i thank you very much thank you in 1000000 times.. if not you i would have been losted and wasted thank you. Email Him Through his email address... spiritualherbalisthealers@gmail.com please make sure you contact him for any financial difficulties okay...What a powerful man such as Dr Zuma zuk.. he is so much powerful..\\ email him for any difficulties.. spiritualherbalisthealers@gmail.com

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  102. Hi everyone,I have just read all of the posts and I am in tears! My life for the past 10 yrs has been,I dont know how to put it, I guess loney and loveless. Im 26 I ve been with my fiance for 10 yrs and we have 2 sons. Our oldest 7 has AS too and my youngest 3 has autism. I feel so lonely in my family, none of them understand me at all and dont try. I feel like ive lost myself. I is much harder to deal with my Fiance then my kids of course, because I shouldnt have to parent him. I dont want to parent 3 people, I want love. He doesnt even feel love I dont think! Im very sad thinking that I am putting my self in this postion, to never put myself 1st or get anything I need or want it life. My family nor his gets it and they say that because he works and takes care of his family with money I should be happy enough. I wish there were groups where iI live but I havent found and yet. Im very happy to find other people out there dealing with this, because living life like this is very lonely. I would love to start talking with some of you,all things happen because great Iseh James was very great to me,after he help me getting back my man every thing have be working fine.Please you can contact he for help so you can be happy in your relationship.Email him at; Olorunoduduwaspiritualtemple@gmail.com

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  103. Oh my God, I'm so glad to tell everyone the real thing that happen to me...My name is EMILIANO BABARAH. If i refuse to share this testimony it means i am selfish to my self and to people i love so much whom might have similar problems, March 16th about something 7:23pm after taken our dinner my husband got crazy started calling a lady name Melisa I love you, i was so mad and started crying like a baby...then my husband left home for the idiot called Melisa, and never return back home then i believed when he uthen nderstand his self he will surly come back to apology, but instead he left me So i complained to my friend she told me she was having such problems in her marriage until she was introduce to DR ORIOMON who specializes in bringing back broken homes and broken marriages DR ORIOMON cast a spell for me in May 4th surprisingly my husband came home May 6th apologizing that i should forgive him that it will never happen again, i was so glad and gave the thanks to DR ORIOMON who save my marriage, if you are having similar problem you can contact him and His email address is (oriomonspiritualtemple@yahoo.com) you can still save your marriage if u really love your husband.


    Thanks EMILIANO BABARAH_USA

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  104. Hi just wanted to let you know that after you did the break-up spell last week my husband move out that girls house and got his own place. Not sure if they are still seeing each other but it's a start. After you did the bring my baby back spell few days back, we decided to take some baby steps and start talking and spending time together. I will definitely let others know about your work and will be using your services again very soon! Thank you very much Dr. Lee get to him via Ancientfathersandmothers@gmail.com

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  105. I am her to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage… I was married for 6 years with 3 good lovely kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had a fights and arguments almost every time… it got worse at a point that he filed for divorce… I tried my best to make him change his mind & stay with me cause i loved him with all my heart and didn't want to loose him but everything just didn't work out… he moved out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster wiseindividualspell@gmail.com who eventually helped me out… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly cause I was desperate and left with no choice… He did special prayers and cast a love spell on him. Within 7 days he called me and was sorry for all the emotional trauma he had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily, the kids are happy too and we are expecting our fourth child… I have introduced him to a lot of couples with problems across the world and they have had good news… Just thought I should share my experience cause I strongly believe someone out there needs it… You can email him at: wiseindividualspell@gmail.com or you can call him +2348078927387.

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  106. Do you know I had tried many casters before you and I have to say you are excellent in every way. Affordable spells that work!! not like some out there charging so much yet no results lol..and your customer service that's so good too. You handle each client in a friendly and personal way. I really am very impressed... Keep doing what you're doing..you've won me over that's for sure. Thanks Dr. Abu. Contact him and he shall make you very happy no matter what your situation is, just try you have nothing to loose about this dear reader. Ominighospelltemple@gmail.com

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  107. My Name is Jassica..I never believed in Love Spells or Magics until I met this special spell caster once when i went to Africa to Execute some business..He is really powerful.The woman i wanted to marry left me 3 weeks to our weeding ceremony and my life was upside down.she was with me for 3 years and i really love her so much..she left me for another man with no reason..when i called her she never picked up my calls and she don’t want to see me around her…so,when i told the man what happened.he helped me to do some readings,and after the readings he made me to realize that the other man has done some spells over my wife and that is the reason why she left me..he told me he will help me to cast a spell that bring her back.At first i was skeptical but i just gave it a try…In 2 days,she called me herself and came to me apologizing..I cant believe she can ever come back to me again thank you so much Dr Moon EMAIL: moonspelltemple@gmail.com

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  108. My Name is Jassica..I never believed in Love Spells or Magics until I met this special spell caster once when i went to Africa to Execute some business..He is really powerful.The woman i wanted to marry left me 3 weeks to our weeding ceremony and my life was upside down.she was with me for 3 years and i really love her so much..she left me for another man with no reason..when i called her she never picked up my calls and she don’t want to see me around her…so,when i told the man what happened.he helped me to do some readings,and after the readings he made me to realize that the other man has done some spells over my wife and that is the reason why she left me..he told me he will help me to cast a spell that bring her back.At first i was skeptical but i just gave it a try…In 2 days,she called me herself and came to me apologizing..I cant believe she can ever come back to me again thank you so much Dr Moon EMAIL: moonspelltemple@gmail.com

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  109. I have been in great bondage for almost 2 years suffering in the hands of a cheating husband,we were happy and leaving well until he meant his old time gilr friend and he started dating her outside our marriage before you knew it he stooped caring and taking care of his own family it was to the extent that now he was planning to get married to her and divorce me his own wife, i have cried and reported him to his family but he never listened to any one but to cut my story short i came in search for a real spell caster who could destroy their relationship and make him come back me and our 2 kids on my search i saw people making testimony on how their marriage where restored by Dr.Trust i pick his email and i narrated my story to him and he agreed to help me and after performing a spell on the third day they both had a quarrel and he beat his girlfriend up and he came home begging for i and my little kids to forgive him that his eyes are clear now that he will never do any thing that will hurt his family again and promise to be a caring father and never cheat again.I am so so happy that i did not loose him to the girl all appreciation goes to Dr.Trustfor you are a Great spell caster and to whom this may concern if you have a cheating husband or wife you can as well email him on (Ultimatespellcast@gmail.com) or you can call him +2348156885231.

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  110. i want to thank Prophet Iyayi for what he has done for me.i am happily married for 14year before my husband ran away with a younger woman called Lilian.i have to provide for my children which was not easy being a single mother because i love my husband and i tried all my best to get him back but all failed.i have to tell my best friend about my situation who directed me to this Prophet,for spell caster from the acient city of Benin who solved my problem for me within 7hrs.If you have any problems about your relationship i advise you to contact him.he is the only solution to your problems.A Great Prophet,you can as well contact him on his Email( prophetiyayilovespell@gmail.com)

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  111. friends.My name is Dennis i based in Chicago.I never believed in all spell-casting.I Have been scammed by 5different people.I lost hope in them.My ex left me.I was devastated.I lost my job.My best friend saw my plight.Then he introduced me to dr favor.I Was told his work is free.I Never believed until i got in touch with him.He did a spell for me.My ex came back in less than 72hrs.I was recalled at my place of work.I Was even promoted immediately.I couldn't believe there is a real prophet out there who does free spells.I only paid in appreciation after the spell had worked.He doesn't charge anybody until the spell has worked.You shouldn't be deceived by all these scammers that are here for money.dr favor doesn't charge.You can only choose to pay after the spell has worked.Try him and see what i am saying.These are the few things he does
    *HE BRING BACK LOST LOVERS IN 24hrs.
    *REMOTE CONTROL OVER LOVERS.
    *ALL TYPES OF SPELL CASTING & VOODOO WORKER.
    * IS YOUR HEALER TAKING LONG TO SOLVE YOUR PROBLEMS? THIS IS YOUR CHANCE TO BE HELPED QUICKLY.
    *GET RIDE OF ANY WITCHCRAFT, BAD LUCK & CURSES.
    * EXPERT IN DISTANCE HEALING
    *COURT CASES EVEN IF ONE IS CONVICTED[IF THERE'S A CHANCE OF APPEALING]
    *IS SOME BODY JEALOUS WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
    *UNFINISHED JOBS BY OTHER DOCTORS-IF NOT SATISFIED-COME TO ME.
    *ARE YOU BEING FORCED INTO A DIVORCE?
    *HE PREVENT BAD LUCK AND JEALOUSY.
    *TO WIN HORSES AND GAMBLING.



    *HE CAN STOP SOME ONE INTERFERING WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
    * DO YOU WANT TO HAVE CHILDREN OF YOUR CHOICE
    *DO YOU WANT QUICK MARRIAGE PROPOSAL?
    *HE CAN CLEAN PEOPLE HOUSES,BUSINESSES AND PROPERTIES FROM BAD LUCK.
    *DO YOU NEED EXCESSIVE SEXUAL POWER AND STRONG ERECTIONS.
    You can get in touch with him through ( favorspiritualspellcasttemple@gmail.com)

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  112. >Hello my name is frank Marian from USA I never
    >believe in love spells until I experience Dr.
    > DR Ofemo temple, and after he cast a love spell for me
    >my Ex called me to apologize for the pain that she has
    >caused me and till today we are living a happy family,
    >if you need a right place to solve your problems
    >contact DR Ofemospelltemple@gmail.com is the right choice. he is a
    >great man that have been casting spells with years of
    >experience, he cast spells for different purposes like:

    >(1)If you want your ex back.
    >(2) if you always have bad dreams.
    >(3)You want to be promoted in your office.
    >(4)You want women/ men to run after you.
    >(5)If you want a child.
    >(6)[You want to be rich.
    >(7)You want to tie your husband/wife to be yours
    >forever.
    >(8)If you need financial assistance.
    >(9)Herbal care
    >
    >Contact him today on: drofemospelltemple@gmail.com













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  113. I just want to say thank you, thank you, thank you!!! Harry and I have worked things out, and we are moving in together in May. I am so happy and excited, and so grateful to you. The funny thing is, I've also changed my way of thinking and doing as well.... I understand that the way he loves is different from mine, and thats ok. I havent been this happy or content in a very long time, and it shines on my face so much everyone notices. I will definitely enlist your services again, and recommend you to anyone that will listen. Thank you very much, you have done something wonderful for me, and I will never forget it. From my heart, Ancientfathersandmothers@gmail.com you are the best of all.

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  114. This is my testimony about the good work of a man who helped me..My name is Micheal Trisha, and I base in Canada.My life is back!!! After 2 years of marriage, my husband left me and left me with our three kids. I felt like my life was about to end, and was falling apart. Thanks to a spell caster called Dr aluda who i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet, I was searching for a good spell caster that can solve my problems. I came across series of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified
    that he restores womb, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and so on. There was one particular testimony I saw, it was about a woman called grace,she testified about how Dr aluda brought back her Ex lover in less than 72 hours and at the end of her testimony she gave Dr aluda e-mail address. After reading all these,I decided to give Dr aluda a try. I contacted him with his via email address and explained my problem to him. In just 3 days, my husband came back to me. We solved our issues, and we are even happier than before. Dr aluda is really a talented and gifted man and i will not to stop publishing him because he is a wonderful Dr...If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster to solve that problem for you. Try Dr aluda today, he might be the answer to your problem. Here's his contact: aludaspelltemple@gmail.com Thank you once again Dr aluda. Contact him for the following:
    (1)If you want your ex back.
    (2) if you always have bad dreams.
    (3)You want to be promoted in your office.
    (4)You want women/men to run after you.
    (5)If you want a child.
    (6)[You want to be rich.
    (7)You want to tie your husband/wife to be yours forever.
    (8)If you need financial assistance.
    (9)If you want to stop your Divorce
    10)Help bringing people out of prison
    (11)Marriage Spells
    (12)Miracle Spells
    (13)Beauty Spells
    (14)PROPHECY CHARM
    (15)Attraction Spells
    (16)Evil Eye Spells
    (17)Kissing Spell
    (18)Remove Sickness Spells
    (19)ELECTION WINNING SPELLS
    (20)SUCCESS IN EXAMS SPELLS
    (21) Charm to get who to love you.
    Contact him today on: aludaspelltemple@gmail.com

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  115. I am lucy, i never factotum believes in spells and magic until I experienced one sometimes ago and it really worked for me . I was in love . With this guy and I have is in love with me for 4 years and We Were Ready to get married until this lady strolled along and took my man away from me . i was really devastated so i contact a friend of mine who now introduces me to drokojie , and I said That he is going to help me cast a spell That We bring back my man Within three day , and I did it I have is the best spell cast in the word Also I solve problems like eg,
    ( 1) If you want your ex back
    ( 2) if you always have bad dreams .
    ( 3) You want to be Promoted in your office .
    ( 4) You want women / men to run after you .
    (5) If you want a child .
    (6 ) You want to be rich .
    ( 7) You want to tie your husband / wife to be
    yours forever .
    ( 8) If you need financial assistance .
    ( 9) Herbal care
    (10 ) If you can not be able to Satisfy your wife
    sex desire due or
    err low action.
    (11 ) if your menstruation refuse to come
    out the day it
    suppose or over flows.
    ( 12) your work if you refuse to pay , people
    owe owing you? .
    ( 13) to solve land issue and get it back .
    ( 14) Did your family Denny you of your
    right ?
    (15 ) Let my people obey my words and do
    wish
    (16 ) Do you have a low sperm count ?
    ( 17) Case solve E.T.C. his email drokojiehealinghome@gmail.com , Friends i must tell you the truth dr egbo is a very reliable spell caster .

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  116. I am tia from USA, I am so happy letting the world know this perfect man called Dr.Zack balo. My lover left me for another girl but through the help of Dr.zack balo i was able to get my lover back within 3 days later. If there is anybody who lost his lover you can contact Dr.zack balo on this contact details,+2348078927387 or email him wiseindividualspell@gmail.com for help to get your lover back within 3 days

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  117. I am Dorcas Foxx i want to give thanks and i will always give thanks to Dr aluda who brought back my divorce husband that has left me for 2 yearS ,i have said about this last week but i promised to always tell people about this every weekend so that those that did not read about it last week will read about it this week,i have been looking for how to get pregnant and how to get my divorce husband back to my life because i love him with the whole of my heart,i could not replace him with any body,one day i was watching my television when i saw a lady giving thanks to Dr aluda and telling the world how he helped her i was so shocked i could not believe it because i never taught that there are powers that can bring back lost marriage,then that was how i decided to contact him too because i do really need my divorce husband back,when i contacted him i told him everything and he told me not to worry that my divorce husband,that he will surely be back to me, within 48hours at first i could not believe because i was thinking how could somebody that has gone for 2 years come back within 48 hours,so then i decided to watch and see,unbelievable within the next 48hours i got a call from unknown number so i pick the call the next thing i could hear was my husbands voice he was pleading and begging me on the phone that i should forgive him that i should forget all that have happened that he did not know what came over him,he promised not to leave for any reason,that he was really sorry for what he did,i was so surprised because i never believed that this could happen,so that was how i accepted his apology and the next morning he came back home to meet me and still pleading for me to forgive him i told him that everything is okay that i have forgiven him,that was how we started again ,i promised to say this testimony in radio station,commenting this testimony that now am pregnant,but still okay before this month runs out i promise to say this in radio station and i will sir, thank you very much.World please am begging you people to try and help me thank this man for me,or if you need his help here is his email address aludaspelltemple@gmail.com

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  118. After being in relationship with Wilson for seven years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that don't believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I meant a spell caster called EZE MALAKA and I email him, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email: extremewhitelovespell@yahoo. com you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT YOU SIR HIS WEBSITE ADDRESS is http://extremewhitelovespell.webs.com CONTACT HIM NOW FOR SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEMS.

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  119. I am Mrs ANDERSON ANN from USA, i want to share a testimony of my life to every one. i was married to my husband Barry Morgan, i love him so much we have been married for 5 years now with two kids. when he went for a vacation to France he meant a lady called Clara who en charm him with his beauty, he told me that he is no longer interested in the marriage any more. i was so confuse and seeking for help, i don't know what to do until I met my friend Miss Rose and told her about my problem. she told me not to worry about it that she had a similar problem before and introduce me to a man called Dr Iyayi. who cast a spell on her ex and bring him back to her after 3days. Miss Rose ask me to contact Dr Iyayi. I contacted him to help me bring back my husband and he ask me not to worry about it that the gods of his fore-fathers will fight for me. He told me by three days he will re-unite me and my husband together. After three day my husband called and told me he is coming back to sought out things with me, I was surprise when I saw him and he started crying for forgiveness and that he never knew what came upon him that he will never leave me again or the kids.it was the spell that was casted on him that was working on him. Right now I am the happiest woman on earth for what this great spell caster did for me and my husband, you can contact Dr.Iyayi on any problem in this world, he is very nice, here is his contact driyayilovespellhome@gmail.com. or contact him through his website address: http://driyayilovespellhome.webs.com You can also contact him through his mobile: +2347032617285. He is the best spell caster.

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  120. When my spouse left me, I deepened my relationship with Dr.kizzekpe and was doing all the preparation he ask me to do for the marriage restoration. I then realized that I was the prodigal, as I had left my first husband and had married another. I was given the opportunity by Dr.kizzekpe to be obedient. He took the obstacles out of the way. On last Sunday my loving husband proposed to me and on May 15, I was remarried to my true covenant spouse. Thank you so much Dr.kizzekpe for all you do to help restore all of us prodigals to the happiness this is email address:kizzekpespells@outlook.com

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  121. My Name is Rose.I will love to share my testimony to all the people in the forum cos i never thought i will have my girlfriend back and she means so much to me..The girl i want to get marry to left me 4 weeks to our wedding for another man..,When i called her she never picked my calls,She deleted me on her facebook and she changed her facebook status from married to Single...when i went to her to her place of work she told her boss she never want to see me..I lost my job as a result of this cos i cant get myself anymore,my life was upside down and everything did not go smooth with my life...I tried all i could do to have her back to all did not work out until i met a Man when i Travel to Africa to execute some business have been developing some years back..I told him my problem and all have passed through in getting her back and how i lost my job...he told me he gonna help me...i don't believe that in the first place.but he swore he will help me out and he told me the reason why my girlfriend left me and also told me some hidden secrets.i was amazed when i heard that from him..he said he will cast a spell for me and i will see the results in the next couple of days..then i travel back to US the following day and i called him when i got home and he said he's busy casting those spells and he has bought all the materials needed for the spells,he said am gonna see positive results in the next 2 days that is Thursday...My girlfriend called me at exactly 12:35pm on Thursday and apologies for all she had done ..she said,she never knew what she's doing and her sudden behavior was not intentional and she promised not to do that again.it was like am dreaming when i heard that from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him my wife called and he said i haven't seen anything yet... he said i will also get my job back in 3 days time..and when its Sunday,they called me at my place of work that i should resume working on Monday and they gonna compensate me for the time limit have spent at home without working..My life is back into shape,i have my girlfriend back and we are happily married now with kids and i have my job back too.This man is really powerful..if we have up to 20 people like him in the world,the world would have been a better place..he has also helped many of my friends to solve many problems and they are all happy now..Am posting this to the forum for anybody that is interested in meeting the man for help.you can mail him to ancientpsyhicpower@gmail.com I cant give out his number cos he told me he don't want to be disturbed by many people across the world..he said his email is okay and he' will replied to any emails asap..hope he helped u out too..good luck:ancientpsyhicpower@gmail.com.ONCE AGAIN HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS: ancientpsyhicpower@gmail.com or his phone number +2347056024545 his website: ancientpsyhicpower.yolasite.com

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  122. My Name is frank..I never believed in Love Spells or Magics until I met this special spell caster when i went to Africa to Execute some business..He is really powerful..My wife divorce me with no reason for almost 4 years and i tried all i could to have her back cos i really love her so much but all my effort did not work out.. we met at our early age at the college and we both have feelings for each other and we got married happily for 5 years with no kid and she woke up one morning and she told me she’s going on a divorce..i thought it was a joke and when she came back from work she tender to me a divorce letter and she packed all her loads from my house..i ran mad and i tried all i could to have her back but all did not work out..i was lonely for almost 4 years…So when i told the spell caster what happened he said he will help me and he asked for her full name and her picture..i gave him that..At first i was skeptical but i gave it a try cos h ave tried so many spell casters and there is no solution…so when he finished with the readings,he got back to me that she’s with a man and that man is the reason why she left me…The spell caster said he will help me with a spell that will surely bring her back.but i never believe all this…he told me i will see a positive result within 3 days..3 days later,she called me herself and came to me apologizing and she told me she will come back to me..I cant believe this,it was like a dream cos i never believe this will work out after trying many spell casters and there is no solution..The spell caster is so powerful and after that he helped me with a pregnancy spell and my wife got pregnant a month later..we are now happy been together again and with lovely kid..This spell caster has really changed my life and i will forever thankful to him..he has helped many friends too with similar problem too and they are happy and thankful to him..This man is indeed the most powerful spell caster have ever experienced in life..Am Posting this to the Forum in case there is anyone who has similar problem and still looking for a way out..you can reach him here: ancientpsyhicpower@gmail.com...... CONTACT THIS POWERFUL SPELL CASTER TODAY VIA EMAIL:ancientpsyhicpower@gmail.com or his phone number +2347056024545 his website: ancientpsyhicpower.yolasite.com

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  123. My name is veronica from Canada I have to give this miraculous testimony, which is still unbelievable to me until now. I had a problem with my husband 5years ago, which lead to our break up. when he broke up with me, I was not my self again, i felt so empty inside me, my love and financial situation became worst, until a close friend of mine Lucy told me about a spell caster who helped her in the same problem, his name is Dr ADE. I email Dr Salami the spell caster and i told him my problem and, i did what he asked of me, to cut the long story short. Before i knew what was happening my husband called me and told me that he was coming back to me in just 2days and i was so happy to have him back to me. We have two kids together and we are happy. Thanks to Dr Salami for saving my relationship and for also saving others own too. continue your good work sir, If you are interested to contact him and testify this blessings like me, the great spell caster email address is (ancientpsyhicpower@gmail.com) or call his mobile number +2347056024545 you are the best among all the spell caster online I hope you see my testimonies and also pray for my family too.(ancientpsyhicpower@gmail.com) his website: ancientpsyhicpower.yolasite.com

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  124. i want to thank God for using DR Kala as my source of saviour after 2year of joblessness and my lover left me alone for 2 years,Have just been heart broken until i go in contact with DR Kala after i saw a ladies testimony on how she was helped by this same DR Kala,So i decided to get in contact with him and when i told him all my problems he laughed and said this is not a problem that everything will be ok in 3days time.Exactly the 3rd day my ex lover called me i was shocked and what surprise me the most was that a company i applied for over 4month called me and said i should resume work as soon as possible.Am so grateful to dr Kala if you wish in contacting him Kalalovespell@gmail.com or is cell number +2347051705853. He do cast the spell as following


    (1) If you want your ex back.
    (2) you need a divorce in your relationship
    (3) You want to be promoted in your office.
    (4) You want women & men to run after you.
    (5) If you want a child.
    (6) You want to be rich.
    (7) You want to tie your husband & wife to be yours forever.
    (8) If you need financial assistance.
    (9) Herbal care
    Contact him today on: Kalalovespell@gmail.com

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  125. Hello every one, I really want to share my testimony to the hearing of the general public on this site about how DR EHI helped me, December 2013, I saw a post on a particular site shearing testimony on how the great spell caster brought back her ex who name is Jerry so I just see it common and i said let me see what will happen because my husband left me and my three kids for another woman just like that, i and my husband was married for six years living happily before i new what was going on, he left me and go for another woman so when i saw the post, i contacted the spell caster on his email and he told me i should not worry that my husband will come back to me in three days after once he finish casting the reunite spell and to my greatest surprise, i now have my husband back to me again and i want to use this medium to let every body know that this is real and if you are out there having this same problem please contact the great spell caster on his email now because he can do the unexpected. his email is ehispellcentre@gmail.com or email him directly on his web site http://ehispellcentre.webs.com . I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK.

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  126. Getting my Ex back my name is Magrit. I've known Johnson for years, When we finally got together things were kind of weird so we broke up which was in February of 2011 In June of 2012 he and I recently got back together and we were together until march of 2014 which he told me he was not interested in relationship again During that time I changed completely, I wasn't eating,I was sleeping a lot, I wasn't talking to anybody, I cried a lot,I'm so depressed and stressed out that I'm scared I'm going to end up in the hospital because of all the stress and depression until one day i search online on getting love tips because I Love & care about him deeply and I just want us to be together as a couple again and I want us to last forever Google recommend me drukpenusabara@gmail.com that he will solve my relationship problem then Dr Ukpenu told me he will come back to me between 48hrs after he cast spell on him never believe it until my fiance called me on the phone and told me he want us to come back and live happy together forever , Am so happy now that DR Ukpenu help me bring Johnson back to me. Thanks so much( Dr Ukpenu) his email:drukpenusabara@gmail.com

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  127. My Name is DANIEL JOHN, From UNITED KINGDOM. I wish to share my testimonies with the general public about what this man called DR. IYAYI, He has just done for me , this man has just brought back my lost Ex WIFE to me with his great spell, I was married to this woman called KATE we were together for a long time and we loved our self’s but when I was unable to make her pregnant,she left me for 1 year and told me she can’t continue anymore then I was now looking for ways to get her back until a friend of mine told me about this man and gave me his contact email(driyayilovespellhome@gmail.com) then you won't believe this when I contacted this man on my problems he prepared this spell cast and bring my lost wife back, and after a month I slept with her and she went for a test and the result stated she is pregnant am happy today am a father of a baby girl, thank you once again the great DR. IYAYI for what you have done for me, if you are out there passing through any of this problems listed below:

    1) If you want your ex back.
    (2) if you always have bad dreams.
    (3) You want to be promoted in your office.
    (4) You want women/men to run after you.
    (5) If you want a child.
    (6) You want to be rich.
    (7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be
    yours forever.
    (8) If you need financial assistance.
    (9) Herbal care

    Email...driyayilovespellhome@gmail.com. or contact him through his website address: http://driyayilovespellhome.webs.com
    OR YOU CAN ALSO CONTACT HIM THROUGH HIS MOBILE: +2347032617285




    My Name is DANIEL JOHN, From UNITED KINGDOM. I wish to share my testimonies with the general public about what this man called DR. IYAYI, He has just done for me , this man has just brought back my lost Ex WIFE to me with his great spell, I was married to this woman called KATE we were together for a long time and we loved our self’s but when I was unable to make her pregnant,she left me for 1 year and told me she can’t continue anymore then I was now looking for ways to get her back until a friend of mine told me about this man and gave me his contact email(driyayilovespellhome@gmail.com) then you won't believe this when I contacted this man on my problems he prepared this spell cast and bring my lost wife back, and after a month I slept with her and she went for a test and the result stated she is pregnant am happy today am a father of a baby girl, thank you once again the great DR. IYAYI for what you have done for me, if you are out there passing through any of this problems listed below:

    1) If you want your ex back.
    (2) if you always have bad dreams.
    (3) You want to be promoted in your office.
    (4) You want women/men to run after you.
    (5) If you want a child.
    (6) You want to be rich.
    (7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be
    yours forever.
    (8) If you need financial assistance.
    (9) Herbal care

    Email...driyayilovespellhome@gmail.com. or contact him through his website address: http://driyayilovespellhome.webs.com
    OR YOU CAN ALSO CONTACT HIM THROUGH HIS MOBILE: +2347032617285

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  128. My life is back!!! After 8 years of marriage, my husband left me and left me with our three kids. I felt like my life was about to end, and was falling apart. I contacted Dr. OKORO LOVE SPELL and after I explained my problem, In just 3 days my husband came back to us and show me and my kids much love and apologize for all the pain he have bring to the family. We solved our issues, and we are even happier more than ever before Dr. OKORO you are the best spell caster. I really appreciate the love spell you cast for me to get the man back to my life i will keep sharing more testimonies to people about your good work. Thank you once again Dr. OKORO. You can also contact Dr. OKORO via email address: dr.okorospelltemple01@gmail.com in case you are in any problem you can contact this man for help he is always there in his temple to help you solve your problem Contact Email is: dr.okorospelltemple01@gmail.com CONTACT HIM TODAY VIA THIS EMAIL ADDRESS: dr.okorospelltemple01@gmail.com AS HIS POWERS ARE SO STRONG AND VERY EFFECTIVE AND HAS NO BAD EFFECT INSTEAD IT HAVE A VERY GOOD RESULT AFTER CASTING THE SPELL.

    Dr. OKORO NUMBER: +2348053209149
    Contact Dr. OKORO Via email: dr.okorospelltemple01@gmail.com

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  129. Unimaginable and unbelievable. I am Mary Smith from the United States and i have a good news to share to the entire world. Do you need your ex husband or lover urgently? I wanna tell you that you need not to worry because i have a good news for those out there that are faced or similar to such situation because there is always a hope and a solution to all problem. There is a great spell caster called Great Owologbo who can really solve your problem. Getting my lover back is what i can't imagine but when I was losing Jackson, I needed help and somewhere to turn badly but my Aunty told me about this spell caster who also helped her on the internet. I thought it won't work but i just tried to give this man a chance and i ordered a LOVE SPELL. Two days later, my phone rang. Jackson was his old self again and wanted to come back to me! Not only come back, the spell caster opened him up to know how much I loved and needed him. This Spell Casting isn’t brainwashing, but he opened up his eyes to know how much we have to share together. I recommend anyone who is in my old situation to try him because he will help you and make things be the way it ought to be. If you have such problem or similar to this, please contact him on his email Greatowologbospelltemple@yahoo.com thank you Great Owologbo and may your gods reward you for your good deeds..

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  130. Unimaginable and unbelievable. I am Mary Smith from the United States and i have a good news to share to the entire world. Do you need your ex husband or lover urgently? I wanna tell you that you need not to worry because i have a good news for those out there that are faced or similar to such situation because there is always a hope and a solution to all problem. There is a great spell caster called Great Owologbo who can really solve your problem. Getting my lover back is what i can't imagine but when I was losing Jackson, I needed help and somewhere to turn badly but my Aunty told me about this spell caster who also helped her on the internet. I thought it won't work but i just tried to give this man a chance and i ordered a LOVE SPELL. Two days later, my phone rang. Jackson was his old self again and wanted to come back to me! Not only come back, the spell caster opened him up to know how much I loved and needed him. This Spell Casting isn’t brainwashing, but he opened up his eyes to know how much we have to share together. I recommend anyone who is in my old situation to try him because he will help you and make things be the way it ought to be. If you have such problem or similar to this, please contact him on his email Greatowologbospelltemple@yahoo.com thank you Great Owologbo and may your gods reward you for your good deeds..

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  131. My name is joy and I base in USA...“My life is back!!! After 1 years of Broken marriage, my husband left me with two kids . I felt like my life was about to end i almost committed suicide, i was emotionally down for a very long time. Thanks to a spell caster called Dr aluda which i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet, I was searching for a good spell caster that can solve my problems. I came across allot of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb,cure cancer,and other sickness, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and so on. i also come across one particular testimony,it was about a woman called Sonia,she testified about how he brought back her Ex lover in less than 7 days and reverse the effect of their little boys cancer, and at the end of her testimony she dropped Dr aluda e-mail address. After reading all these,I decided to give it a try. I contacted him via email and explained my problem to him. In just 3 days, my husband came back to me. We solved our issues, and we are even happier than before. Dr aluda is really a gifted man and i will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man... If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster to solve all your problems for you. Try Dr aluda anytime, he might be the answer to your problems. Here's his contact: aludaspelltemple@gmail.com

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  132. Unimaginable and unbelievable. I am Mary Smith from the United States and i have a good news to share to the entire world. Do you need your ex husband or lover urgently? I wanna tell you that you need not to worry because i have a good news for those out there that are faced or similar to such situation because there is always a hope and a solution to all problem. There is a great spell caster called Great Owologbo who can really solve your problem. Getting my lover back is what i can't imagine but when I was losing Jackson, I needed help and somewhere to turn badly but my Aunty told me about this spell caster who also helped her on the internet. I thought it won't work but i just tried to give this man a chance and i ordered a LOVE SPELL. Two days later, my phone rang. Jackson was his old self again and wanted to come back to me! Not only come back, the spell caster opened him up to know how much I loved and needed him. This Spell Casting isn’t brainwashing, but he opened up his eyes to know how much we have to share together. I recommend anyone who is in my old situation to try him because he will help you and make things be the way it ought to be. If you have such problem or similar to this, please contact him on his email Greatowologbospelltemple@yahoo.com thank you Great Owologbo and may your gods reward you for your good deeds..

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  133. I and my husband have been having a lot of problem living together, he will always not make me happy because he have fallen in love with another lady outside our relationship, i tried my best to make sure that my husband leave this woman but the more i talk to him the more he makes me feel sad, so my marriage is now leading to divorce because he no longer gives me attention. so with all this pain and agony, i decided to contact this spell caster to see if things can work out between me and my husband again. the spell caster told me what i will do to get my husband back, so he told me that he was going to make all things normal back. he did the spell on my husband and after 2 days my husband changed completely he even apologize with the way he treated me that he was not him self, i really thank this priest his name is Dr ogala he have bring back my husband back to me i want you all to contact him who are having any problem related to marriage issue and relationship problem he will solve it for you. his email Holyspellcast@gmail.com

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